The appearance of evil.

[LadyKay]

8 minutes ago, missmuffet said:

I do not wear perfume because it usually gives me a headache. Interesting container

Yeah that is my issue as well. I like the bath  sprays though. They have a light sent so it does not over power me.  I never was much of a girly girl with make up and perfume. 

[missmuffet]

Codes of Conduct

Many Christian companies have codes of conduct that are safeguards against the temptations of emotional or physical affairs with coworkers. Here are some examples: 

1. People of the opposite sex should not ride in a car together without a third party present.

2. Don’t make personal (non-work related) phone calls to a coworker of the opposite sex.

3. Don’t have lunch with the same person every day. Move around the lunchroom or break-room and if you go out to a restaurant, go in a group.

4. Make sure that your e-mails and other correspondence are not suggestive, inappropriate, or flirtatious.

5. Talk about your spouse in positive terms, making it clear that you’re married and intend to stay that way.

6. Be careful not to make any lingering eye contact. (Also know as “bedroom eyes.”)

7. The only appropriate touch between business associates of the opposite sex is a handshake.

Business Travel

And here are a few guarding hedges to plant around your business travel:

1. If your job requires traveling with another employee of the opposite sex, do not get adjoining hotel rooms. If possible, request a room on a different floor.

2. If you have to meet with that person, get together in the coffee shop or the lobby. Not your room.

3. Call your spouse every night at a designated time and give him or her full permission to call your cell phone — anytime.

4. Block out all adult TV channels. Most hotels give this option on the remote control. But if they don’t, call the front desk and ask them to disable those channels.  If this is a big temptation for you, don’t even turn on the TV.

Discuss these lists with your spouse and add any other things you feel are necessary. Then, give your mate permission to correct you if you go out-of-bounds. Also, know that the best defense against an office affair is a healthy marriage. Be aware of other ways your workplace or career could be a stumbling point for the general health of your marriage and then resolve to address those potential areas of weakness.

According to an Orange County Register article titled “Workplace a Hazard to Marriage”, working with people of the opposite sex can be hazardous to your marriage.  If you, as a woman, worked with all women, your chances for a divorce would be much lower than if you worked with mostly men. If, however, you’re a married woman and you work with mostly single or newly divorced females, your divorce risk is much higher than if your coworkers were married.

If you’re in a workplace that’s a landmine of temptation or if many of your coworkers are swingin’ singles, be on guard.

Set Specific Boundaries

Many years ago, my husband worked for a company that was rife with temptations. The owner hired receptionists and secretaries who were usually beautiful, young, and single; consequently, it was not a healthy environment for married men. In addition, some of Ron’s male coworkers ate lunch at a “gentlemen’s club”—a fancy term for a strip club.

They often asked Ron to go with them, and even though he was tempted, he never went. They’d try to entice him by saying, “We won’t tell your wife. What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her.” He would politely decline and say, “No thanks, I have a deal with my wife. I don’t go to female strip clubs and she doesn’t go to male strip clubs. They’re dangerous places.” His co-workers all knew that Ron was a Christian, and if he’d gone, they may have discounted his faith and labeled him as a hypocrite. I know that several men admired Ron’s commitment to me, because they privately asked him for advice about their marriages.

Your relationship could be an excellent example to other married coworkers if you stand strong. Talk to your spouse about your weak spots and set specific ways to guard against physical and emotional “land mines” that could destroy your marriage.  Be bold and fearless when you’re defending your marriage at work. Resist and flee temptation before it overtakes you.

1 Cor. 10:13 - No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

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http://www1.cbn.com/family/guard-against-workplace-affairs

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Running Gator]

Just now, Davida said:

It is completely a side non- issue. 

You are the one that brought it up

[LadyKay]

Just now, missmuffet said:

Codes of Conduct

Many Christian companies have codes of conduct that are safeguards against the temptations of emotional or physical affairs with coworkers. Here are some examples: 

1. People of the opposite sex should not ride in a car together without a third party present.

2. Don’t make personal (non-work related) phone calls to a coworker of the opposite sex.

3. Don’t have lunch with the same person every day. Move around the lunchroom or break-room and if you go out to a restaurant, go in a group.

4. Make sure that your e-mails and other correspondence are not suggestive, inappropriate, or flirtatious.

5. Talk about your spouse in positive terms, making it clear that you’re married and intend to stay that way.

6. Be careful not to make any lingering eye contact. (Also know as “bedroom eyes.”)

7. The only appropriate touch between business associates of the opposite sex is a handshake.

Business Travel

And here are a few guarding hedges to plant around your business travel:

1. If your job requires traveling with another employee of the opposite sex, do not get adjoining hotel rooms. If possible, request a room on a different floor.

2. If you have to meet with that person, get together in the coffee shop or the lobby. Not your room.

3. Call your spouse every night at a designated time and give him or her full permission to call your cell phone — anytime.

