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Have you been baptized yet?  That is a step that might help you put the past behind you and help you identify with the body of Christ.  

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2 hours ago, Figure of eighty said:

I really do wish i could erase what I did but I can't-- so how do you deal with it?

Realize you're not perfect, except through the blood of Jesus.  Bring yourself, with all your failures and brokenness, into His presence, worship Him, and let Him pour His love over you, and into your heart ...... until all there is left is deep gratitude for all He's done.... He truly does love you.:emot-heartbeat:

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1 hour ago, Willa said:

Before you leave, since they have good sermons, it might help to ask the pastor if there is  a woman's group, or if there are other small groups that meet during the week.  Often these small groups are great for mentoring and they can be very compassionate and supportive when they realize that you are earnestly seeking God.  

they have groups but you have to attend regularly for like 4 weeks to join a specific group but if you miss too many days you have to start over.. where I am in my life-- I won't be able to attend regularly to get into a group..so i have to find one that has groups where I can just jump in.

 

I did find a single mom group but i only have one car and going a hundred places makes it difficult especially if Im not putting gas in

I think when I start working I'll try to attend that single mom group.

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40 minutes ago, Willa said:

Have you been baptized yet?  That is a step that might help you put the past behind you and help you identify with the body of Christ.  

Yes, received his spirit too. I just back slide extremely far.

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1 hour ago, JohnD said:

The same way everyone deals with it (including those you are worried about judging you), for we all have past sins we find hard to forgive ourselves for...

Give it to God and trust him that he can take care of it.

You'll drive yourself insane trying to carry these kinds of burdens on your own.

Anyone would.

it really is driving me crazy. Especially when stuff comes back up.

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25 minutes ago, Figure of eighty said:

it really is driving me crazy. Especially when stuff comes back up.

A wise person once told me... every time the devil reminds you of your past,

remind him of his future.

 

It puts things in perspective. Yes, there were times I literally mouthed the words.

But I also advise caution in "speaking to the devils."

One can find themselves in over their heads p.d.q.

they've been around a lot longer than us.

Some believers have the ministry and calling to do this sort of thing.

Thankfully I do not.

But you get the idea...

 

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46 minutes ago, Figure of eighty said:

they have groups but you have to attend regularly for like 4 weeks to join a specific group but if you miss too many days you have to start over.. where I am in my life-- I won't be able to attend regularly to get into a group..so i have to find one that has groups where I can just jump in.

 

Wow that is so .... rigid. The churches Ive been to were never like that. You were invited and welcomed even if you only attended once. 

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5 hours ago, Figure of eighty said:

For me my past ( intimiate) past is kind of eating away at me. It makes me uncomfortable and extremely insecure.

Though it may not be as bad as the norm its still enough to affect me. This is one of the main reasons I don't really 

go to church because I feel I stick out like a sore thumb, no one treats me different--everyone is cordial but it's just me in my own head judging myself amongst others. I also try to pursue higher education in hopes my degrees can cover up my mistakes or atleast soften the blow.

 

I really do wish i could erase what I did but I can't-- so how do you deal with it?

 

What I have learned through the years, is that we are our own worst enemy. I know that has been true for myself. There are at least three areas that I know of where guilt comes from:

                1. Satan

                2. Other people

                3. Myself

If I listen to these sources, I have difficulties too numerous to mention, let alone not being able to experience the complete forgiveness and peace of God. But when I listen to what God has to say in His word, such as:

Micah 7:19 (KJV)
19  He will turn again, he will have compassion upon us; he will subdue our iniquities; and thou wilt cast all their sins into the depths of the sea.

I have learned that since God has cast all my sin into the depths of the sea, that I need not go fishing for them.

And also:

Philippians 3:13-14 (KJV)
13  Brethren, I count not myself to have apprehended: but this one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind, and reaching forth unto those things which are before,
14  I press toward the mark for the prize of the high calling of God in Christ Jesus.

The apostle Paul had wasted the churches in the beginning, causing havoc and turmoil, putting many into prison, and even gave his approval to have Stephen put to death. I guess it would be correct to surmise that he had a lot of bad in his past that could have destroyed him, had he kept looking back. If a person keeps looking back at their past, they are unable to make any forward progress and may run into a lot of roadblocks and obstacles.

I used a true story on more than one occasion about my grandmother to illustrate the danger of always looking back, because if you are looking back, you may not be aware of what is in front of you. My grandmother was a talker among all talkers I had ever met in my life. One day she was walking down a street in downtown KC with some friends of hers. As she was walking, she was looking to her left towards her friends, talking as usual, and not paying attention to what was in front of her. And low and behold, there was a light pole in her path. When she run into it, well, the pole did not move. However, my grandmother moved. She moved from an upright position on her feet, to a position on the sidewalk on her back, and was knocked out cold.

The point is, looking back on our past will keep us from seeing who God really is and what He has in store for us. Trust the Lord, that according to His word your sins are forgiven and out of His sight.

Gary

P.S. My grandmother came out of it just fine and resumed her talking.

               

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5 hours ago, Figure of eighty said:

For me my past ( intimiate) past is kind of eating away at me. It makes me uncomfortable and extremely insecure.

Though it may not be as bad as the norm its still enough to affect me. This is one of the main reasons I don't really 

go to church because I feel I stick out like a sore thumb, no one treats me different--everyone is cordial but it's just me in my own head judging myself amongst others. I also try to pursue higher education in hopes my degrees can cover up my mistakes or atleast soften the blow.

 

I really do wish i could erase what I did but I can't-- so how do you deal with it?

The way I have dealt with it is to just open up and tell Jesus what happened and give him no excuses for my actions....    He has told us that he will basically let it go if we come to him and open ourselves up and have him as our Lord....    once you make that decision and place your future in his hands your past is over.

When others bring up the things they know you/I have done I just tell them yes that is true and I took it to Jesus and he dropped the charges and I hope you will do likewise.

I don't know anyone that doesn't have things in their pasts that they would love to have over to do things differently....

I tell myself that when the Devil brings up the past and he does so often that Jesus dropped the charges and he should go away and leave me alone....    when that doesn't work I remind him of his future and mine....

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