Terra- Posted February 5, 2018 Group: Newbie Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/05/2018 Status: Offline Share Posted February 5, 2018 My stepson is 19 years old, he only comes around to visit or to say hi if he is in need of something. He never acknowledges any of his siblings or myself he only says happy birthday to his dad on his birthday and again never acknowledges the rest of us on ours. Now he is asking my husband to fix his mother's truck and she will pay him to do so. I would really would rather him not fix her truck she has put us through Court throughout the years, programs to keep him us away from us, taken away precious time with him over the years and has caused nothing but pain and suffering for us. My husband feels guilty because he wants to spend time with his son but I really don't think that he should be doing anything for her and I don't appreciate my stepson manipulating my husband for his mom's sake. What do you all think? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
da_man1974 Posted February 5, 2018 Group: Senior Member Followers: 25 Topic Count: 41 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 726 Content Per Day: 0.15 Reputation: 575 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/22/2010 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/30/1974 Share Posted February 5, 2018 That is a tough one. Â Are there any mechanics around that could do the work for her so you guys don't have to do it? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted February 5, 2018 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,989 Topics Per Day: 0.49 Content Count: 48,687 Content Per Day: 11.89 Reputation: 30,342 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted February 5, 2018 1 hour ago, Terra- said: My stepson is 19 years old, he only comes around to visit or to say hi if he is in need of something. He never acknowledges any of his siblings or myself he only says happy birthday to his dad on his birthday and again never acknowledges the rest of us on ours. Now he is asking my husband to fix his mother's truck and she will pay him to do so. I would really would rather him not fix her truck she has put us through Court throughout the years, programs to keep him us away from us, taken away precious time with him over the years and has caused nothing but pain and suffering for us. My husband feels guilty because he wants to spend time with his son but I really don't think that he should be doing anything for her and I don't appreciate my stepson manipulating my husband for his mom's sake. What do you all think? Have you even sat down and had a talk with your stepson and told him your concerns? Are you a Christian? You do know that God asks us to help others. It sounds like you have some anger issues with your husbands ex wife. You need to give this to God if you are a praying person. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SisterActs2 Posted February 6, 2018 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 23 Topic Count: 7 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,000 Content Per Day: 0.37 Reputation: 1,655 Days Won: 1 Joined: 11/27/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/08/1950 Share Posted February 6, 2018 Hi Terra- I agree with missmuffet. However, that said, I also think that your husband's ex-wife (without reading her side of the story) seems to me to be manipulative. If she wanted to move on with her life, she could easily pay someone else to do the mechanical work on the vehicle.  I am wondering whether she wants your husband to feel guilty for some reason, and uses that. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Justin Adams Posted February 6, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 26 Topic Count: 61 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 9,602 Content Per Day: 4.02 Reputation: 7,795 Days Won: 21 Joined: 09/11/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted February 6, 2018 (edited) It is a wicked can of worms to be sure. The guy does need to say 'no'. And also explain to his son why. Maybe then his son will not be author to another similar circumstance. These things are so distressing and men do not do well when women manipulate and play on the heart-strings. I think it is china that has strife pictorially represented as two women under the same roof. Edited February 6, 2018 by Justin Adams Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debp Posted February 6, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 52 Topic Count: 1,010 Topics Per Day: 0.15 Content Count: 12,205 Content Per Day: 1.79 Reputation: 16,281 Days Won: 92 Joined: 07/19/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted February 6, 2018 14 hours ago, Terra- said: My stepson is 19 years old, he only comes around to visit or to say hi if he is in need of something. He never acknowledges any of his siblings or myself he only says happy birthday to his dad on his birthday and again never acknowledges the rest of us on ours. Now he is asking my husband to fix his mother's truck and she will pay him to do so. I would really would rather him not fix her truck she has put us through Court throughout the years, programs to keep him us away from us, taken away precious time with him over the years and has caused nothing but pain and suffering for us. My husband feels guilty because he wants to spend time with his son but I really don't think that he should be doing anything for her and I don't appreciate my stepson manipulating my husband for his mom's sake. What do you all think? Tell your husband he can spend time with his son in other ways if this is what makes him feel guilty. Unless your family needs the extra money, your husband can decline to fix her car. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BK1110 Posted February 6, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 22 Topic Count: 86 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 6,828 Content Per Day: 2.43 Reputation: 9,555 Days Won: 4 Joined: 07/18/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/10/1986 Share Posted February 6, 2018 It's hard to give advice with so little information about a situation as complex as this. I will say that God calls on us to turn the other cheek and help others as a testimony of our faith. If I were you, I might ask myself what the motivations of my heart are about not helping this woman. I would just advise to make sure you guard your heart against any bitterness or jealousy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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