14 Years After Becoming Transgender, Teacher Says ‘It Was A Mistake’

[angels4u]

And God saw that it was good. Then God said, "Let Us make man in our image, in Uur likeness, and let them rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air, over the livestock, over all the earth, and over all the creatures that move along the ground" Gen 1:26

Genesis 1:28-29 

28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”

29 Then God said, “I give you every seed-bearing plant on the face of the whole earth and every tree that has fruit with seed in it. They will be yours for food.

Genesis 2:23-24 

23 The man said,

“This is now bone of my bones
    and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
    for she was taken out of man.”

24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh.

Matthew 19:3-6 New International Version 

3 Some Pharisees came to him to test him. They asked, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife for any and every reason?”

4 “Haven’t you read,” he replied, “that at the beginning the Creator ‘made them male and female, 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh’? 6 So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Mark 10:6-9 

6 “But at the beginning of creation God ‘made them male and female.’7 ‘For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, 8 and the two will become one flesh.So they are no longer two, but one flesh. 9 Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate.”

Ephesians 5:28-32

28 In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30 because we are members of his body.31 “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” 32 This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.

Genesis 1:28,  "And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and replenish the earth, and subdue it: and have dominion over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over every living thing that moveth upon the earth."

 

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14 Years After Becoming Transgender, Teacher Says ‘It Was A Mistake’

After much soul-searching, this teacher says, ‘I have come to the realization that I made a mistake. I am living my life as honestly as I can.’

By Walt Heyer

FEBRUARY 5, 2019

Fourteen years ago, school teacher Herb McCaffrey made the local news by deciding to live as a female with the name Kerri. After much soul-searching, however, this teacher says, “Since then I have come to the realization that I made a mistake. I am living my life as honestly as I can. I am working as ‘Ms. McCaffrey.’ I have learned to love both the reading and writing of poetry. I try to be as graceful in life as I can. I put my heart and soul into being the best I can be. God is there for me each step of the way—but only by being totally honest in prayer.”

Kerri’s kind of transparency is rare because it is uncompromising in knowing “God is there for me.” Kerri says this comes from the core of the teacher’s soul, knowing it is time to set the record right with God.

Here Is Some of Kerri’s Story

I have come to know Kerri over the last year or so, spending time together and finding Kerri to be a bright, honest, sensitive, and caring person who now realizes changing genders was a mistake. Kerri originally contacted me because Kerri found my website, and we became friends as a result of having much in common with our transgender journeys.

Kerri transitioned at age 41; I transitioned at age 42. We both were heterosexual men who had married wonderful women and had great careers. We were each a father to two children and loved our family. We were not homosexual—our struggles were with our gender persona.

Kerri was looking for answers about the time Renee Richards captivated the world playing tennis in the U.S. Open as a transsexual woman and felt this was a new direction in life. Like Kerri, Richards later had regrets, as The New York Times revealed in a 2007 article titled “The Lady Regrets.”

I learned about “sex change surgeries” when former U.S. Marine Christine Jorgensen made headlines in 1952 as the first person to undergo sex-change surgery and hormone treatments in Denmark. Jorgensen continued to make headlines. He drank all day to excess and was a chain smoker. Jorgensen’s health deteriorated, and he died at age 62.

As a boy named Herb, Kerri grew up in the idyllic setting of Hawthorne, New York, directly next to a Dominican convent with a raspberry farm, fields, and orchards. Life was delicious. Herb loved the outdoors, romped around David Rockefeller’s Hudson Pines farm, and sat in crabapple trees praying as the nuns sang heavenly vespers close by.

I grew up in California near downtown Los Angeles. There were no orchards or raspberry fields on the streets where I lived, but it was so idyllic our street would have made a good canvas for a Norman Rockwell painting. Herb and I were just boys, each struggling with our core identity growing up. The media stories of transgender celebrities lit the match that started each of us on a transgender journey. Eventually, we both came to admit it was a mistake we regret.

How Kerri’s Mixed Feelings Began

Kerri remembers the childhood feelings as boy Herb: “Into this beautiful place inner confusion started snaking its way toward my heart and soul. I would be at our summer pool—Rocky Ledge, in North White Plains, New York, and would see the girls playing hopscotch, or cat’s cradle with yarn, or jumping rope. I didn’t want to be playing cards with the boys—hearts, black jack, and rummy—I wanted to be with the girls. I began to feel a knot inside which I could not tell anyone about.”

Herb soon felt he wanted to be a girl. By age ten, his desire felt set in concrete, but Herb had shared it with no one. His parents moved the family to a well-heeled town in New Jersey where, Kerri says, “I would dress as the young lady I thought I was, hiding bracelets or necklaces under my long-sleeves.”

