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Loneliness, singleness, and other vulnerable emotional states are getting very common each day.

I suffered a lot from loneliness, sadness, singleness, depression, and it may seem the end of your life.

 

And Satan will not make it any easier, he will use these states to sow ungodly ideas in your heart.

The most common are: suicide, sexual immorality, consumption of alcohol and other drugs. Stay out of these things, they are not the solution.

 

It may seem you cannot be happy if you do not get what you wanted. But our own ideas and plans may not be the best thing for us.

From my experience, the Lord desires our best, and He will not simply leave you in the desert without any help, with a burden heavier than you can carry.

And it is really, really hard when you try to fight against the way you should be walking.

Sometimes, it is hard to accept the way we are going to is not the way we have desired.

But our own ways may look pleasant and beautiful... But the Lord knows to where it may lead us to.

    "There is a way that seems right to a man,
        But its end is the way of death." - Proverbs 14:12


    "Trust in the Lord with all your heart,
        And lean not on your own understanding;
            In all your ways acknowledge Him,
                And He shall direct your paths." - Proverbs 3:5-6

 

I once struggled a lot with loneliness, that lead me to depression and all kinds of depressive thoughts.

But at the same time I always preferred to stay alone most of the time, people can see this as a negative thing, but it is what I feel.

We live in a world that people do not care about others, they just care about themselves, do not think before saying anything. Then I would not bring to heart the evil things people are saying.

And I believe that evil words is killing more than all weapons combined. People usually understimate the power of words, but they can have destructive impact to anyone's life if they bring it to heart.

You like to insult people randomly, just out of your flesh?! You could have been killing people without even knowing, just by your words.

    "Whoever hates his brother is a murderer,
        and you know that no murderer has eternal life abiding in him." - 1 John 3:15

This world certainly does not know God. It has no love for anyone, just selfish interests.

    "He who does not love does not know God, for God is love." - 1 John 4:8

Why people just do not love one another, in deed and in truth?! It would be so much better.

    "for the kingdom of God is not eating and drinking,
            but righteousness and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit." - Romans 14:17

 

And another thing that is becoming increasingly normal is the state of being single.

Nowadays, marriage is being seen as something not good. The increasing number of people who just prefer to stay single, and practicing fornication, and all kinds of sexual immorality.

They have no compromise with love, marriage, nothing... They just want to feed their flesh with as many people as possible. Stay out of this path, it will lead you to hell.

Fewer and fewer people are interested in serious relationship, the lack of love, and the acceptance of sin is the reason for all this. It is hard to even find a friend.

And those who look for something serious are the most affected by this, because they simply do not find anyone.

And quite probably they will never find, nowadays a miracle is required for finding the right person.

Sexual immorality is the root of this problem. It is because of this the love of people are growing cold.

We are living in a society that to watch porn movies is something acceptable and normal. And certainly this is an abomination in the sight of God.

    "For what is highly esteemed among men is an abomination in the sight of God." - Luke 16:15

But people do not know the evil they are welcoming to their souls by doing so, evil spirits will sow evil ideas in the heart of that person.

And they will have the desire to engage more and more in sexual immorality, if they do not stop, it will only become worse. The solution for singleness is not sexual immorality (of any kind), stay out of this.

The anxiety that it brings, it can be dangerous if you just follow your flesh and try to find someone no matter what. You will not find, and if you find, high chances are you are picking the wrong one.

I see this a lot, people just go out and pick the first that crosses their path, without even knowing well. This is a recipe for disaster and suffering, the ungodly will not lead to a successful and happy relationship.

    "But even if you do marry, you have not sinned; and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned.
        Nevertheless such will have trouble in the flesh, but I would spare you." - 1 Corinthians 7:28

 

It really seems that the best option for most Christians nowadays is to stay single. But before making a decision, examine yourself first.

I have came to the conclusion that the best for me is to stay single, for many reasons.

And as much as I would like to know someone, as much as I would dream about it, unfortunately, I believe it is not for me; all signs indicate this.

And even if both are Christian, they will face a lot of problems.

One of the problems I see is that they will not have the same faith, one will be weaker, the other stronger, one will not worry as much, the other will worry for most things, one will love, the other not as much.

They will have to make sacrifices for the sake of the other... One may want to go out, the other to stay at home. And they may not always agree, more problems.

One may want to buy this, the other that... Successful and happy relationship without love is not possible, and this one cannot find easily. Especially nowadays, when love is colder than ever before.

The solution is in the simple: Love... But most people simply cannot see that, and some are unable to do so.

And going around trying to find someone is not a good idea as well. You should focus on serving the Lord, and to please Him.

    "Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication,
        with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God;" - Philippians 4:6


    "But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for
        the things of the Lord - how he may please the Lord." - 1 Corinthians 7:32


    "But seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness,
                and all these things shall be added to you." - Matthew 6:33

 

And I know it may be hard to accept singleness, yes, I know and have suffered for this.

But I would strongly suggest you stopping hearing yourself, friends, this evil world, and listen to the Lord only.

Stop trying too hard to find someone, stop looking for sexual entertainment, stop making excuses for sexual immorality. And I know this is common, but to please the flesh is not the way at all.

The flesh will only lead us to hell, and finding someone shouldn't be as important as hearing and obeying the voice of the Lord.

If controlling yourself is so hard, it shouldn't be, then please I strongly suggest that you change your focus to the Lord.

