Polly89 Posted October 8, 2019 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 4 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/08/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted October 8, 2019 Hello. If someone made a mistake and had a child with a married man who’s also a muslim. Is it advisable as Christian to ask for child support? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Steward George Posted October 8, 2019 Group: Steward Followers: 110 Topic Count: 10,465 Topics Per Day: 1.26 Content Count: 27,767 Content Per Day: 3.33 Reputation: 15,458 Days Won: 129 Joined: 06/30/2001 Status: Online Birthday: 09/21/1971 Steward Share Posted October 8, 2019 Shalom Polly89, Welcome to Worthy Christian Forums. Please feel free to browse around and get to know everyone. If you have any questions please don't hesitate to ask. As soon as you post a few times and after they are approved, it'll tell us that you are "real" person and not a "bot", you'll be free to post throughout our forums and join our chat rooms. Forgive us for this minor inconvenience, however, we've had issues in the past with Spammers! This is a short tutorial video of how to get started with Worthy Christian Forums. As soon as you get out of Newbie status, you'll be able to add your profile picture. You may be interested in reading how WCF functions, and how the forums are set up, and other neat tricks to the forums. Read our insights into WCF. Let me share a little bit of my vision for the ministry in a parable. Let's say I'm throwing a big party and am inviting the world to the party (the forums) and I want everyone to have a great time, eating (reading through posts being fed), drinking (being encouraged to walk in His Word), and having fellowship with one another. In Israel, we have Shabbat meals -- and whenever you have 2 Jews -- you have 3 opinions -- it's GREAT to be opinionated. I encourage discussions ... but during our Shabbat meals ... we never ever get to the point in disagreements whereby food is being tossed and seriously yelling takes place! And if someone comes into the meal ... and starts throwing food ... and yells at everyone -- what do you suppose the head of the Shabbat meal will do? He'll escort those causing problems out of the house! Why? Because the whole reason for the gathering was to learn from one another ... to have a great time of fellowship! Some people like to constantly throw food and yell ... they won't last on Worthy ... because they missed the point of the party ... it's a prequel to the true party -- the Lamb's Supper! All I'm trying to provide is a place to allow true fellowship ... and discussions in love ... in the hopes it will be a catalyst for true REVIVAL based on REPENTANCE! I hope you have a blessed time at Worthy! Please use the REPORT POST feature (which can be found at the top right of all posts) any posts that you believe should be reviewed! We strive to have ALL members abide by our Terms of Service. While this message is "automated", please know that if you have any questions, feel free to shoot me off a private message which can be found at the top right to the left of your name. Your brother in the Lord with much agape love, George Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Henry_iain Posted October 8, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 39 Topic Count: 34 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 24,644 Content Per Day: 5.76 Reputation: 20,340 Days Won: 160 Joined: 08/05/2012 Status: Offline Birthday: 01/30/1985 Share Posted October 8, 2019 19 minutes ago, Polly89 said: Hello. If someone made a mistake and had a child with a married man who’s also a muslim. Is it advisable as Christian to ask for child support? Hi Polly. Welcome to Worthy. Could you elaborate a bit. We would like to help but we need some more info here. I am a social worker and have dealt with a situation similar to this. But I need to know more of the circumstances, if you feel free to do so. Also, I am in South Africa so I am not sure how it works where you are. But initially my answer would be yes, if the need is there, and the child can't otherwise be taken care of adequately, child support is advisable. The best interest of the child is to have his/her basic needs met. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Polly89 Posted October 8, 2019 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 4 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/08/2019 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 8, 2019 Hi lainL, Thank you for your response. It is a long story. I had to change countries and I’m currently seeking employment with a new born baby in East Africa and the father is in a Asia. I have sent several texts, he blocked me. I sent emails continuously and he finally responded but no action yet on how he will send the support. I thought maybe it wasn’t God’s will concerning this issue as I haven’t been able to find a book or verse in this regards. I ended up telling him I won’t follow him anymore to pay anything as I was exhausted. Should I continue to follow up or give up?