Herb grew into an excellent swimmer; he was even nominated to West Point by Rep. Millicent Fenwick, but did not follow that path, and eventually graduated from college. Herb married and became the father of two sons. But eventually Herb became convinced the answer to his feelings was to become “that someone else” he had thought about as a kid. Divorce ensued.

At age 41, Herb underwent gender reassignment surgery in Canada, and became the first openly transgender teacher in New Jersey to retain his position. At first, life as a woman was exciting, Kerri says. There was a relief in being able to dress and act as Kerri wanted. But as the years went by, Kerri felt more spiritually uncomfortable as a woman than Kerri ever felt as Herb the man.

Kerri Regrets What Transgenderism Cost

Kerri lost a stable marriage to a wife who did everything she could to keep Herb stable. This father of two boys lost the ability to see his children whenever he wanted and to coach his boys in sports. Most of Herb’s friends went away. Relationships with siblings ended. The transition across the gender bridge, Kerri found, affects everything.

Now, when sitting in a pew at church and reflecting quietly, Kerri says, “I know that what I have done to my body and soul is wrong for me—this is the evidence that indicts. My family life was nearly destroyed by changing gender. I can only do a few things like pray and try over time to correct the mistake that was made.”

Kerri is still “Dad” to his boys. Kerri tried the “Mom” thing early on, and it didn’t work. Kerri says, “They have a mom already, and the truth is, biologically, I am a father—their father. My boys are comfortable calling me Dad.”

Kerri isn’t trying to stop others from transitioning, but to send up a caution flare to all considering it that the transgender journey may look attractive at first but may not turn out to be as enticing as it looks. As Kerri says, “We can take hormones, have surgeries—we can change our names—but we cannot change the core of our soul…If you are contemplating a change of gender, consider that you are not changing the reality of the natural world. This is transgender surgery—it is not a spirit transplant.”

As a transgender person, Kerri has “talked the talk and walked the walk” for 14 years. As teacher “Ms. McCaffrey,” even with regret, Kerri is part of the transgender population’s diversity.

People Regret Becoming Trans All the Time

Transgender regret is not rare at all. Many regrettable outcomes from “sex changes” are featured in my newly released book, “Trans Life Survivors.” Even the liberal-leaning Guardian reported in a 2004 article that “Sex Changes Not Effective, Say Researchers.” The article explains, “Research from the US and Holland suggests that up to a fifth of patients regret changing sex.” That 20 percent regret rate confirms Kerri, Richards, and I are not alone in our regret.

Regrettable outcomes deserve to be taken seriously, not scorned or marginalized.

We should not be surprised by Kerri saying it was a mistake. Transgender activists 40 years ago were told gender changes would only provide a “temporary reprieve,” not a lifelong treatment solution for gender distress or dysphoria.

Dr. Charles L. Ihlenfeld, a homosexual and transgender activist endocrinologist who administered hormone therapy to some 500 transgenders over a six-year period at a New York gender clinic, claimed a sex change is by no means a solution to life’s problems. He thinks of it more as a kind of reprieve. “It buys maybe 10 or 15 years of a happier life,” he said.

Kerri’s female identity has lasted 14 years, falling into the timeframe Ihlenfeld predicted 40 years ago. Ihlenfeld said that 80 percent of the patients who want to change their sex shouldn’t do it because “There is too much unhappiness among people who have had the surgery. Too many of them end as suicides.” No one was listening to the doctor then; are we willing to listen now? Regrettable outcomes deserve to be taken seriously, not scorned or marginalized.

Many people, including doctors and researchers, are sounding the warning that the transgender bridge is rickety and unstable. More people who choose detransition are uploading their stories in videos to YouTube. More websites are discussing regrettable outcomes, and posting stories, such as Harvestusa.org, Sexchangeregret.com, 4thWaveNow.com, and Help4Families.org.

The Harvest USA website says, “These transition stories are important because they present a reality that the general media blithely ignores. Our culture’s aggressive push to disconnect gender from biological sex, rooted not in reality but ideology, does not always lead to ‘authentic lives’ and happy endings.”

I Regret My Transgender Life Now, Too

When I became Laura Jensen, a transgender female, at the hands of Dr. Stanly Biber in 1983, I was told hormones and surgery was the only treatment for gender dysphoria. As Laura Jensen, I was welcomed into a California church and through prayer came to realize my gender change was unnecessary and a mistake.

I knew the gender change came from disordered thoughts about who I was. I learned hormones and surgery cannot change me from a man into a woman—that is biologically impossible. Gender and sex are fixed and innate at conception and unchangeable, no matter how expertly the doctors try with hormones and surgery.

