30 Days Love Your Wife {Better} Challenge? (A shout out to MeN)

[GoldenEagle]

*October 9th (Sunday)
Day 9. Plan a surprise date with your wife for later on this month. Doesn’t have to be expensive. If money is tight free dates or inexpensive dates are good too. If you want to go even further plan a romantic getaway this year or early next year.

Romans 12:10 
Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.

Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to continue to help you love your wife better. Pray for God to help give you His eyes to see her how He sees her.

Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led. #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge

[GoldenEagle]

*October 10th (Monday)
Day 10. Turn off all electronics and spend at least 30 minutes to one hour talking on the couch/bed. Try to really listen to your spouse and ask engaging questions.
 
Some examples:
What are your 3 favorite foods, with the most favorite first?
What are your 3 favorite recreations, with the most favorite first?
What are your 3 favorite hobbies, with the most favorite first?
What is your favorite song?
What is your favorite color? Why?
How are you feeling today?
What is your favorite books(s) of the Bible? Why?
What is your favorite verse(s) of the Bible?  Why?
What makes you the most fulfilled or happiest as a woman? What makes you saddest as a woman?
What makes you the most fulfilled or happiest as a wife? What makes you saddest as a wife?
What makes you the most fulfilled or happiest as a mother? What makes you saddest as a mother?
What gifts do you like?
What do you fear the most?
What during the week do you look forward to the most?
At what times do you need assurance of my love the most?
What concerns do you have that I do not seem interested in?
What things do I do that irritate you?
What things can I do that show my appreciation of you?
What caresses do you enjoy the most? What caresses do you enjoy the least?
What are some goals for the future?
 
Ephesians 5:25
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
 
Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to continue to help you love your wife better. Pray for God to help give you His eyes to see her how He sees her.
 
Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led.

[GoldenEagle]

*October 11th (Tuesday)
Day 11. Watch your spouse’s favorite movie, sport, or TV show today without interrupting. No mocking or negative comments. Note: This is HER favorite not yours.
 
Ecclesiastes 9:9
9 Enjoy life with the wife whom you love, all the days of your vain life that he has given you under the sun, because that is your portion in life and in your toil at which you toil under the sun.

Proverbs 5:18
18 Let your fountain be blessed,
    and rejoice in the wife of your youth
 
Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to help you enjoy the presence of your spouse. Pray that you will be sensitive to her needs and wants.
 
Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led. #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge

[RustyAngeL]

It's still all about each giving 100% and listening to the Holy Spirit.

[angels4u]

6 minutes ago, RustyAngeL said:

It's still all about each giving 100% and listening to the Holy Spirit.

Amen Rusty , maybe each should give 150%?  

 

[GoldenEagle]

*October 12th (Wednesday)
Day 12. Today focus on being patient with your spouse.

Galatians 5:22-23
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control; against such things there is no law....

1 Thessalonians 5:14
And we urge you, brothers, admonish the idle, encourage the fainthearted, help the weak, be patient with them all.

Romans 12:21
Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good.

Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to help you be patient with your spouse. Pray that god will give you the fruits of the Holy Spirit.

Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led. #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge

[GoldenEagle]

*October 13th (Thursday)
Day 13. Three times today say: “I love you because ___________________ “ Describe something about her character, intellect, actions, physical beauty, or personhood in Christ.

Song of Solomon 6:10
10 “Who is this who looks down like the dawn,...
beautiful as the moon, bright as the sun,
awesome as an army with banners?”

Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to help you see the beauty of your wife inside and out.

Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led. #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge

 

*October 14th (Friday)
Day 14. Leave your spouse a note before work.

Song of Solomon 4:1-5
Behold, you are beautiful, my love,...
behold, you are beautiful!
Your eyes are doves
behind your veil.
Your hair is like a flock of goats
leaping down the slopes of Gilead.
2 Your teeth are like a flock of shorn ewes
that have come up from the washing,
all of which bear twins,
and not one among them has lost its young.
3 Your lips are like a scarlet thread,
and your mouth is lovely.
Your cheeks are like halves of a pomegranate
behind your veil.
4 Your neck is like the tower of David,
built in rows of stone;
on it hang a thousand shields,
all of them shields of warriors.
5 Your two breasts are like two fawns,
twins of a gazelle,
that graze among the lilies.

Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to help you see your wife as beautiful through the love of Christ and through the eyes of the husband in the Song of Solomon.

Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led. #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge

[GoldenEagle]

*October 15th (Saturday)
Day 15. Today focus on being kind to your spouse.

1 Corinthians 13:4-7
4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
 

Ephesians 4:31-32
Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice. Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.

Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to help you see your wife as beautiful through the love of Christ and through the eyes of the husband in the Song of Solomon.

Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led. #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge

 

*October 16th (Sunday)
Day 16. Thank your spouse today for 3 specific things: ____________, _____________, and ____________ . 

Proverbs 18:21
Death and life are in the power of the tongue, and those who love it will eat its fruits.

Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to help you to be thankful for your spouse. Pray for God to show you how to love her better.

Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led. #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge

 

 

*October 17th (Monday)
Day 17. Build your spouse up today by complimenting your spouse in front of your children, relatives, or friends. Feel free to compliment her more than once!

Ephesians 4:29
Let no corrupting talk come out of your mouths, but only such as is good for building up, as fits the occasion, that it may give grace to those who hear.

Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led.

Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to help you help you see the positive aspects of your wife and to be better at complimenting your wife. #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge

[GoldenEagle]

Day 18. Ask your spouse’s opinion on a subject that interests him or her. Turn off all electronics, remove all distractions, sit on the couch/bed, and engage her for 30 minutes to an hour.

 

John 1:12
But to all who did receive him, who believed in his name, he gave the right to become children of God.

 

Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led. 

 

Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to help you help you see your wife as a beautiful child of God. Pray for God to help you be more sensitive to your wife’s needs. #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge

 

 

Day 19. Bring your spouse some flowers, a token gift, or their favorite dessert. 

 

James 1:17 
Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, coming down from the Father of lights with whom there is no variation or shadow due to change.

 

Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led. 

 

Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to help you help you see your wife as a beautiful gift from God. Pray for God to help you be more thankful. #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge

 

 

Day 20. Spend some extra time praying together. It can be an extra 5-10 minutes. Or it could be more if you are so led. 

 

Philippians 4:6
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.

 

Matthew 6:6
But when you pray, go into your room and shut the door and pray to your Father who is in secret. And your Father who sees in secret will reward you.

 

Luke 6:27-28
But I say to you who hear, Love your enemies, do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.

 

Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led. 

 

Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to help you help you see your wife as a beautiful gift from God. Pray for God to help you be more thankful. #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge

 

 

Day 21. Choose one: Do the dishes, do the laundry, gather the trash, or do some other chore for your spouse today without complaining and without them asking. See a need and fill a need. 

 

Galatians 6:2 
Bear one another's burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.

 

Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led. 

 

Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to help you ease your wife’s burdens. Pray for God to give you strength to follow Christ in leading your home.  #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge

[GoldenEagle]

Day 22. Spend 10-30 minutes reading the Bible together. Or it could be more if you are so led.

 

2 Peter 3:18 
But grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To him be the glory both now and to the day of eternity. Amen.

 

2 Timothy 3:16-17 
All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness, that the man of God may be competent, equipped for every good work.

 

Suggested Prayer: Pray for God to show you areas you need to work as a couple. Pray for God to help you lead your family spiritually. 

 

Spend some time in prayer with your wife tonight. It can be as short as a few minutes or as long as you feel led. #LoveYourWifeBetterChallenge