jashley Posted May 16, 2017 Group: Members Followers: 2 Topic Count: 22 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 27 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 9 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/26/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted May 16, 2017 This guy friend at my bible study while we were walking out ran into these ladies sitting in a circle and he started talking to his mom while I was standing there but didn't introduce me or the guy standing next to me to her. (I know it's his mom because I have a vauge memory of meeting her at church like 10 years ago and her saying "Hi I'm so and sos mom" and I've seen pictures of him with her on his Facebook profile where he mentions her being his mom, like for mother's day). I'm only 99% sure the lady from last night was her though. So what do I do? Do you think I should ask him if that was his mom? If it was his mom, I'm kind of hurt that he wouldn't introduce me or the guy standing next to me to her. Also when I asked if he knew these people once we left the room he said yeah I go to church here, but still didnt say anything about his mom. I thought I was his friend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest BacKaran Posted May 16, 2017 Share Posted May 16, 2017 I would have said are you his mom? I'm so and so, remember from years ago? Guys don't think like girls do... They can come off as rude when they are not doing it intentionally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Yes, as Karan mentioned... I'm a guy, and sometimes (well, most times) our brains are someplace else and we simply don't think of these things. Most likely, he did not do that intentionally. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted May 17, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,990 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,688 Content Per Day: 11.83 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted May 17, 2017 2 hours ago, jashley said: This guy friend at my bible study while we were walking out ran into these ladies sitting in a circle and he started talking to his mom while I was standing there but didn't introduce me or the guy standing next to me to her. (I know it's his mom because I have a vauge memory of meeting her at church like 10 years ago and her saying "Hi I'm so and sos mom" and I've seen pictures of him with her on his Facebook profile where he mentions her being his mom, like for mother's day). I'm only 99% sure the lady from last night was her though. So what do I do? Do you think I should ask him if that was his mom? If it was his mom, I'm kind of hurt that he wouldn't introduce me or the guy standing next to me to her. Also when I asked if he knew these people once we left the room he said yeah I go to church here, but still didnt say anything about his mom. I thought I was his friend. Why don't you ask him why he did not introduce you to his mom? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted May 17, 2017 Share Posted May 17, 2017 I've learned that men think differently than us women lol and more than likely his mind was on other stuff. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighbor Posted May 17, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 950 Topics Per Day: 0.35 Content Count: 13,536 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 9,030 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/04/2016 Status: Online Birthday: 03/03/1885 Share Posted May 17, 2017 (edited) 6 hours ago, Yowm said: I had an experience the other week when I had my wife with me and bumped into an old work friend. I wanted to introduce him to my wife...but for the first 5 minutes I couldn't recall his name. Maybe this friend forgot either your name or the other guy with you and was too embarrassed so just went on without an intro. That has happened to me all my lifetime. Once, I did introduce my new bride to my son's sister in law, and I had the wrong sister in law, I called her by her sister's name. I did it in the presence of all the family. Awkward! And of course a big deal was made of it, that I didn't know one sister from another. Sooo. DO I introduce people by name ever again? NO! I don't. Now when I go to introduce my new bride to anyone that I know I remind her that I never remember names well, so you take the lead once I say, Hi this is my new bride, you say Hi, give them your name and let them introduce themselves. In business I used to sit with families assisting them. I could never remember names so I put numbers corresponding to the chair positions they were in on my work folders. They almost always returned to the same seat if we left and came back. If they didn't I could recognize that , and I just stopped calling them by name at that point. Some twenty years after I left that field of work, I returned for a visit just to see the buildings. One of their sales people came up to me after finding out who I was he asked; hey, I see your old folders when people come back in for new business. What are all those numbers beside their names? They aren't in any sequence, what are they? I told him - can't remember names so I number their seating positions. A lightbulb went on over his head; Cool! I'm going to do that! -Guys don't remember names well is my guess. That's why we call friends by nicknames or attitudes or well anything but by a surname. Hey Sparky what's up? And the response will be anything but my name. Whatz up, who saz whazs up? Nothing's up, howze you man? We never use names. If I am trapped in a business meeting at a table, I do the go through the alphabet of names thing. Agnes, Angie, Betty, Carla, Donna, etc. until it finally clicks no, Katherine with a K, sure that's it. Bingo! Then I will say something like, "How you doing today Bingo?" and will have blown it for having tried for the name. I have an uncle that has never ever used anything but pronouns he she you them - Safe way to go. Edited May 17, 2017 by Neighbor Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighbor Posted May 17, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 950 Topics Per Day: 0.35 Content Count: 13,536 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 9,030 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/04/2016 Status: Online Birthday: 03/03/1885 Share Posted May 17, 2017 I never got the point of the Name Game song either- ----------------------------------- Shirley Shirley bo burley Banana fana for firley Fe fi for firley shirley! Lincoln Lincoln bo bincoln Banana fana for fincoln Fe fi for fincoln lincoln! C'mon everybody, yeah! I said let's play a game I betcha I can make a rhyme Out of anybody's name. The first letter of the name I'll treat it like it wasn't there But if a "B" or an "F" ever will appear Then I say a for and a fi and I say the name Banana fano and for And then I say the name again And I say the name again With an "M" this time There isn't a name That I can't rhyme. Arnold Arnold bo barnold Banana fano for farnold Fe fi mo marnold arnold! But if the first two letters Are ever the same Drop them both And say the name Like Bob, Bob drop the "B" spells ob or Fran, Fran drop the "F" spells ran or Mary, Mary drop the "M" spells ary That's the only rule that is contrary. Now let's say Divi, Divi! Now Divi with a "B", Bivi! Then banana fana for, banana fana for! Then you say the name again with an "F", very plain, Fivi! Fe fi then mo, and fe fi then mo Then you say the name again with an "M" this time, Mivi! And there isn't any name that I can't rhyme Now do Divi! Divi Divi bo bivi Banana fana for fivi Fe fi mo mivi divi! Let's do Marsha Marsha Marsha bo barsha Banana fana for farsha Fe fi mo marsha marsha! A little trick with dick dick Dick bo bick Banana fana for fick Fe fi mo mick dick! ---------------------------- Say what? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighbor Posted May 17, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 950 Topics Per Day: 0.35 Content Count: 13,536 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 9,030 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/04/2016 Status: Online Birthday: 03/03/1885 Share Posted May 17, 2017 Old age is not the problem many think it might be, why we meet new people everyday, again, and again, and again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighbor Posted May 18, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 950 Topics Per Day: 0.35 Content Count: 13,536 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 9,030 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/04/2016 Status: Online Birthday: 03/03/1885 Share Posted May 18, 2017 (edited) Yep, my old bride ol what'zer name. Somehow I don't think that is an option. Nor do you want to trade her in on a new one. But you could say, hi do you remember my spouse? That will throw him into a panic and your bride can rescue by saying, Hi I'm --------- what's your name, I am sure we must have met, you are from where? I guess the point is that a person that does not remember names well needs to work out a system with their helpmate, or companion if not yet married. Otherwise learn to talk using only pronouns. Back to the original post of this thread: I suspect that if I did not introduce someone to my mother, it would be to avoid my mother's inqusition later on. Who's that lady you were with when we chatted? answer: She didn't give you her name? You didn't ask at the time? By the way do you have a recipe for your really great clam chowder? I sure would like to have some soon.... Edited May 18, 2017 by Neighbor Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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