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How do we avoid being angry with those who make no effort to avoid pushing your buttons again and again? 

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Pray for them. Ask the Lord to work on your heart. Forgiveness isnt always easy but it can be done with the Lord's help.

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2 hours ago, ContinuingCorletta said:

How do we avoid being angry with those who make no effort to avoid pushing your buttons again and again? 

We forgive them because that is what the Bible tells us we should do. Not for their benefit because they don't care but so bitterness and anger does not eat us up. We pray for them and also so God will remove the anger from our heart. We put them in God's hands. They will have to answer to God. We do not have to have contact or a relationship with that person ever again. We are not door mats so we do not need to be trampled on over and over again. Toxic people are not happy. 

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2 hours ago, ContinuingCorletta said:

How do we avoid being angry with those who make no effort to avoid pushing your buttons again and again? 

Dr. Rick Rigby's "The Wisdom of a Third Grade Dropout"

(speech online and his book by the same title).

God bless.

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15 hours ago, ContinuingCorletta said:

How do we avoid being angry with those who make no effort to avoid pushing your buttons again and again?

Speak to them and tell them how offencive/hurtful you find there actions/words and ask them to stop.

If they don't or won't ask a church elder to come with you to talk to them.

If they still won't change, have nothing to do with them.

Sit else where in the church, unfriend in facebook etc etc etc.

Finaly commit the whole situation to God. Tell him about your frustratioin, your hurt, feelings of rejection etc ask God to challenge them in how they behave and pray seriously for their good.

Note, You Do Not have to forgive them. All you have to do is commit them over to God, them and all your feelings about it.

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Within the church there's a protocol for dealing with people in error as mentioned in Matthew 18:15 and onward, but I think it works out nicely for personal relations in general. Talk to them alone, then talk to them with two or three others present, then take it before the church if you still need to. After that if the problem persists you don't have to have anything more to do with them. Even for dealing with people outside of the church the general principles are valid. You can forgive a person but you don't have to expose yourself to them if they've proven to be a constant problem. One way of demonstrating your forgiveness is to pray for them.

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7 hours ago, Who me said:

Speak to them and tell them how offencive/hurtful you find there actions/words and ask them to stop.

If they don't or won't ask a church elder to come with you to talk to them.

If they still won't change, have nothing to do with them.

Sit else where in the church, unfriend in facebook etc etc etc.

Finaly commit the whole situation to God. Tell him about your frustratioin, your hurt, feelings of rejection etc ask God to challenge them in how they behave and pray seriously for their good.

Note, You Do Not have to forgive them. All you have to do is commit them over to God, them and all your feelings about it.

I have forgiven this person because I want be forgiven by the Father for times I've done wrong. 

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On 4/29/2019 at 7:58 PM, ContinuingCorletta said:

How do we avoid being angry with those who make no effort to avoid pushing your buttons again and again? 

If pushed into a corner, you can tell them what's on your mind. It's better than letting it build up till you blow up. And it's wise, I think, to have as little to do as possible with such people.

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Two things come to mind: Kill them with kindness.....Paul said to be extra kind to these people , it should be like “ putting burning coal to their heads”

You could just give it to God.....“Vengeance is mine— I shall repay”

 

Dont forget to pray for the jerks....

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