More than anything, I wanted my real life back. I turned to Jesus Christ in prayer for years, along with others I asked to pray for me. The Lord did redeem and restore my life, starting on April 6, 1990, and I never looked back except to say, “Thank you, Jesus. Redemption is wonderful.”

Kerri has nothing to gain by telling this story, but Kerri’s faith in God has bestowed the courage to set the record straight and openly share what Kerri has learned. To one with such bravery I say, “Thank you, Kerri, and bravo for acknowledging the transgender life, for you, was a mistake.”

All Transgender Journeys Should Include Stopping Points

Both Kerri and I want people to think carefully before encouraging or guiding anyone, especially children, into a transgender identity, because the consequences can be devastating and irreversible.

Kerri says: ‘Be brave. Be faithful. Be resolute.’

All children are curious about gender. That is normal. Don’t panic, don’t scold the child, and do not make the child feel ashamed of his curiosity, because curiosity does not equal gender dysphoria or a future transition. Avoid any shame or punishment, because that can force the child into isolation. In isolation disordered affections and faulty thinking can take hold.

Kerri says: “Be brave. Be faithful. Be resolute. Before you help [children] change their bodies or gender, teach them about their souls. I must live with mine for eternity; that’s why I wrote this.”

The media is pushing the “T” agenda of the LGBTQ on society, making a change of gender sound promising. Kerri says, “Perhaps they are correct: I can’t speak for anyone but myself and my 14 years of experience. If you need help, talk to someone. I would help you to a professional myself. But on your own, add prayer to your journey.”

Few in the media are willing to accept that transgender people with regrets exist and their stories give a much-needed balance to the conversation. Their voices deserve to be heard, too. It’s time to offer the same compassionate support, protections, and equality as had been afforded them when they transitioned the other way.

Walt Heyer is an accomplished author and public speaker with a passion for mentoring individuals whose lives have been torn apart by unnecessary gender-change surgery.http://thefederalist.com/2019/02/05/14-years-becoming-transgender-teacher-says-mistake/

 

 

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[Tzephanyahu]

Shalom angels,

I think this growing trend of transgender adults and children, which has suddenly flourished over the past few years, upsets us all.  This confusion has always been present but once political correctness, self-righteous movements and the medical industry get behind this and fuel it - it's an open invite for all who are struggling to understand themselves.

"Therefore God gave them up to uncleanness, in lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshipped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen." - Romans 1:24-25 (NKJV)

This butchery of the body, however delicate and elegant in the eyes of the surgeon, will always have repercussions in ways we can not possible calculate. Physically, psychologically, sociologically and spiritually. So very sad.

Love & Shalom

[angels4u]

11 hours ago, Tzephanyahu said:

Shalom angels,

I think this growing trend of transgender adults and children, which has suddenly flourished over the past few years, upsets us all.  This confusion has always been present but once political correctness, self-righteous movements and the medical industry get behind this and fuel it - it's an open invite for all who are struggling to understand themselves.

"Therefore God gave them up to uncleanness, in lusts of their hearts, to dishonor their bodies among themselves, who exchanged the truth of God for the lie, and worshipped and served the creature rather than the Creator, who is blessed forever. Amen." - Romans 1:24-25 (NKJV)

This butchery of the body, however delicate and elegant in the eyes of the surgeon, will always have repercussions in ways we can not possible calculate. Physically, psychologically, sociologically and spiritually. So very sad.

Love & Shalom

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How would we handle it when we have a child who tells us that they feel like the other gender and wants to have a transgender operation? I'm sure this question will come up for lots of parents..

[Tzephanyahu]

23 minutes ago, angels4u said:

How would we handle it when we have a child who tells us that they feel like the other gender and wants to have a transgender operation? I'm sure this question will come up for lots of parents..

Shalom

That's only part of the problem. The sad truth is that you would be blasted across the news and social media and even risk losing your child if you tried to encourage them to stay true to there God-given body.  In some matters, the world dictates the way to raise your child and you will be quickly vilified if you disagree.

Christians were once seen as the moral anchor in the west, always there in times of trouble. Now, we're seen as out-of-touch, old fashioned and bigoted. 

Lord come back soon and save us from this madness and our children from this confusion! 

My heart goes out to all parents in this situation. And as for those parents who encourage it, what if your grandmother advised your father to do the same thing as a child? Would you happily forfeit your life so that your father could have grown up more comfortable with his sexuality? 

[frienduff thaylorde]

1 hour ago, angels4u said:

How would we handle it when we have a child who tells us that they feel like the other gender and wants to have a transgender operation? I'm sure this question will come up for lots of parents..

