Jackie62 Posted February 17, 2018 Group: Newbie Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 3 Days Won: 0 Joined: 02/17/2018 Status: Offline Share Posted February 17, 2018 My husband is addicted to porn. Has been all his life. We’ve been married for 26 years and I have been dealing with it. I don’t think I can do this anymore. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wingnut- Posted February 17, 2018 Group: Royal Member Followers: 39 Topic Count: 101 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 7,673 Content Per Day: 1.31 Reputation: 7,358 Days Won: 67 Joined: 04/22/2008 Status: Offline Share Posted February 17, 2018 I don't have any advice for you, hoping one of the ladies or someone else might. Just know I am praying for you both. God bless 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simplejeff Posted February 17, 2018 Group: Mars Hill Followers: 12 Topic Count: 12 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 7,689 Content Per Day: 2.39 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 20 Joined: 06/30/2015 Status: Offline Share Posted February 17, 2018 6 minutes ago, Jackie62 said: My husband is addicted to porn. Has been all his life. We’ve been married for 26 years and I have been dealing with it. I don’t think I can do this anymore. Never give up. Read about Abigail in the Old Testament, then if you can find get the books by Marabel something, "Total Woman" and "Total Joy" which explains from a believing woman of God , from Scripture, how in FAITH and JESUS' FAITHFULNESS to find and wait for and see God accomplish God's Will in the situation you and many women find themselves in. The books are written (I guess) for women, yet are very encouraging in CHRIST JESUS for men also, and likely for children after a certain age (if they are interested in Scripture for their lives anyway) . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SisterActs2 Posted February 17, 2018 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 23 Topic Count: 7 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,000 Content Per Day: 0.37 Reputation: 1,655 Days Won: 1 Joined: 11/27/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/08/1950 Share Posted February 17, 2018 Hi Jackie62 I will be praying for you as well. There is a fairly well known movie called "The War Room". The main character was able to save her marriage by interceding for her husband. Jesus gave them the victory. I would love to help you more but as we know, Jesus is the answer to everything. He paid the price for everything. I am hoping you are a Christian and can pray fervently for your husband. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Annette Posted February 17, 2018 Group: Royal Member Followers: 65 Topic Count: 105 Topics Per Day: 0.04 Content Count: 3,568 Content Per Day: 1.39 Reputation: 4,029 Days Won: 7 Joined: 04/12/2017 Status: Offline Share Posted February 17, 2018 Hi Jackie, I will be praying for you. I was wondering if this is something he wants to work on giving up or not. If it is something he is willing to work on, there is a site called Covenant Eyes, where he can sign up with. It calls for an accountability partner so if he goes looking at sites he should not, a report is sent to the accountability partner. There is also a book called Every Man's Battle that is great for men to read, in knowing that their addiction is not something they are facing alone. Just recently I began reading Every Woman's Battle, an amazing book too. I will keep you in prayer. There can be so much hurt that comes out of such a situation, but I am reminded of the life of Joseph, "what the brothers meant for harm, God used for good". Please know that your value and worth is in knowing what God's Word says about you. Finding verses to remind you that you are loved, and treasured when your heart is so broken can be such a help. My heart goes out to you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Butero Posted February 17, 2018 Share Posted February 17, 2018 7 hours ago, Jackie62 said: My husband is addicted to porn. Has been all his life. We’ve been married for 26 years and I have been dealing with it. I don’t think I can do this anymore. Addictions, regardless of what they are, can be very difficult on the spouse. I have known of people living with a spouse with drug and alcohol addictions, and they would struggle with them all their life. When we got married, we did so for better or worse. Prayer is about the only thing you can do. God can deliver from porn addiction just as he can deliver from other addictions, but one thing you haven't told us is if he wants free from porn and if he is a Christian. If he doesn't want to quit or isn't saved, this may fall under the category of being unequally yoked, and then you are to follow the teachings in 1 Corinthians where it says that if the unbeliever wishes to remain with you, you are to let them. Continue to live for Christ before him, and it is possible that over time, he might come to repentance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JTC Posted February 17, 2018 Group: Royal Member Followers: 18 Topic Count: 200 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 2,795 Content Per Day: 0.65 Reputation: 1,502 Days Won: 1 Joined: 06/25/2012 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/26/1952 Share Posted February 17, 2018 Hi Jackie, I noticed everyone told you to pray be sure you do. The reason is because porn addiction, more than most drug addictions is a spiritual battle. So that's where you have to fight it. I will suggest calling the 700 Club because someone will pray with you. Some of their people are pray warriors, they really get things done. It's sad your husband has you but you might be what saves him. I never understood why married men get addicted to porn until I realized it's a spiritual addiction. I was hooked on porn awhile, but I was never married nor did I have many gfs. Since this is the case, I never wanted to admit what porn addiction really is. I will tell you God set me free from it, I know I sure didn't do it. I bet your husband doesn't even know he's addicted. He probably thinks he watches too much, but no problem. He needs to realize it is a problem. Then he needs all the prayers you can get for him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
simplejeff Posted February 17, 2018 Group: Mars Hill Followers: 12 Topic Count: 12 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 7,689 Content Per Day: 2.39 Reputation: 2 Days Won: 20 Joined: 06/30/2015 Status: Offline Share Posted February 17, 2018 3 hours ago, Abdicate said: A German study shows ... ... Hmmmm........ I think a "German study" showed one race far superior to all others ..... is that pertinent !? Could either study be flawed, you think ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BK1110 Posted February 17, 2018 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 22 Topic Count: 87 Topics Per Day: 0.03 Content Count: 6,868 Content Per Day: 2.42 Reputation: 9,600 Days Won: 4 Joined: 07/18/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 11/10/1986 Share Posted February 17, 2018 Is he willing to work on it? Does he claim to follow Christ? It's hard to give good advice knowing so little. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JTC Posted February 17, 2018 Group: Royal Member Followers: 18 Topic Count: 200 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 2,795 Content Per Day: 0.65 Reputation: 1,502 Days Won: 1 Joined: 06/25/2012 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/26/1952 Share Posted February 17, 2018 At the very least he has to admit he may have a problem. I'd say if he's too quick to agree that yes he is addicted he's probably lying. I hope he isn't also a liar. I have so many problems due to the average person around here lying all the time without even a reason. I tell you from personal experience, admitting you are addicted to anything is very hard. The man knows if he agrees, even as a lie, that almost makes him obligated to try and quit. No addict gives up his addiction until he's ready, you really can't force him. If you try you 2 will fight and he'll do it anyway. You could use an ally. Is there anyone he might trust who can see this thing. I wonder if there are message boards specifically for porn problems? Can you do a search Jackie? I will try to help if I can. Of course I'd never mention you, don't worry. He needs to talk to men like me because I was also addicted to porn. It was easy for me to BS myself since I don't have a wife. He probably does what a mild alcoholic does. They tell themselves they can stop whenever they want to. Then they say, I just don't want to. Whatever his BS story is, another man who admits to him I too was addicted and I didn't want to admit it neither. One addict can't successfully refute another addict who is recovering. They can run away but they can't prove me wrong. Jackie are you going to reply or have you left by now. I'm sure I'm not the only man here who had this problem. We can work on him if he's totally in denial. You have to figure out how to get him writing to us. I also want to tell you that 14 yrs ago WebMD didn't hire professionals to help. We helped each other. This is why this feels so familiar to me. God Bless Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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