Ray360gp Posted October 19, 2017 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/19/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted October 19, 2017 Hi Everyone I had an incident where I have discussed with my partner going out that I would not appreciate her just dancing/Grindin with other men on a dance floor unless the guy have the respect to ask me and then her if he may, I cant really dance as I have a prosthetic leg and I know she loves dancing. we went out again and while having a discussion with another friend the girls asked if they could go dance. The friend also made it clear to his wife "dance loose with the Girls, Not with other men" they agreed and went to the dance floor. when we turned around they were in other men's arms. I am told as I decided that she is not with me and does not respect me that Im insecure and she does not need to ask permission who she wants to dance with. I don't know the guy but she claims he is a friend. To me your space around your body is reserved when you decided I am your partner in your life. we went home and I took my stuff and left. she went back to the club and spend time with this guy, she is now telling me nothing happened. My question is: I just want to know what everyone Else's view is on this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ayin jade Posted October 19, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 44 Topic Count: 6,178 Topics Per Day: 0.88 Content Count: 43,795 Content Per Day: 6.22 Reputation: 11,242 Days Won: 58 Joined: 01/03/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted October 19, 2017 Ok I have to ask ... It sounds like you are living with this partner, without the benefit of marriage. First it is a sin to live together like that, and a Christian should know this. Secondly, if you are not married to her, you really do not have claims on what she can and cant do. Sure, she should respect your feelings on the matter, but you do not have the authority of leadership over her if you are not married. I suggest counseling if this is an issue. And if you are living together without marriage, either marry or live apart without intimacy until you marry (IF you marry). 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ana Posted October 19, 2017 Group: Members Followers: 3 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 50 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 66 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/01/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted October 19, 2017 (edited) - Edited June 15, 2018 by Ana 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Estrella Posted October 19, 2017 Group: Senior Member Followers: 26 Topic Count: 33 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 813 Content Per Day: 0.24 Reputation: 1,002 Days Won: 1 Joined: 03/11/2015 Status: Offline Share Posted October 19, 2017 I agree with ayin and if i were you, i would have pack my stuff and left too. I understand her passion for dancing but i think there are other ways to express that.. dancing classes, gym classes like zumba etc. I find it wierd that upon you leaving, she would go back to the club and spend time with the guy. Nonetheless, married or or courting stage, since you both had prior discussion and had agreed, and also, i think your rules / expectations are reasonable, but yet she decided to go against what was agreed. I think yes, these actions do mean she has no respect for you, sadly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
angels4u Posted October 19, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 56 Topic Count: 1,664 Topics Per Day: 0.20 Content Count: 19,763 Content Per Day: 2.39 Reputation: 12,161 Days Won: 28 Joined: 08/22/2001 Status: Offline Share Posted October 19, 2017 4 hours ago, Ray360gp said: Hi Everyone I had an incident where I have discussed with my partner going out that I would not appreciate her just dancing/Grindin with other men on a dance floor unless the guy have the respect to ask me and then her if he may, I cant really dance as I have a prosthetic leg and I know she loves dancing. we went out again and while having a discussion with another friend the girls asked if they could go dance. The friend also made it clear to his wife "dance loose with the Girls, Not with other men" they agreed and went to the dance floor. when we turned around they were in other men's arms. I am told as I decided that she is not with me and does not respect me that Im insecure and she does not need to ask permission who she wants to dance with. I don't know the guy but she claims he is a friend. To me your space around your body is reserved when you decided I am your partner in your life. we went home and I took my stuff and left. she went back to the club and spend time with this guy, she is now telling me nothing happened. My question is: I just want to know what everyone Else's view is on this? Welcome Ray This is the welcome section only ,after 3-5 posts you can ask questions in the forum and discuss this situation .. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OneLight Posted October 19, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 22 Topic Count: 1,294 Topics Per Day: 0.21 Content Count: 31,762 Content Per Day: 5.24 Reputation: 9,760 Days Won: 115 Joined: 09/14/2007 Status: Offline Share Posted October 19, 2017 This is the Welcome Forum, designed to come in and introduce yourself. Moved to another forum. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted October 19, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,990 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,688 Content Per Day: 11.83 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted October 19, 2017 11 hours ago, Ray360gp said: Hi Everyone I had an incident where I have discussed with my partner going out that I would not appreciate her just dancing/Grindin with other men on a dance floor unless the guy have the respect to ask me and then her if he may, I cant really dance as I have a prosthetic leg and I know she loves dancing. we went out again and while having a discussion with another friend the girls asked if they could go dance. The friend also made it clear to his wife "dance loose with the Girls, Not with other men" they agreed and went to the dance floor. when we turned around they were in other men's arms. I am told as I decided that she is not with me and does not respect me that Im insecure and she does not need to ask permission who she wants to dance with. I don't know the guy but she claims he is a friend. To me your space around your body is reserved when you decided I am your partner in your life. we went home and I took my stuff and left. she went back to the club and spend time with this guy, she is now telling me nothing happened. My question is: I just want to know what everyone Else's view is on this? I do not see anything wrong with them dancing as long as it is not intimate. Are you in a serious relationship with this person? Are you married to this person? If not she can dance with whoever she wants to dance with. I am only hearing one side of this situation. If she went back to the club do you really think she can be trusted? Maybe that should put up a red flag as to a permanent relationship. Do you think you were being too possessive or jealous if she is not a steady girlfriend? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sinbad Posted October 19, 2017 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 10 Topic Count: 42 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 138 Content Per Day: 0.06 Reputation: 160 Days Won: 0 Joined: 09/28/2017 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/09/1965 Share Posted October 19, 2017 I'm no dancer however everyone can mooch on the slow tunes however that's intamit a tune really for couples not strangers as I said I'm no dancer now Jane was a professional dancer but would never dance with another man unless family or close friends Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4LdKHVCzRDj2 Posted October 20, 2017 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 17 Topic Count: 69 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 1,453 Content Per Day: 0.53 Reputation: 1,453 Days Won: 6 Joined: 11/02/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/23/1991 Share Posted October 20, 2017 6 hours ago, missmuffet said: I do not see anything wrong with them dancing as long as it is not intimate. I do not know about women, but men can get very excited (sexually) while dancing with girls (especially when any physical contact is involved). Knowing this, I really cannot be comfortable seeing "my girl" dancing with another; I would not allow such thing. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted October 20, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,990 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,688 Content Per Day: 11.83 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted October 20, 2017 Just now, 4LdKHVCzRDj2 said: I do not know about women, but men can get very excited (sexually) while dancing with girls (especially when any physical contact is involved). Knowing this, I really cannot be comfortable seeing "my girl" dancing with another; I would not allow such thing. It all depends on what kind of dancing they are doing. Yes, if they are holding them so tight you can not see the light of day between them. If you have a committed relationship then ...no it is not necessary to dance with another partner. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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