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If a spouse is spending out of control is it a violation of oneness to have separate checking accounts?

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29 minutes ago, Kevburk1971 said:

If a spouse is spending out of control is it a violation of oneness to have separate checking accounts?

Ultimately, the husband is the head of the wife according to scripture, and like it or not, the buck stops with him.  If the bills aren't paid, you will be responsible.  If the wife cannot be trusted to keep spending under control, that might be a possible option, if nothing else has worked.  In reality, you should just be able to tell her that her spending is a problem because you are living above your means, and to cut back.  If she is following the Bible, she will submit to your leadership. 

Mutual submission has been perverted.  It has nothing to do with the chain of authority.  If it did, there could be no authorities, because those who are supposedly over us couldn't enforce anything.  We could just refuse and turn it back on them.  In the church, the Pastor could not make any decisions, because if a member doesn't like something, they can say that there is this thing called mutual submission and you want it done your way.  Obviously that doesn't work. 

Mutual submission means that even though you are the head of your wife in authority, and make the final decisions, if she makes a request of you, when you fulfil that request, you have submitted to her.  If she asks you to go down to the store and pick up some milk because she forgot to get it when she was out, and you do it, that is submission.  It could be your child asking something of you.  Your little boy or girl might ask you to give them some money for a field trip.  When you do that, you have submitted to them.  Does that mean your children are equal in authority to you?  Of course not, no more than the disciples were equal to Jesus because he washed their feet.  This is not complicated.  It has just been perverted. 

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If she's unwilling to admit she has a problem and reign in her spending, then the issue is even deeper than the spending, if you get my meaning. Before even any concerns about mutual submission or anything, there's the issue of God Himself having commanded us to be wise with our finances and the things He's given us. I would suggest speaking with a good pastor or Christian counselor who has some experience in confronting these issues in a healthy and helpful way.

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22 hours ago, Kevburk1971 said:

If a spouse is spending out of control is it a violation of oneness to have separate checking accounts?

You give me very little information to reply to your post.

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