We raise a child up in they way he or she should go .    I can offer frienduffs health class One o One if we need those reminders .

Its real simple .   GOD made you as you are .    If you born with male parts you grow up to become a man .

If you born with female parts you grow up to be a woman .

When you are grown a man marries a woman or remains single according to his call.

Same with a woman , she marries a man or remains single according to her call .

Now how simple is that .    Oh and no fornication .     Marriage only .    For purpose of marriage please refer to the above said statement of frienduffs BC health class . 

Biblically correct health class.

IN the end we stand before GOD , not men , not govts , not trends .   GOD .  

Thus let it be said ,  it is written we shall not live by bread alone , but by every Word of GOD .   By the power of HIS SPIRIT given us IN CHRIST .

Know and understand this message will not be politcallly accepted .  BUT IT IS BIBLCALLY CORRECT .    And we KNOW OUR LORD .   

[angels4u]

 

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The bill, also known as Supporting Children, Youth and Families Act, 2017, repeals and replaces the former Child and Family Services Act that governs child protection services and adoption and foster care services. 

"Gender identity" and "gender expression" are required to be considered "in the best interests of the child. 

The bill entirely ignores the parents' religion and faith and mandates that child protection services consider only the child's own "creed" or "religion" when looking at the best interests for the child. 

"With the passage of Bill 89, we've entered an era of totalitarian power by the state, such as never witnessed before in Canada's history," Jack Fonseca, senior political strategist for Campaign Life Coalition, said. 

"Make no mistake, Bill 89 is a grave threat to Christians and all people of faith who have children, or who hope to grow their family through adoption," he added. 

Life Site repots the Minister of Child and Family Services Michael Coteau says if a child is told to change from being transgender, that should be considered child abuse. 

"I would consider that a form of abuse, when a child identifies one way and a caregiver is saying no, you need to do this differently," he said.

"If it's abuse, and if it's within the definition, a child can be removed from that environment and placed into protection where the abuse stops," he added. 

Pro-life activist and project manager for the Campaign Life Coalition, Jack Fonseca says the police will now be able to bust down your door if your child is not allowed to be gay or transgender. 

Children's Aid agencies also reportedly now have "a type of police power to bust down your door, and seize your biological children if you are known to oppose LGBT ideology and the fraudulent theory of 'gender identity', if for instance, some claim is made that your child may be same-sex attracted or confused about their 'gender,'" Fonseca said. 

Fonseca says he found out about several couples who were turned down for adoption on account for their religious beliefs about tradition and sexuality. 

He argues that a lack of leadership by Christians is destroying the country. 

"The lack of spiritual leadership is killing us. Every single time that Liberals, either federally or provincially, roll out the LGBT juggernaut to take away our rights, or to demonize us as bigots, we hear nothing but silence from the Church. This has to stop."https://www1.cbn.com/cbnnews/world/2017/june/ontario-says-lgbt-rights-overrule-rights-of-christian-parents

[frienduff thaylorde]

2 minutes ago, angels4u said:

 

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The bill, also known as Supporting Children, Youth and Families Act, 2017, repeals and replaces the former Child and Family Services Act that governs child protection services and adoption and foster care services. 

"Gender identity" and "gender expression" are required to be considered "in the best interests of the child. 

The bill entirely ignores the parents' religion and faith and mandates that child protection services consider only the child's own "creed" or "religion" when looking at the best interests for the child. 

"With the passage of Bill 89, we've entered an era of totalitarian power by the state, such as never witnessed before in Canada's history," Jack Fonseca, senior political strategist for Campaign Life Coalition, said. 

"Make no mistake, Bill 89 is a grave threat to Christians and all people of faith who have children, or who hope to grow their family through adoption," he added. 

Life Site repots the Minister of Child and Family Services Michael Coteau says if a child is told to change from being transgender, that should be considered child abuse. 

"I would consider that a form of abuse, when a child identifies one way and a caregiver is saying no, you need to do this differently," he said.

"If it's abuse, and if it's within the definition, a child can be removed from that environment and placed into protection where the abuse stops," he added. 

Pro-life activist and project manager for the Campaign Life Coalition, Jack Fonseca says the police will now be able to bust down your door if your child is not allowed to be gay or transgender. 

Children's Aid agencies also reportedly now have "a type of police power to bust down your door, and seize your biological children if you are known to oppose LGBT ideology and the fraudulent theory of 'gender identity', if for instance, some claim is made that your child may be same-sex attracted or confused about their 'gender,'" Fonseca said. 

Fonseca says he found out about several couples who were turned down for adoption on account for their religious beliefs about tradition and sexuality. 