4. Block out all adult TV channels. Most hotels give this option on the remote control. But if they don’t, call the front desk and ask them to disable those channels.  If this is a big temptation for you, don’t even turn on the TV.

Discuss these lists with your spouse and add any other things you feel are necessary. Then, give your mate permission to correct you if you go out-of-bounds. Also, know that the best defense against an office affair is a healthy marriage. Be aware of other ways your workplace or career could be a stumbling point for the general health of your marriage and then resolve to address those potential areas of weakness.

According to an Orange County Register article titled “Workplace a Hazard to Marriage”, working with people of the opposite sex can be hazardous to your marriage.  If you, as a woman, worked with all women, your chances for a divorce would be much lower than if you worked with mostly men. If, however, you’re a married woman and you work with mostly single or newly divorced females, your divorce risk is much higher than if your coworkers were married.

If you’re in a workplace that’s a landmine of temptation or if many of your coworkers are swingin’ singles, be on guard.

Set Specific Boundaries

Many years ago, my husband worked for a company that was rife with temptations. The owner hired receptionists and secretaries who were usually beautiful, young, and single; consequently, it was not a healthy environment for married men. In addition, some of Ron’s male coworkers ate lunch at a “gentlemen’s club”—a fancy term for a strip club.

They often asked Ron to go with them, and even though he was tempted, he never went. They’d try to entice him by saying, “We won’t tell your wife. What she doesn’t know won’t hurt her.” He would politely decline and say, “No thanks, I have a deal with my wife. I don’t go to female strip clubs and she doesn’t go to male strip clubs. They’re dangerous places.” His co-workers all knew that Ron was a Christian, and if he’d gone, they may have discounted his faith and labeled him as a hypocrite. I know that several men admired Ron’s commitment to me, because they privately asked him for advice about their marriages.

Your relationship could be an excellent example to other married coworkers if you stand strong. Talk to your spouse about your weak spots and set specific ways to guard against physical and emotional “land mines” that could destroy your marriage.  Be bold and fearless when you’re defending your marriage at work. Resist and flee temptation before it overtakes you.

1 Cor. 10:13 - No temptation has overtaken you except such as is common to man; but God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will also make the way of escape, that you may be able to bear it.

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Adapted from Avoiding the Greener Grass Syndrome by Nancy C. Anderson.

 

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This is all well and good but I would feel like the company is trying to parent me.  But then it would depend on what the job was and who I was working for. If it was say a well know Pastor then I can see how they would put in such rules to avoid stories being spread that could destroy the work they are trying to do or what they have built.  But I would have issue if say it was an ice cream factory that tried to place these rules upon me. So much depends on the reason behind it all. 

[missmuffet]

2 minutes ago, LadyKay said:

This is all well and good but I would feel like the company is trying to parent me.  But then it would depend on what the job was and who I was working for. If it was say a well know Pastor then I can see how they would put in such rules to avoid stories being spread that could destroy the work they are trying to do or what they have built.  But I would have issue if say it was an ice cream factory that tried to place these rules upon me. So much depends on the reason behind it all. 

Well, not all companies are Christian companies and do not have those great Christian work ethics and boundaries when working with the opposite sex. A Christian has to put up their own ethics and boundaries.

[kwikphilly]

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Kwik, If a man who is married is having dinner at a restaurant  with a woman who is not his wife, and chooses to have a third party present at the meal to avoid any appearance of an affair, is he sexist (regardless what kind of restaurant it is) Is he demeaning the other woman?   I ask because that is partly what is being asserted by at least one other poster. What do you think?                                              Shiloh

Blessings Brother     Absolutely not,I think he is a wise man and it sounds like something my husband would do out of respect for me,I would think any decent woman(the one who is not his wife) would appreciate the gesture,imo

[LadyKay]

I would like to add that hardly ever get to go out to a restaurant. I end up staying at home and cooking. 

[Kindle]

16 minutes ago, LadyKay said:

I would like to add that hardly ever get to go out to a restaurant. I end up staying at home and cooking. 

Lol

[Running Gator]

53 minutes ago, missmuffet said:

Codes of Conduct

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I am sorry, but that is just ridiculous.  That is the sort of rules list you need for a high school field trip to Disney World.  If adults cannot figure that stuff out on their own without someone needing to tell them to do it, well there is just something wrong with them. 

Some how my wife and I were able to survive multiple deployments, many of the 6 month kind without a list of rules from the Marine Corps.   How did we do it? Well we had many some of the same rules, but it was between the two of us, we did not need big brother to tell us how to stay faithful.  6 months going to places like Thailand and Korea and the Phillipines where the temptations are 100 times what they are in the average workplace.   

 

[Running Gator]

1 hour ago, kwikphilly said:

Blessings Brother     Absolutely not,I think he is a wise man and it sounds like something my husband would do out of respect for me,I would think any decent woman(the one who is not his wife) would appreciate the gesture,imo

Could you explain how your husband doing that would be disrespectful to you?