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It's much different to say what to do exactly without the specifics, such as, is he a Christian? Does he hate this? I've done it before, my wife and i have had issues with this in the past, but because we both are Christians, it has been easier with her help in my life to overcome it. But i see you cannot talk to a spouse the same way as Christian couples that you can convince them or be very encouraging in a godly perspective if they dont know God and they dont have goals to live for God and they feel no shame for sin or dont understand sin. While my flesh likes porn, my spirit hates it. I became deeply depressed, even angry at myself enough to literally chop off my private parts because of the guilt- so when that verse talks about it is better to pluck your eye out, well, i felt more confident if i get rid of my manly parts that would be much more effective that even if i imagine porn, i cant get the feeling or care about it anymore. I just bled then but still have my parts. SO- the point is, some of us are guilty of going back to porn, but trust, many godly men dont want to continue doing it, it is a battle against our flesh, but some men live for that stuff and only see it positively. So, to give better advice, it depends on how to handle him for why he is doing it, how he reacts when you confront him about it, if he has a godly perspective, if you can even get an answer if he thinks anyone is wrong for watching porn, etc.

 

If he has a godly perspective and does feel bad about it somewhere, even a little, that can help.

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prayer . . . Jesus knows him, what is really going on in him. So, we submit ourselves and him to You the Lord Jesus Christ who are our Judge and who are able to deliver us from any evil, at all. It does not matter how hard and impossible any problem is for us, because You are almighty to correct any trouble, at all, easily for You.

But if he is getting worse > this can mean he is not a Christian >

"But evil men and impostors will grow worse and worse, deceiving and being deceived." (2 Timothy 3:13)

So, in case his problem is getting worse and worse, this can be because he is not a Christian, and "without Me you can do nothing," Jesus says in John 15:5. So, you can pray until God has you in His peace and enlightens you what to do. But you need to constantly stay with how God rules us in His peace, with His creativity and personal guiding. 

So, most of all is how we need to pray for all we ourselves need with God, and how He desires for us to please Him and love any and all people. 

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On 19 December 2018 at 1:34 AM, mommyof3emblife said:

My husband has struggled with porn since before marriage and continues in the cycle of me finding out, asking him, him lying until he realizes I’ve seen, then confessing and apologizing saying he won’t do it again. I always forgive and offer to support him if he’ll just be honest about it. This time it seems the content has gotten worse and he’s consistently searching for things about incest like brother/ sister, mother/son, father/daughter, and we have 3 young kids at home. With 1 being a daughter this really frightens me. Should I be worried about their safety if this type of porn is what interests him? What should I do? I’m not even sure how to approach this anymore as each time seems to escalate and him just finding better ways to hide it. I wish we could afford counseling but can’t. And I’ve asked him about going but he says no. How should I handle this?

Take control of the computor, get yourself set up as the administrator who controls the antivirus program.

Take it to a computor shop if you cannot do it.

Then set your husband on the system as an 8 year old girl and block everything harmful, threatening to such a child..

You will need to gain access to his laptop, tablet and or phone so they too follow this set up.

If this is to costly, have an 'accident with the computor/his phone and replace it with one that does not acces the internet.

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