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I thought this was about women in pants. Now I see we are on gay marriage, sex outside of marriage, and monkeys.  Is there a connection here?  Dose women wearing pants make you do all of that?:blink: Cause I wear pants and none of those things have ever happen to me. What happens if I wear shorts?  :o LOL! 

(ahhh this is funny:D

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4 minutes ago, LadyKay said:

I thought this was about women in pants. Now I see we are on gay marriage, sex outside of marriage, and monkeys.  Is there a connection here?  Dose women wearing pants make you do all of that?:blink: Cause I wear pants and none of those things have ever happen to me. What happens if I wear shorts?  :o LOL! 

(ahhh this is funny:D

From a Bible standpoint, it is a type of perversion, wearing clothing that pertains to the opposite sex.  As a man wearing a dress is effeminate, a woman in pants is dressing in a way that is masculine.  It is funny to me how nobody wants to be equally feminine, men and women, but everyone is striving to be masculine, like being feminine is bad.  

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2 hours ago, naominash said:

The other day, I wondered if I was just wearing skirts as some sort of works based righteousness type thing.

I don't believe in just following a lot of regulations in matters of conscience.

But modesty is not like that. After searching my heart and praying, I just found that wearing skirts to be modest came out of a desire to please God and live a holy life. 

I'm fortunate to work at a place now where I can wear skirts every day. 

The only teeny tiny drawback is that it's harder to look casual in a skirt without wearing my least favorite modest items: ankle length Jean skirts. 

There are ways around that, though.

Otherwise, I find that I get treated better in public, and have no issue.

Maybe you can explain. As I am not seeing how skirt wearing means modesty.  Or what is so immodest about a women wearing pants?  :confused:

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26 minutes ago, Butero said:

As a man wearing a dress is effeminate, a woman in pants is dressing in a way that is masculine.

Oh I think we have been over this one with me explaining time and time again that women's pants are cut and made for women and are cut and made differently then men's pants. Which is why they are sold in the "women's department" of the store and men pants are sold in the "men's" department of the store.  There for women pants are clothing for women as under the Laws of the OT because women pants are clothing that  is for  a women.  Therefor a women wearing "women" pants sold from the "women's" section of the store are not in violation of the OT Law that you believe we must follow. 

Let me put it this way. Back in OT days everyone wore robes. Except some robes were cut to fit women and some robes were cut to fit men. Yet they were both robes. 

So.....this is why I have no issue with wearing pants.   Oh and by the way. I have never been mistaken for a men for wearing pants. :)

 

 

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2 minutes ago, LadyKay said:

Oh I think we have been over this one with me explaining time and time again that women's pants are cut and made for women and are cut and made differently then men's pants. Which is why they are sold in the "women's department" of the store and men pants are sold in the "men's" department of the store.  There for women pants are clothing for women as under the Laws of the OT because women pants are clothing that  is for  a women.  Therefor a women wearing "women" pants sold from the "women's" section of the store are not in violation of the OT Law that you believe we must follow. 

Let me put it this way. Back in OT days everyone wore robes. Except some robes were cut to fit women and some robes were cut to fit men. Yet they were both robes. 

So.....this is why I have no issue with wearing pants. 

 

 

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I have dealt with all those things too Lady Kay, in a very long post in this thread.  They are masculine style apparel, and I have seen a man wear pants he said belonged to his girlfriend, and they were even marketed to women, and I couldn't tell any difference from men's pants.  He said they fit him good.  

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40 minutes ago, LadyKay said:

Now I see we are on gay marriage, sex outside of marriage, and monkeys.  Is there a connection here?  Dose women wearing pants make you do all of that?:blink:

That's good :D

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2 hours ago, Butero said:

I have dealt with all those things too Lady Kay, in a very long post in this thread.  They are masculine style apparel, and I have seen a man wear pants he said belonged to his girlfriend, and they were even marketed to women, and I couldn't tell any difference from men's pants.  He said they fit him good.  

So.....I can't wear any women's clothing if a man can fit into them as well?  Lets hope this way of thinking dose not catch on. Or I may not be able to leave the house. :blink:

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4 minutes ago, LadyKay said:

So.....I can't wear any women's clothing if a man can fit into them as well?  Lets hope this way of thinking dose not catch on. Or I may not be able to leave the house. :blink:

Women shouldn't wear masculine style fashions, pants.  They can always leave the house wearing a modest dress.

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6 minutes ago, LadyKay said:

So.....I can't wear any women's clothing if a man can fit into them as well?  Lets hope this way of thinking dose not catch on. Or I may not be able to leave the house. 

Unless someone is in a faithful community of ekklesia  ,  who would stop them from dressing inappropriately ?

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22 hours ago, LadyKay said:

Maybe you can explain. As I am not seeing how skirt wearing means modesty.  Or what is so immodest about a women wearing pants?  :confused:

I could not answer that question for you since I think it's a matter of conscience. For me the main reason pants are immodest has less to do with how masculine they are and more about how tight they are.

 

Pants for women tend to be really tight and revealing. I'd rather just wear a skirt and be done than wear loose pants, though some of them can be cute as well.

 

Plus a skirt seems to more easily portray that I'm a woman. 

 

I don't really get bothered by women who wear pants. I wore pants for a long time after all. 

I still wear tight leggings at home.

But for me, skirts are a way of being set apart and pleasing God. They are the most modest options in my eyes, so I wear them.

 

To be fair, I don't think modesty is simply about covering up so men won't be tempted.

But what we wear is important. I don't think about telling women to all be like me. But I do think that, keeping in mind that modesty is humility, both men and women will make changes based on convictions when coming before God and really asking what would please Him. 

 

 

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