He argues that a lack of leadership by Christians is destroying the country. 

"The lack of spiritual leadership is killing us. Every single time that Liberals, either federally or provincially, roll out the LGBT juggernaut to take away our rights, or to demonize us as bigots, we hear nothing but silence from the Church. This has to stop."https://www1.cbn.com/cbnnews/world/2017/june/ontario-says-lgbt-rights-overrule-rights-of-christian-parents

Did you know?

And folks think we aint In the last days .

Has evil always been in this world .  Yes .

BUT its never been so honored , celebrated in the streets as Sodom did , never been so glorified and honored as it is today .  And no one can say otherwise .

All we can do is continue to preach Christ , to build up one another with Sound pure biblical doctrine .  warn , remind , encourage all to stand firm and faithful to the end .

And now a word from OUR LORD right before the jews were taken captive by babylone into judgment .

YE are as Sodom    ,  sin is no longer hid,  its celebrated Right in the streets .     I say that , because GOD don't change. 

When folks do not want God n their conscious , no reminder of Him ,   romans one says what happens , He gives them over to this mind .

WELL ,  we got a roman one level reprobation ,  ON THE WORLD .     SO its a world wide judgment that is on the way .   

Let us quickly remember these words too .    And in the latter times of their kingdoms, WHEN the transgressors have come to the FULL  THEN STANDS ANTI CHRIST .

Whom our LORD will destroy at HIS COMING .    But we are nigh the climatic end of the battle , and even now the dark spirits are fast at work

creating an all inclusive one world one mindset all accepting religion ,FROM WHICH THE BEAST SHALL RISE .     These are the LAST of the last of the last of days .

And the lie , the delusion , it don't care what religion you are or non religious ,  ITS SUCKING ALL UP into its web . ALL BUT THE TRUE LAMBS .

But they the ones this beast shall turn full force against .

[angels4u]

1 hour ago, frienduff thaylorde said:

And folks think we aint In the last days .

Has evil always been in this world .  Yes .

BUT its never been so honored , celebrated in the streets as Sodom did , never been so glorified and honored as it is today .  And no one can say otherwise .

All we can do is continue to preach Christ , to build up one another with Sound pure biblical doctrine .  warn , remind , encourage all to stand firm and faithful to the end .

And now a word from OUR LORD right before the jews were taken captive by babylone into judgment .

YE are as Sodom    ,  sin is no longer hid,  its celebrated Right in the streets .     I say that , because GOD don't change. 

When folks do not want God n their conscious , no reminder of Him ,   romans one says what happens , He gives them over to this mind .

WELL ,  we got a roman one level reprobation ,  ON THE WORLD .     SO its a world wide judgment that is on the way .   

Let us quickly remember these words too .    And in the latter times of their kingdoms, WHEN the transgressors have come to the FULL  THEN STANDS ANTI CHRIST .

Whom our LORD will destroy at HIS COMING .    But we are nigh the climatic end of the battle , and even now the dark spirits are fast at work

creating an all inclusive one world one mindset all accepting religion ,FROM WHICH THE BEAST SHALL RISE .     These are the LAST of the last of the last of days .

And the lie , the delusion , it don't care what religion you are or non religious ,  ITS SUCKING ALL UP into its web . ALL BUT THE TRUE LAMBS .

But they the ones this beast shall turn full force against .

What if your child has made up their mind to be another gender,what would you do?

 

Jesus is Coming
…10Then he told me, “Do not seal up the words of prophecy in this book, because the time is near. 11Let the unrighteous continue to be unrighteous, and the vile continue to be vile; let the righteous continue to practice righteousness, and the holy continue to be holy.”12“Behold, I am coming quickly, and My reward is with Me, to give to each one according to what he has done.…

[frienduff thaylorde]

7 minutes ago, angels4u said:

What if your child has made up their mind to be another gender,what would you do?

 

Jesus is Coming
…10Then he told me, “Do not seal up the words of prophecy in this book, because the time is near. 11Let the unrighteous continue to be unrighteous, and the vile continue to be vile; let the righteous continue to practice righteousness, and the holy continue to be holy.”12“Behold, I am coming quickly, and My reward is with Me, to give to each one according to what he has done.…

Angels for you , you got prayed for this evening at prayer .  You are loved dear sister . AND yes THE COMING OFTHE LORD DRAWS NIGH .

[angels4u]

7 minutes ago, frienduff thaylorde said:

Angels for you , you got prayed for this evening at prayer .  You are loved dear sister . AND yes THE COMING OFTHE LORD DRAWS NIGH .

What if your child has made up their mind to be another gender, what would you do?

Many Christian parents would have to deal with this..