Texas47 Posted December 13, 2016 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 2 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 8 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 12 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/12/2016 Status: Offline Share Posted December 13, 2016 Hi, What do you do when you need a Christian mentor and have been praying on and off for one but with no success? I've been a follower of Christ since 13 years old. I lost my way for about 10 years and didn't go to church, drank alcohol and wasn't so nice at times but was still aware of God and prayed somewhat regularly. My father passed away in my early twenties and I continued down this bad path. A divorce brought me back to the Lord. For over 16 years now I've been back in church regularly, seeking other believers to fellowship with, studying the Bible, participating in Bible studies, tithing and generally doing my best to figure out what it is God wants me to do! He has certainly spoken to me at different times. Of that I am 100% sure. I've tried to serve in areas without success and have finally considered some of those doors closed. I'm still searching for exactly what God's purpose is for me while continuing to try to be obedient. I'm male and have missed that father figure on whom to go to for advice and counsel. In my mind it would be great to find an older male that is willing to mentor me, meet with me and give Godly counsel and advice. I know that the person might NOT be an older male or what I expect. I've prayed for this person on and off but no one has showed up. I'm trying to be open to anyone, whoever it may be. Has anyone experienced something like this or do you have any suggestions or advice? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ravindran Posted December 13, 2016 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 11 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 496 Content Per Day: 0.14 Reputation: 398 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/18/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted December 13, 2016 36 minutes ago, Texas47 said: Hi, What do you do when you need a Christian mentor and have been praying on and off for one but with no success? I've been a follower of Christ since 13 years old. I lost my way for about 10 years and didn't go to church, drank alcohol and wasn't so nice at times but was still aware of God and prayed somewhat regularly. My father passed away in my early twenties and I continued down this bad path. A divorce brought me back to the Lord. For over 16 years now I've been back in church regularly, seeking other believers to fellowship with, studying the Bible, participating in Bible studies, tithing and generally doing my best to figure out what it is God wants me to do! He has certainly spoken to me at different times. Of that I am 100% sure. I've tried to serve in areas without success and have finally considered some of those doors closed. I'm still searching for exactly what God's purpose is for me while continuing to try to be obedient. I'm male and have missed that father figure on whom to go to for advice and counsel. In my mind it would be great to find an older male that is willing to mentor me, meet with me and give Godly counsel and advice. I know that the person might NOT be an older male or what I expect. I've prayed for this person on and off but no one has showed up. I'm trying to be open to anyone, whoever it may be. Has anyone experienced something like this or do you have any suggestions or advice? Let Jesus be that Father. And seek for any other man to fill that shoes. You would end up with disappointment. While spiritual mentors are good, but even their advice and council should be tested against Word of God Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sing40King Posted December 14, 2016 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 3 Topic Count: 17 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 388 Content Per Day: 0.14 Reputation: 207 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/30/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/03/2003 Share Posted December 14, 2016 It sounds like you could also use a couselor to help you through the rough times. I'd talk to your pastor. There may be men in your church that do that. He would probably be willing to counsel you also to help bring back the peace you used to have with God. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted December 20, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,990 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,688 Content Per Day: 11.83 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted December 20, 2016 On 12/13/2016 at 1:04 PM, Texas47 said: Hi, What do you do when you need a Christian mentor and have been praying on and off for one but with no success? I've been a follower of Christ since 13 years old. I lost my way for about 10 years and didn't go to church, drank alcohol and wasn't so nice at times but was still aware of God and prayed somewhat regularly. My father passed away in my early twenties and I continued down this bad path. A divorce brought me back to the Lord. For over 16 years now I've been back in church regularly, seeking other believers to fellowship with, studying the Bible, participating in Bible studies, tithing and generally doing my best to figure out what it is God wants me to do! He has certainly spoken to me at different times. Of that I am 100% sure. I've tried to serve in areas without success and have finally considered some of those doors closed. I'm still searching for exactly what God's purpose is for me while continuing to try to be obedient. I'm male and have missed that father figure on whom to go to for advice and counsel. In my mind it would be great to find an older male that is willing to mentor me, meet with me and give Godly counsel and advice. I know that the person might NOT be an older male or what I expect. I've prayed for this person on and off but no one has showed up. I'm trying to be open to anyone, whoever it may be. Has anyone experienced something like this or do you have any suggestions or advice? God will bring that person to you in His timing. Make sure you are looking in the right places such as Church and Church setting. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ezra Posted December 20, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 16 Topic Count: 134 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 8,142 Content Per Day: 2.36 Reputation: 6,612 Days Won: 20 Joined: 11/02/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted December 20, 2016 On 12/13/2016 at 2:04 PM, Texas47 said: Has anyone experienced something like this or do you have any suggestions or advice? If you have not already approached the pastors and elders in your church, that is what you should do, and let them know exactly what you wish. One of them should become your mentor without any hesitation (if they are functioning as they should). That is the biblical pattern given in Scripture. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ezra Posted December 20, 2016 Group: Royal Member Followers: 16 Topic Count: 134 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 8,142 Content Per Day: 2.36 Reputation: 6,612 Days Won: 20 Joined: 11/02/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted December 20, 2016 1 hour ago, missmuffet said: God will bring that person to you in His timing. I think we sometimes misapply this. God's timing for discipling younger Christians is immediate -- NOW -- but it is really the responsibility of the pastors and elders to meet individually with church members and provide for mentoring without hesitation. When an individual attends for the first time, there should be an immediate follow up to see how the church can help that person to grow or be strengthened, or helped in any way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marilyn C Posted December 20, 2016 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 30 Topic Count: 266 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 13,182 Content Per Day: 3.49 Reputation: 8,483 Days Won: 12 Joined: 12/21/2013 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/06/1947 Share Posted December 20, 2016 (edited) On 14/12/2016 at 8:04 AM, Texas47 said: Hi, What do you do when you need a Christian mentor and have been praying on and off for one but with no success? I've been a follower of Christ since 13 years old. I lost my way for about 10 years and didn't go to church, drank alcohol and wasn't so nice at times but was still aware of God and prayed somewhat regularly. My father passed away in my early twenties and I continued down this bad path. A divorce brought me back to the Lord. For over 16 years now I've been back in church regularly, seeking other believers to fellowship with, studying the Bible, participating in Bible studies, tithing and generally doing my best to figure out what it is God wants me to do! He has certainly spoken to me at different times. Of that I am 100% sure. I've tried to serve in areas without success and have finally considered some of those doors closed. I'm still searching for exactly what God's purpose is for me while continuing to try to be obedient. I'm male and have missed that father figure on whom to go to for advice and counsel. In my mind it would be great to find an older male that is willing to mentor me, meet with me and give Godly counsel and advice. I know that the person might NOT be an older male or what I expect. I've prayed for this person on and off but no one has showed up. I'm trying to be open to anyone, whoever it may be. Has anyone experienced something like this or do you have any suggestions or advice? Hi Texas47, Pleased to meet you & hear your request. I`m doing my sums & it seems you are 39 years of age? Correct me if that is not how the numbers add up. Now concerning the mentoring, yes it would be great for you to have a father figure, one who guides & teaches you, someone you can share with in your journey. As this hasn`t happened, (& it is a sad fact that that is what is missing in the organised church) I suggest that YOU become that for another. I was in a similar situation & bit by bit the Lord lead me to mentor others, one at a time. For it is in relating to another, sharing, praying for them, guiding them etc that WE grow. It is most wonderful to be able to encourage another & listen to their journey, & seek the Holy Spirit`s counsel for your self & another. Or rather help them to hear the Holy Spirit themselves & confirm together. Also you may like to PM another man on Worthy & develop a friendship where trust is built & trials shared. That would give you the feed back from the Body of Christ that you know you need. `Snow` is a man of God, as are many others. All the best, Marilyn. BTW Just checked your profile & saw that you are on the road a bit. `Snow` is also & that may be something you both can relate on. Edited December 20, 2016 by Marilyn C Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
hmbld Posted December 21, 2016 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 4 Topic Count: 48 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,491 Content Per Day: 0.55 Reputation: 1,457 Days Won: 1 Joined: 10/23/2011 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/02/1971 Share Posted December 21, 2016 6 hours ago, Redemption79 said: i disagree you can only be mentor to others when you reached a certain level of spiritual maturity. how can a sick person ( we all have issues, so this is meant as an objective statement) help others to become well? otherwise you are going to hurt yourself and others in the process.. you need to heal first...... as for other men on this forum, you should to be realistic if you already received a single piece of advice from some of the other members, that is probably all you are going to get, reality is harsh, but don't stop trusting God. God is a God of relationships. Have you ever watched a 3-4 year old "mentor" a younger sibling or friend? Even if they only know one thing they want to share and teach that one thing! Equally cute is when they want to teach that one thing to someone older!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marilyn C Posted December 21, 2016 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 30 Topic Count: 266 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 13,182 Content Per Day: 3.49 Reputation: 8,483 Days Won: 12 Joined: 12/21/2013 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/06/1947 Share Posted December 21, 2016 11 hours ago, hmbld said: God is a God of relationships. Have you ever watched a 3-4 year old "mentor" a younger sibling or friend? Even if they only know one thing they want to share and teach that one thing! Equally cute is when they want to teach that one thing to someone older!!! Hi hmbld, That is so true. Loved the example. I don`t think counsellors, chaplains, pastors can be everybody`s mentors. They can give guidance, however what is needed is a mentor who is there in the everyday life, one that actually shares your life & load, not just a few tips, so to speak. I know you understand. Marilyn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marilyn C Posted December 22, 2016 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 30 Topic Count: 266 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 13,182 Content Per Day: 3.49 Reputation: 8,483 Days Won: 12 Joined: 12/21/2013 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/06/1947 Share Posted December 22, 2016 39 minutes ago, Redemption79 said: yes, you are so right! Hi Redemption79, Sorry you had that bad experience with that counsellor. However it does show that you had some maturity to be able to discern that her attitude was about her & not you. I personally think that the `meetings` focus has stunted a lot of growth in people, but it seems that the Holy Spirit is moving right over man`s barriers & people are hungry to receive help as well as give it. Torbein, (of the Last reformation video - well worth looking at on utube - out in the `streets & lanes) has realised that this generation really needs `mother & father figures` & is promoting this as the next stage after what God is doing out in the community. regards, Marilyn. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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