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Is it sinful to be irritated by someone who constantly swings their foot or twiddles their fingers or toes every time you are with them?  

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1 hour ago, ContinuingCorletta said:

Is it sinful to be irritated by someone who constantly swings their foot or twiddles their fingers or toes every time you are with them?  

Maybe you need to ask that person why they do that. Sometimes people do things that irritate us. That is were patience comes in. It is one of the fruit of the spirit. 

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2 hours ago, ContinuingCorletta said:

Is it sinful to be irritated by someone who constantly swings their foot or twiddles their fingers or toes every time you are with them?  

Shalom ContinuingCorletta

No, not at all. Rest at ease! 

This is just one of our pesky fleshy reactions - both fiddling and getting irritated. 

Instead, distract yourself with theories as to why. Observing:

  • Is it only in certain situations 
  • Is it related to a theme of discussion
  • Does it intensify over certain subjects
  • Is it just for physical comfort or does it look like nerves
  • What situations do they do it the least (and what do those situations have in common) 

That's the old psychologist speaking with me! But, by doing this, it might give you insight as to why and less irritation over the matter.  The fiddling will have a cause, reason and affect for them - so you may as well try to understand it out of interest, now that you've already ticked the irritated box :)

I hope it goes well! 

Love & Shalom 

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8 hours ago, ContinuingCorletta said:

Is it sinful to be irritated by someone who constantly swings their foot or twiddles their fingers or toes every time you are with them?  

Your question can be rephrased as "Is it sinful to have feelings when X occurs?"

What do you think is the answer(s) to your question?

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Sounds like nervous ticks. I think they call that "self-touch as a means of self-comfort". They're nervous, and so they fiddle about.

I do it a bit myself. I might rub my fingers together (what I call my invisible "worry token," like i'm rubbing a coin) or more commonly, I stroke my goatee both because it's fun and a less obvious nervous tick.

I don't know what you could do, other than try to understand, or otherwise ask them if they're okay and assure them that they can relax.

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Okay, so this was posted two days ago. Two answered that day, one yesterday, this will make the second reply for today. I don't see a response, so my my questions are not likely to be seen, unless by some slim chance. But I'll take a swing at the plate, so to speak, with this comment. Then a question or two perhaps. Sounds as if this person either is having some issues with a border-line nervous oriented genetic situation, such as autism. OR it could be an OCD thing, Obsessive Compulsion Disorder. MAYBE.

It would be unfortunate to think this person does this intentionally, and to annoy. Now the questions. Have you noticed if by chance, this sort of behavior in the presence of anyone else? If not, as to say no, this person doesn't do this with others, then I suspect he/she is nervous and/or anxious around you. Which brings up the next possible situation. Could it be because you're a Christian, and this person is not? If not, it might be signs of uncomfortable feelings around you, and conviction. Just a thought or two. God bless!

Shalom, 

David/BeauJangles

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On 5/8/2019 at 8:45 PM, ContinuingCorletta said:

Is it sinful to be irritated by someone who constantly swings their foot or twiddles their fingers or toes every time you are with them?  

There are far worse things a person can do than swinging their foot or twiddling their fingers or toes every time you are with them, aren't there?

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I was married to a person who bit his fingernails.  It made me tense as well.  But there were so many wonderful qualities that dwarfed this habit so I tried to ignore it a forbear it in love. After all, I may have habits that irritate him as well that he must put up with.  We overlook the minor stuff sometimes.  They are not important in the greater scheme of things.

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On ‎5‎/‎9‎/‎2019 at 5:27 AM, Billiards Ball said:

Your question can be rephrased as "Is it sinful to have feelings when X occurs?"

What do you think is the answer(s) to your question?

I suppose it matters if I continue to dwell on it, rather than to dwell on what I like about that person and what I see as worthy of praise in that person. I'm trying to change my mindset, by the grace of God.

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21 hours ago, johnthebaptist said:

There are far worse things a person can do than swinging their foot or twiddling their fingers or toes every time you are with them, aren't there?

I haven't thought about that, but I'm sure there are.

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