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Henry_iain Posted October 8, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 39 Topic Count: 34 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 24,644 Content Per Day: 5.76 Reputation: 20,340 Days Won: 160 Joined: 08/05/2012 Status: Offline Birthday: 01/30/1985 Share Posted October 8, 2019 47 minutes ago, Polly89 said: Hi lainL, Thank you for your response. It is a long story. I had to change countries and I’m currently seeking employment with a new born baby in East Africa and the father is in a Asia. I have sent several texts, he blocked me. I sent emails continuously and he finally responded but no action yet on how he will send the support. I thought maybe it wasn’t God’s will concerning this issue as I haven’t been able to find a book or verse in this regards. I ended up telling him I won’t follow him anymore to pay anything as I was exhausted. Should I continue to follow up or give up?? Ah, you see, this changes things. Legally speaking, if you are in another country, that means it will be hard to get child support. It would depend on the countries involved. If he is willing to give support I think you should take it. God's provision for us can come from different sources. However, if he isn't willing, I wouldn't advise you to persue this further and rather seek alternatives support. It seems to me that you are in a place where you need to make some tough choices. Firstly, you need to do what is best for the child. Does the country you are in have a child support grant of some available to you? I will pray that you find employment quickly. I think you need to focus on seeking God now. And He does seem to be closing certain doors at the moment. And putting the past behind and building from where you would be the best I think. But this is just my initial thoughts and I will pray and think about this and might add to this later. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Polly89 Posted October 8, 2019 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 4 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/08/2019 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 8, 2019 Thanks a lot for the advice and prayers. God bless you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neighbor Posted October 8, 2019 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 18 Topic Count: 951 Topics Per Day: 0.35 Content Count: 13,556 Content Per Day: 5.03 Reputation: 9,037 Days Won: 6 Joined: 12/04/2016 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/03/1885 Share Posted October 8, 2019 Are You able to provide the parental support needed for your child? If not then perhaps placing your child elsewhere via adoption is the best mothering that you can realistically do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Polly89 Posted October 8, 2019 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 4 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/08/2019 Status: Offline Author Share Posted October 8, 2019 Yes. I am able to provide the parental support needed by the help of my family. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Repose Posted October 8, 2019 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 9 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 205 Content Per Day: 0.12 Reputation: 231 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/06/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted October 8, 2019 Others have stated good answers here. I just feel like putting in a side note. If he is still able to be contacted, it might be best to try and maintain a fair communication. This is the child's father. Even in another country, your child will get old enough and be curious about who their dad is. The dad may even wish to keep in contact for the sake of their child. My brother had a son with an ex of his. She eventually got tired of him and, child in hand, ran off. We have tried tracking her down since, as we bear her no ill will, and wish only to see him, but with no such luck. My parents have a grandson they haven't seen in years. I have a nephew who I might never know. My brother has a son who might not even know that my brother exists. Even in keeping herself and her son hidden, she takes child support from my brother. He's paying for a child he can't see or even speak to. Basically, if your child's dad or family wishes to keep in contact, please don't deny them unless it's necessary. For the child, it's nice to know where you come from. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BeauJangles Posted October 8, 2019 Group: Royal Member Followers: 44 Topic Count: 229 Topics Per Day: 0.06 Content Count: 10,900 Content Per Day: 2.93 Reputation: 12,145 Days Won: 68 Joined: 02/13/2014 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/14/1954 Share Posted October 8, 2019 6 hours ago, Polly89 said: Hello. If someone made a mistake and had a child with a married man who’s also a muslim. Is it advisable as Christian to ask for child support? 4 hours ago, Polly89 said: Hi lainL, Thank you for your response. It is a long story. I had to change countries and I’m currently seeking employment with a new born baby in East Africa and the father is in a Asia. I have sent several texts, he blocked me. I sent emails continuously and he finally responded but no action yet on how he will send the support. I thought maybe it wasn’t God’s will concerning this issue as I haven’t been able to find a book or verse in this regards. I ended up telling him I won’t follow him anymore to pay anything as I was exhausted. Should I continue to follow up or give up?? It sounds pretty complicated, and would by appearances seem the father isn't planning on cooperating either. I'm not sure how any legal actions can be taken in such a situation as this. In the USA, an unwilling father is required to submit to a DNA sample to establish proof of parenthood status previous to forcing payment from what's called a "dead-beat dad". If you're both now in different nations, that could pose a very problematic deal to be able to collect anything at all. 1 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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