    "Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest." - Matthew 11:28

 

After doing that, all things will become easier in your life. Loneliness will not be a problem anymore, you will just have joy whenever needed.

Just repent, indeed, of your sins... Say goodbye, indeed, to the flesh, this world, and all that is in it...

They can not give you happiness nor life, no matter how hard it is to believe in this: It is the truth.

    "Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness,
        idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies,
            envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past,
    that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God." - Galatians 5:19-21


    "It is the Spirit who gives life; the flesh profits nothing.
        The words that I speak to you are spirit, and they are life." - John 6:63

 

The Lord Jesus just wants to save us, to give us a new life, and to take us to heaven.

This evil world has already chosen its destiny: Perdition, destruction, hell fire. And all who follow it, will end up in the same place.

Just let us get out of here. And only with the Lord Jesus this is possible.

    "For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world,
        but that the world through Him might be saved." - John 3:17

 

And to anyone who believes in Him, the Lord Jesus has paid for your sins (and only He could do that) by shedding His blood for you. He will heal you, set you free, and give you a new life.

    "For the life of the flesh is in the blood, and I have given it to you upon
        the altar to make atonement for your souls; for it is the blood that makes atonement for the soul." - Leviticus 17:11


    "For He made Him who knew no sin to be sin for us,
            that we might become the righteousness of God in Him." - 2 Corinthians 5:21


    "Greater love has no one than this,
        than to lay down one's life for his friends." - John 15:13

 

And no matter what you have done, if you repent, indeed, you will be forgiven.

    "Then Peter said to them, Repent, and let every one of you be baptized in the name of
        Jesus Christ for the remission of sins; and you shall receive the gift of the Holy Spirit." - Acts 2:38

 

Just repent, indeed, and receive Him as the only Lord and Savior of your life... And you shall have life, a whole new life.

    "He who believes in Me, as the Scripture has said,
        out of his heart will flow rivers of living water." - John 7:38

 

Just pray, believing, truly: "Please, Lord Jesus. I believe and repent, please forgive me... And give me life."

    "Jesus said to him, I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me." - John 14:6

 

God bless you in Jesus' name!

    "Therefore, laying aside all malice, all deceit, hypocrisy, envy, and all evil speaking,
        as newborn babes, desire the pure milk of the word, that you may grow thereby,
            if indeed you have tasted that the Lord is gracious." - 1 Peter 2:1-3

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Whether alone, or in a crowd,  for minutes, hours, days, weeks or months or years,

the sheep are comforted, granted and having peace,  when they hear the Shepherd's Voice (Jesus).

 

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On 2/20/2018 at 10:39 AM, 4LdKHVCzRDj2 said:

Loneliness, singleness, and other vulnerable emotional states are getting very common each day.

Worthy Christian Library » A.W. Tozer » Man: The Dwelling Place of God » Chapter 39 – The Saint Must Walk Alone

"Chapter 39 – The Saint Must Walk Alone

MOST OF THE WORLD’S GREAT SOULS have been lonely. Loneliness seems to be one price the saint must pay for his saintliness.... ... ..."

http://www.worthychristianlibrary.com/aw-tozer/man-the-dwelling-place-of-god/chapter-39-the-saint-must-walk-alone/

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On 2/20/2018 at 1:39 PM, 4LdKHVCzRDj2 said:

And I know it may be hard to accept singleness, yes, I know and have suffered for this.

On 2/20/2018 at 1:39 PM, 4LdKHVCzRDj2 said:

I have came to the conclusion that the best for me is to stay single, for many reasons.

But it is hard, very hard to kill all the hopes... I do not even know if it is possible for me.

 

But it is really, really important to just focus on the Lord. And do not worry about it.

And this is what we should do, and it is not hard with the Lord Jesus.

"But I want you to be without care. He who is unmarried cares for
        the things of the Lord - how he may please the Lord." - 1 Corinthians 7:32

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Perhaps "kill all the hopes " is not as good a way to say it as "subject all hopes and dreams and thoughts and works and ideas and deeds and acts to Jesus" ?   Everything , Jesus told all His disciples,  everything must be given up just to be His disciple.

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And 'singleness' is a gift,  just like marriage is a gift - Jesus stated this clearly both are gifts, each person can accept the gift of their single or married life from the Father in heaven,  or not accept it. (He doesn't coerce anyone)

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3 hours ago, simplejeff said:

And 'singleness' is a gift,  just like marriage is a gift

OK, but even when someone is single and if they are hoping to get married... It requires patience, I am not saying it is hard to wait and to serve the Lord.

"knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience." - James 1:3

 

3 hours ago, simplejeff said:

And 'singleness' is a gift,  just like marriage is a gift

An individual has to accept singleness for real, without a shadow of doubt in their hearts... But if the person still has hopes, there will be moments they will have to watch against temptation and precipitated actions. Especially if the person is young, it is just harder.

"but if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry.
    For it is better to marry than to burn with passion." - 1 Corinthians 7:9

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Be content with what you have.

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On 3/14/2018 at 5:31 PM, KPaulG said:

Be content with what you have.

Easier said than done, KPaulG. Possible, but still very difficult.

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33 minutes ago, Eragon said:

Easier said than done, KPaulG. Possible, but still very difficult.

Yes, I agree. Easier said than done, just like a lot of other things.

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