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My husband has been sick for almost a year now. We are both in our 30s. I hope this isn’t inappropriate to ask I just don’t know where to turn. My husband no longer is interested in being intimate with me. It makes me feel unloved and nonexistent as a woman. I’ve started watching pornography. I’m disgusted with myself. And so ashamed. I just don’t know what to do. 

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It is possible that his illness is the cause for what you see as disinterest.  Perhaps even medications he may be taking for it?  The first thing I would advise is speaking with him about your concerns.  The second thing I would advise is that marital counseling may be of benefit to you both.

As for the pornography, I am not going to beat you up about it, I think you understand this needs to stop.

Welcome to worthy by the way.  :)

God bless

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Welcome to Worthy Aw1982.  You took the first step in seeking advice on issues that you have.  Folks here at Worthy will listen and not judge you, so keep the conversation going.  We may not have all the answers but Jesus does.  He listens even better than we do.  Wingnut is correct, be sure to address this with your Husband too.

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Welcome to Worthy!

Like Wingnut said, it seems clear you realize the porn is wrong. You know what needs to happen there.

Do you attend church regularly? Is there a pastor you can get counsel from? Talking to a doctor could help too, if your husband's illness is the cause to at least some degree.

God bless you!

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Welcome!

People here care. They give good advice. Your situation is not unusual either. It might be the man or the woman that this happens to. Just think that the Lord does not despise you, and speaking from my experience, I find that perhaps your own self-hate becomes quite a stumbling-block.

I am hoping that some ladies on this board will strike up a private conversation with you. That would help I believe.

Ladies??

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