I am in serious need of advice on what to do in regards of my potential girlfriend. A year ago, I was turned away from God, and I had sex with my ex girlfriend in a relationship that had no real love, as it revolved around lust. Now in the present, I’ve found an amazing Christian girl who has been a huge catalyst for my life turning around and me becoming a follower of Jesus. We have developed strong feelings for each other, and even though we currently stand as close friends, we’ve mutually established our feelings and desires to eventually turn it into a relationship. I’m scared to death because I know that it’s only right to let her know about my past sexually. Even though I’ve decided that I now want to save myself for marriage, the fact that I’m no longer pure eats away at me every day and I don’t know what to do because I don’t want to lose her. I really hope she can look past my bad past and accept me for who I am today, because honestly, losing my virginity at 16 to a girl I didn’t even love is easily the biggest regret of my life. I really don’t know what to expect when I let her know about it. Please help me out and pray for me, any advice helps. God bless you all.
To answer this, i need to speak plainly....
Never even toy with the idea of dating someone who is not born again, if you are....
If you do, and they are nice, interesting, sexy, smell good, have nice pecs, pretty eyes, long legs, and are fun to be with........you'll fall in love quickly, which generally means you have fallen in LUST.
You can call it a "crush" if you like....
And once you do that regarding an unbeliever, the devil owns you.
Now listen to me. Im going to give you a truth that can save your life...
When the Devil has you marked for destruction, He will send someone into your life.
That is 100% of the time.
He'll tempt you all the time, but when he is aiming for your total destruction.....your life, your witness, your future......he will send a person to you..
Often its the opposite sex.
Paul says to run from any chance you might fornicate. Not to resist it, not to debate it, not to pray about it, but to RUN FROM IT>......"flee".
Paul understands your body and your urges. = Heed him.
And dating is nearly the same thing, trying to happen..
Dating requires some self control, usually more then you have....
Enter at your own risk, if all your dating is just "you 2 all alone, most of the time".
Hi, I'm Rycee. I'm 20 years old, from the UK. This year's been pretty rough and I've been wanting to go to church for months, but reluctant to join one since I relocate a lot, so I thought I'd try this out instead. Any career/marriage advice is appreciated, thanks 🙂
Some born again believers have the idea that to please God you are to "carry your cross" and "endure to the end"..
This is their idea of how to please God.
Let me assure you, Saint.... that is not how you please God. You do not please God by working out your salvation with fear and trembling. You do not please God by confessing all your sins. You do not please God by your behavior, tho you can displease Him by your lifestyle and your purpose in life.
See and understand that doing what is right, (personal Holiness)..... all of this is defined in the New Testament as your "reasonable service". Romans 12:1
This is sort like the idea of a professional Olympic athlete doing a serious workout every day. IT's the idea of "well of course, what else would i and should I be doing".
So, you are not "pleasing" God, by doing what you should be doing ..... You are just doing the work that you are supposed to be doing, given the situation.
This is "discipleship", and you are expected to do it. And it actually has nothing to do with pleasing God.
So, if doing what is expected of you, as a servant of the Most High is not what gives God pleasure, then what do you do to give Him Pleasure?
Do you want to?
Then here you go....
Well, its like anything else that you learn to do. You have to know, first, what to do, and then the rest follows....... if you are willing.
So, what is it that you are created for, that gives God Pleasure. ??? And so... once you know this<> then you can do it. And perhaps you are doing it, but there are many believers who don't know the answer, so how can they perform what Gives the Most High, pleasure, if they don't know how, or what to do?
Here are some scriptures that will help you to see. ..
Isaiah 43:21 : "this people have i formed FOR MYSELF, = they, you, the born again, all.....shall show forth my PRAISE".
John 4:23 : "true worshipers shall WORSHIP the Father in Spirit and in Truth"..
I Peter 2:9 : "But the BORN AGAIN are a chosen generation, a Royal Priesthood, that the SAVED should show forth their PRAISES to GOD who has has called you out of darkness and into His marvelous LIGHT".
Hebrews 13:15 : "let us offer the sacrifice of Worship & PRAISE = the FRUIT of our Lips"...as with such sacrifices GOD IS WELL = PLEASED.
Now, do you see that?
Let me give it to you again, crystal clear, so that you can see it and see it more clearly.
In this world of born again believers, you have types... And one type is Martha... And one type is Mary..
Do you remember Lazarus and his sisters? Do you remember when Jesus Wept ? Do you remember what he told Martha? ????? He told her " you are too busy doing nothing that pleases me". "you are working, working, busy, busy, busy, striving, self effort, and all THIS its not to me pleasure you are giving".. But MARY........See her? She was giving the Master "pleasure". She wasn't working. SHE was in awe of being with Him, and in a complete state of worshipful praise sitting at Jesus's FEET.
Martha is the Legalist. She is the one who is trying to work her way into the presence of Jesus and is failing to get there. While Mary is in awe of the Grace of God's Son, who IS Grace, and she just wants to LOVE HIM WITH HER PRAISE and worship Him in His presence.
= Answer.) This is how you Give God pleasure. This is how you do it the way HE wants you to do it.
So, are you a Mary? or are you a Martha?
The specific type you are determines if you are giving your Father and your Savior , pleasure............or not.
I would like to request prayer for a righteous resolution to a pending divorce and yes children are involved.
We ask for healing of confusion, hurt feelings, misunderstandings, and for obedience to the Scriptures so that the marriage can remain intact and flourish for Gods glory.
We wish to prevent the divorce and any custody issues. Help me to be the best husband to my wife and a great father to our children.