James1991 Posted November 14, 2017 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 13 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/27/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted November 14, 2017 I am in relationship of 1 year and 3 month with my current girlfriend however My Mum thinks I should date other women and compare them to my girlfriend because my Mum feels my girlfriend is not a strong decision maker which could damage our future. Would you compare your current girlfriend because her flaws to other women and decide from there who you are going to marry or accept her for what she is? My Girlfriend is Godly but i do not think comparing is right Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BK1110 Posted November 15, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 22 Topic Count: 86 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 6,857 Content Per Day: 2.42 Reputation: 9,580 Days Won: 4 Joined: 07/18/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/10/1986 Share Posted November 15, 2017 Welcome! Are you a born-again believer in Christ? If so, then it is His will, and not your mother's will, you should be concerned with following in such a situation. Are you praying to God for wisdom about who He wants you to marry? And for starters, what do you see marriage as? Have you ever heard teachings on what Biblical marriage is and it's purposes? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debp Posted November 15, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 52 Topic Count: 1,014 Topics Per Day: 0.15 Content Count: 12,276 Content Per Day: 1.79 Reputation: 16,332 Days Won: 92 Joined: 07/19/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted November 15, 2017 Above poster has some good things to consider/answer. I think it is wonderful that your girlfriend is godly! I don't know your age, if you are considering marriage...but if you care enough for her and she is godly, that sounds good. Again, it might depend on your age and experience. Also, if you were to marry, do you feel you could help her with the decision making...that is, would she be receptive to your input? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James1991 Posted November 15, 2017 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 13 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/27/2017 Status: Offline Author Share Posted November 15, 2017 Thanks for your answer. But if you had a current girlfriend would you date other girls at the same time and compare??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BK1110 Posted November 16, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 22 Topic Count: 86 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 6,857 Content Per Day: 2.42 Reputation: 9,580 Days Won: 4 Joined: 07/18/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/10/1986 Share Posted November 16, 2017 Probably not. But the Bible doesn't recognize "dating" as a thing. There are unmarried and married people. Those who are unmarried often have little contact until they get married. The idea of "dating" is a very modern concept, and frankly considering the divorce rate, the idea that we should be allowed to choose our own spouses through dating doesn't seem to be that important like people think it is. No person is perfect. If you're just going to "shop around" and hope to find one, you'll only be disappointed. Is this woman truly sold out for Jesus, prepared to fulfill the Godly role of a Biblically-submissive wife and mother? If so, she's a candidate. If not, flee from that relationship. Your mom wants you to date around to compare people? Compare what about them? What are your mother's standards even? Is she concerned with you finding a Godly wife? If you're the man, you're to be the leader of the home and ultimately the decision maker anyway. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James1991 Posted November 16, 2017 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 13 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/27/2017 Status: Offline Author Share Posted November 16, 2017 Hey BK110, My Mum thinks my girlfriend is not a strong person which she feels can hinder my future. So she feels that i should find a girl who is strong and compare both of them together. And my girlfriend does not come from a good home. God Bless Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James1991 Posted November 16, 2017 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 13 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/27/2017 Status: Offline Author Share Posted November 16, 2017 9 hours ago, BK1110 said: Probably not. But the Bible doesn't recognize "dating" as a thing. There are unmarried and married people. Those who are unmarried often have little contact until they get married. The idea of "dating" is a very modern concept, and frankly considering the divorce rate, the idea that we should be allowed to choose our own spouses through dating doesn't seem to be that important like people think it is. No person is perfect. If you're just going to "shop around" and hope to find one, you'll only be disappointed. Is this woman truly sold out for Jesus, prepared to fulfill the Godly role of a Biblically-submissive wife and mother? If so, she's a candidate. If not, flee from that relationship. Your mom wants you to date around to compare people? Compare what about them? What are your mother's standards even? Is she concerned with you finding a Godly wife? If you're the man, you're to be the leader of the home and ultimately the decision maker anyway. Hey BK110, My Mum thinks my girlfriend is not a strong person which she feels can hinder my future. So she feels that i should find a girl who is strong and compare both of them together. And my girlfriend does not come from a good home. God Bless Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BK1110 Posted November 16, 2017 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 22 Topic Count: 86 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 6,857 Content Per Day: 2.42 Reputation: 9,580 Days Won: 4 Joined: 07/18/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/10/1986 Share Posted November 16, 2017 "Strong" is pretty vague. But again, you have to ask yourself if this woman meets God's criteria for a wife, not your mother's. You haven't even mentioned what you yourself think about your girlfriend either. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted November 16, 2017 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,990 Topics Per Day: 0.48 Content Count: 48,688 Content Per Day: 11.83 Reputation: 30,343 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted November 16, 2017 I posted a reply to another thread just like this one Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
James1991 Posted November 16, 2017 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 13 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/27/2017 Status: Offline Author Share Posted November 16, 2017 Hey BK1110, My Mother feels that my girlfriend is not strong when faced with difficult decision, i feel that my girlfriend is kind lovely person who is willinging to learn from their mistakes she is kind hearted. But occasionally i think she tends to overthink things a bit too much sometimes also she tends not to believe in herself sometimes.r Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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