Figure of eighty Posted May 31, 2019 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 7 Topic Count: 239 Topics Per Day: 0.12 Content Count: 1,542 Content Per Day: 0.77 Reputation: 865 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/15/2018 Status: Offline Share Posted May 31, 2019 (edited) As my due date approaches. My anxiety increases about loving my baby and raising him right. Like making sure he has this or that, he grows up well adjusted ...and that everything is okay. I worry about my baby alot. I worry about not being a good enough mom and i worry about not connecting with my baby emotionally when they get here.... Idk im just a ball of fear right now... Because my baby deserves the best and.. Its just alot of pressure. Then I worry about going crazy and not being sane enough for my baby....im really disappointed in myself..im just shaking. For those that are parents...how did you survive these thoughts? Edited May 31, 2019 by Figure of eighty 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Who me Posted May 31, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 17 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 3,272 Content Per Day: 1.73 Reputation: 1,677 Days Won: 0 Joined: 01/27/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted May 31, 2019 I can only comment as a Father. You do because you have to. Basicly what evidence do you have that you won't be a' good' Mother? Let me tell you a secret. Your baby will love you totally, with no reservations. That baby won't care how you look, whether your love in your opion isn't good enough, it will LOVE you and will depend on you. It won't care whether you bond with it or have an 'emotional connection' ( what ever that is! ) Your baby will LOVE you and depend on you. So you care for it. Talk to it, sing to it, carry it, let it sleep. Keep it clean etc. If you are crying, unable to get out of bed, feeling nothing is worth doing! Talk to your husband and get medical help. Otherwise look after your baby, get as much sleep as you can and simple enjoy having it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debp Posted May 31, 2019 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 52 Topic Count: 1,010 Topics Per Day: 0.15 Content Count: 12,205 Content Per Day: 1.79 Reputation: 16,281 Days Won: 92 Joined: 07/19/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted May 31, 2019 I'm not a parent so I hope you don't mind me answering. I think when your baby is born that you will just love him or her. That will transcend your fears, I think. Too, the baby will get your mind off of yourself which will help. If you need help, do you have a nice church? Maybe some ladies might help a little? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Figure of eighty Posted May 31, 2019 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 7 Topic Count: 239 Topics Per Day: 0.12 Content Count: 1,542 Content Per Day: 0.77 Reputation: 865 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/15/2018 Status: Offline Author Share Posted May 31, 2019 6 hours ago, Who me said: I can only comment as a Father. You do because you have to. Basicly what evidence do you have that you won't be a' good' Mother? Let me tell you a secret. Your baby will love you totally, with no reservations. That baby won't care how you look, whether your love in your opion isn't good enough, it will LOVE you and will depend on you. It won't care whether you bond with it or have an 'emotional connection' ( what ever that is! ) Your baby will LOVE you and depend on you. So you care for it. Talk to it, sing to it, carry it, let it sleep. Keep it clean etc. If you are crying, unable to get out of bed, feeling nothing is worth doing! Talk to your husband and get medical help. Otherwise look after your baby, get as much sleep as you can and simple enjoy having it. Thank you im feeling alot better now.. I just had a late night anxiety crisis. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Figure of eighty Posted May 31, 2019 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 7 Topic Count: 239 Topics Per Day: 0.12 Content Count: 1,542 Content Per Day: 0.77 Reputation: 865 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/15/2018 Status: Offline Author Share Posted May 31, 2019 3 hours ago, Debp said: I'm not a parent so I hope you don't mind me answering. I think when your baby is born that you will just love him or her. That will transcend your fears, I think. Too, the baby will get your mind off of yourself which will help. If you need help, do you have a nice church? Maybe some ladies might help a little? Idk id they have a group like that at church. Well my church. Im gonna try and look for a support group. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LadyKay Posted May 31, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 12 Topic Count: 385 Topics Per Day: 0.10 Content Count: 7,692 Content Per Day: 1.94 Reputation: 4,809 Days Won: 3 Joined: 05/28/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted May 31, 2019 9 hours ago, Figure of eighty said: I worry about my baby alot. I worry about not being a good enough mom Welcome to parenthood. There is not a mother who has not had these same worries. Even after the children are grown we still worry about them. But in the end everything will be alright. Somehow it all works out. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missmuffet Posted May 31, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 34 Topic Count: 1,989 Topics Per Day: 0.49 Content Count: 48,687 Content Per Day: 11.89 Reputation: 30,342 Days Won: 226 Joined: 01/11/2013 Status: Offline Share Posted May 31, 2019 10 hours ago, Figure of eighty said: As my due date approaches. My anxiety increases about loving my baby and raising him right. Like making sure he has this or that, he grows up well adjusted ...and that everything is okay. I worry about my baby alot. I worry about not being a good enough mom and i worry about not connecting with my baby emotionally when they get here.... Idk im just a ball of fear right now... Because my baby deserves the best and.. Its just alot of pressure. Then I worry about going crazy and not being sane enough for my baby....im really disappointed in myself..im just shaking. For those that are parents...how did you survive these thoughts? Being a Christian and fear do not go together. Give yourself and your unborn child to God and then.......HAVE FAITH Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Figure of eighty Posted May 31, 2019 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 7 Topic Count: 239 Topics Per Day: 0.12 Content Count: 1,542 Content Per Day: 0.77 Reputation: 865 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/15/2018 Status: Offline Author Share Posted May 31, 2019 1 hour ago, LadyKay said: Welcome to parenthood. There is not a mother who has not had these same worries. Even after the children are grown we still worry about them. But in the end everything will be alright. Somehow it all works out. Yeah this is true. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dr3032 Posted May 31, 2019 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 13 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 332 Content Per Day: 0.16 Reputation: 273 Days Won: 0 Joined: 06/23/2018 Status: Offline Share Posted May 31, 2019 I'm not a parent, but I might try to offer advice. What we do with sorrow and/or worry is what determines what comes after. Essentially, "on the battlefield, it's all about how you react". A good watchman on the wall is a vigilant creature - His eyes dart about and his ears are to the wind. He may come across as paranoid to his more lazy coworkers, but who's going to be caught dozing off when the enemy toots their horn? Who is going to see it coming, and will thus likewise be better able to prepare themselves and their allies? These feelings you're having, they will help you to be a mother. You just have to try and remember to be calm and rational, as a soldier might be. Have faith that regardless of what might come, everything will be okay. Trust in the Lord. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
diane32 Posted May 31, 2019 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 5 Topic Count: 12 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 159 Content Per Day: 0.03 Reputation: 292 Days Won: 0 Joined: 03/28/2010 Status: Offline Share Posted May 31, 2019 11 hours ago, Figure of eighty said: As my due date approaches. My anxiety increases about loving my baby and raising him right. Like making sure he has this or that, he grows up well adjusted ...and that everything is okay. I worry about my baby alot. I worry about not being a good enough mom and i worry about not connecting with my baby emotionally when they get here.... Idk im just a ball of fear right now... Because my baby deserves the best and.. Its just alot of pressure. Then I worry about going crazy and not being sane enough for my baby....im really disappointed in myself..im just shaking. For those that are parents...how did you survive these thoughts? I am a mother of 2 son's Jordan 19 and Nathan 14...I was full of anxiety as a single mum so I totally understand your fears and anxiety. I have went through life feeling guilty about the mum I've been etc but when I got saved God helped me in so many situations with my boys...I prayed and He answered, I poured my heart out to Him and He poured His love into me, I asked for godly wisdom and patience and He gave them to me...sometimes I forget to pray and I go through hard times feeling alone and then I remembered I have a loving heavenly Father who can help me and my boys even in the most trying situations...it isn't easy but it's different when you have God to turn too...we learn and we grow and we struggle and we learn and grow...we will never be perfect parents we will make mistakes but as long as we trust God and turn to Him will do ok...Life can be tough but with God we are never alone He is our helper comforter friend and so much more...I pray all goes well with your baby and that you be pleasantly surprised at how well you take to being his/her mother and that God would calm your fears and anxiety and fill you with His peace that passes human understanding....Perfect love casts out all fear...you are a wonderful mum already, the fact that you care so much about all these things just shows how much you love your baby ? congratulations and enjoy this beautiful gift from your loving heavenly dad ? 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts