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Having gotten my emotions under control I feel I am ready to post again so here goes:     Do any of you when you meet a Christian that you don't know very well, ever feel like there are somethings about yourself you can't tell them; because you think they may not approve and criticize you for or even question your faith because of it?  For example they may ask you what you like to do and you say something like " I like to watch scary movies." Then they could be like,"oh  if your a Christian you shouldn't watch scary movies". Then you just feel really uncomfortable. Or maybe you like rock music and maybe they think liking rock music is something a Christian shouldn't do and they tell you so.  So you find yourself not feeling comfortable letting a Christian you don't know know much about you. It could be anything really. Your clothes, your music, what you read? Anyone else feel this way?

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25 minutes ago, LadyKay said:

Having gotten my emotions under control I feel I am ready to post again so here goes:     Do any of you when you meet a Christian that you don't know very well, ever feel like there are somethings about yourself you can't tell them; because you think they may not approve and criticize you for or even question your faith because of it?  For example they may ask you what you like to do and you say something like " I like to watch scary movies." Then they could be like,"oh  if your a Christian you shouldn't watch scary movies". Then you just feel really uncomfortable. Or maybe you like rock music and maybe they think liking rock music is something a Christian shouldn't do and they tell you so.  So you find yourself not feeling comfortable letting a Christian you don't know know much about you. It could be anything really. Your clothes, your music, what you read? Anyone else feel this way?

Hi Lady good to see you back :) What would make you think another Christian would want to criticize what you said? It sounds like you are trying to hide something. I have had many conversations with other Christians and non Christians. I have listened to what they have to say about various topics. I keep my mouth closed. I think that sometimes silence is golden. Now if they ask me my opinion I will give it to them. I am not shy about my opinons towards my Lord and God who I love with all my heart. I am very honest. I have always said exactly what I think. My family knows if they ask my opinion on something they will get a very honest answer. Sometimes they may be offended but it is honest. In the end it is between that person and God.

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Sure. But since anything is really between me and the Lord, their opinions dont matter. For folks I hardly know, I keep myself rather private.  

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Long ago members of my denomination were advised not to have TV sets in their homes. Those who had TV sets were labeled disobedients and looked down upon. It was funny when a member wanted to tell others something they'd seen on TV; they would always start saying something like: "yesterday I went to visit my grandmother and she's not a believer. Her TV set was on and I happened to see ... bla ... bla ... bla..."

 

 

 

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27 minutes ago, missmuffet said:

It sounds like you are trying to hide something.

That comment was not necessary.

LadyKay has a good question. So my answer would be that when you meet a Christian whom you do not know very well, first of all try to find common ground on Gospel truth and Bible truth.

True fellowship is founded on the Word of God. Personal preferences, tastes, habits, etc. can only really be shared with friends whom you know well, and who know you well.

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15 minutes ago, Ezra said:

That comment was not necessary.

LadyKay has a good question. So my answer would be that when you meet a Christian whom you do not know very well, first of all try to find common ground on Gospel truth and Bible truth.

True fellowship is founded on the Word of God. Personal preferences, tastes, habits, etc. can only really be shared with friends whom you know well, and who know you well.

I think it was necessary because that is what I observed. It was not meant to be offensive.

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I no longer care very much what other people think of what I like or dislike.  It used to make me angry when people became judgmental about such things.  Now I realize that this is their problem.  I don't want to cause someone else to stumble due to my preferences, but I probably won't spend any quality time with people who disapprove of me.  Let's face it.  People who are judgmental aren't very pleasant to be around.  So I just say something like Well, God loves you anyway, and change the subject or talk to someone else. 

 

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1 hour ago, Redemption79 said:

if people don't agree with you, who cares?

I don't believe we can adopt that attitude. Please note:

11 Wherefore comfort yourselves together, and edify one another, even as also ye do.

12 And we beseech you, brethren, to know them which labour among you, and are over you in the Lord, and admonish you;

13 And to esteem them very highly in love for their work's sake. And be at peace among yourselves.

14 Now we exhort you, brethren, warn them that are unruly, comfort the feebleminded, support the weak, be patient toward all men. (1 Thess 5:11-14).

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2 hours ago, Redemption79 said:

but picking up those two sports will help you gain self confidence to stand your ground with others

I don't have confidence issues. It was only a question.

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2 hours ago, missmuffet said:

I think it was necessary because that is what I observed. It was not meant to be offensive.

To answer your question. No I am not hiding anything. It is just that I have a few times in my life met other Christians and when they find out that I like this or that or whatever, I get a lecture on how I shouldn't be into this or that. And while I am not shy in telling others how I feel. I would just rather not have the conflict in the first place. ( look what happen here and I confessed that I read Harry Potter for example) I am fine with people asking me "well why are you into that." But most of the time they don't. they just tell me I am heading for the dark side. Maybe it is just me. I am a bit weird after all. :blink:

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