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Marriage Principle #1: Love Is a Choice, Not Just a Feeling


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Relevant to a discussion in the inner court about "feelings".

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Source: http://www.pursuegod.org/love-is-a-choice-not-just-a-feeling/

The first principle for healthy marriages redefines love in a culture that emphasizes feelings. According to the Bible, marital love is a choice.

Marital love is NOT based on feelings

The problem with feelings is that they’re always changing. People are fickle. Feelings can be dangerous and can lead us astray, especially when it comes to relationships. A healthy marriage is not built on feelings or emotions.

Marital love is based on a promise

Marital love in the Bible is based on a promise. When a man and woman come together in marriage, they’re making a covenant – a commitment. It’s not a contract, where failure to keep up your end of the bargain can easily result in divorce. God wants us to fight for our marriages, to stand for our spouse in thick and thin.

Proverbs 20:25 Don’t trap yourself by making a rash promise to God and only later counting the cost.

Marriage Principle #1: Love is a choice, not just a feeling

If you want a healthy marriage, it all starts with how you define love. Here’s the first principle of a healthy marriage: Love is a choice, not just a feeling. you have to get love right. Feelings aren’t bad – but they come and go. The valiant part of marital love is the choosing part.

The ultimate analogy: Christ and the church

The greatest demonstration of love in history came at the cross. When Jesus died on the cross, he was demonstrating sacrificial love. He didn’t feel like dying that painful death, but he did it for love. God had made a covenant long before, and he proved faithful. The Bible uses marriage as an analogy for this incredible act of love. Marriage is a picture of Jesus and the church.

Ephesians 5:25-27 For husbands, this means love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up his life for her to make her holy and clean, washed by the cleansing of God’s word. He did this to present her to himself as a glorious church without a spot or wrinkle or any other blemish

 

Thoughts on this first point?

God bless,
GE

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