To answer this, i need to speak plainly....
Never even toy with the idea of dating someone who is not born again, if you are....
If you do, and they are nice, interesting, sexy, smell good, have nice pecs, pretty eyes, long legs, and are fun to be with........you'll fall in love quickly, which generally means you have fallen in LUST.
You can call it a "crush" if you like....
And once you do that regarding an unbeliever, the devil owns you.
Now listen to me. Im going to give you a truth that can save your life...
When the Devil has you marked for destruction, He will send someone into your life.
That is 100% of the time.
He'll tempt you all the time, but when he is aiming for your total destruction.....your life, your witness, your future......he will send a person to you..
Often its the opposite sex.
Paul says to run from any chance you might fornicate. Not to resist it, not to debate it, not to pray about it, but to RUN FROM IT>......"flee".
Paul understands your body and your urges. = Heed him.
And dating is nearly the same thing, trying to happen..
Dating requires some self control, usually more then you have....
Enter at your own risk, if all your dating is just "you 2 all alone, most of the time".
I was about to title this thread "Dynamic Relationship Interaction", but I was prompted in the Spirit to symplify it to "An Interesting Challenge", which is what dynamic relationship interactions are to me.
Basically the word "dynamic", from the Greek dunamis, is synonymous with "power", so it is the power of relationships at work that I am referring to as an interesting challenge.
Key Verse: Romans 12:18
…17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Carefully consider what is right in the eyes of everybody. 18If it is possible on your part, live at peace with everyone. 19Do not avenge yourselves, beloved, but leave room for God’s wrath. For it is written: “Vengeance is Mine; I will repay, says the Lord.”…
Berean Study Bible Where it says "If it is possible" the phrase is translated from the Greek word dunatos, which signifies having power or ability.
Recently I have found the cummulative lack of empathy one of my friends manifests when we meet up and fellowship as brothers in Christ, an irritating problem.
Firstly, please empathise with me before coaching me on how to handle this situation. Secondly, please be aware that I do pray and intercede for those I fellowship with, and as much as I have the dunamis to live at peace with them and keep on forgiving I do just that.
What I am hoping is that, for our mutual edification, others will respectfully share thoughts and stories about the challenges of relating to irritating brothers and sisters in Christ.
Debp has been posting some informative (video), recently.
God bless you sister.
One of the helpful videos she posted is regarding the church wide, world wide, heresy : "Lose your salvation". This heresy can be phrased many ways, including "walking away from God" , "walking away from your faith". But no matter how you phrase it, the Grace rejecting aim of the people who show up on forums and in pulpits and online , who are teaching this Galatians 1:8 message, is the same. They Want to indoctrinate you into their harmful theology.
Now i have a strong and unrelenting point of view about this heresy, because i have seen the damage it causes churches, Christians, and the heretics themselves. This theology is an extreme spiritual poison. Its an infection of the mind and spiritual condition. It literally can make you crazy. Especially if you are a sincere and true believer who above all things wants to please God.
The True Believers, if they are caught up in this hellish circular reasoning theology, become more and more upset and there is NO simple remedy. See, what happens if you get infected by the people who are spreading this spiritual deceit, is that the bible and the devil begin to work together to condemn you to the point where you will begin to obsess on the idea that you are lost, and hell bound. The bible becomes a punishing enemy as all it seems to do is show you that you are going to hell. Ive seen it. Ive visited the mental health center and witnessed the mind damage and the broken spirit. This person, who has been deeply mentally disturbed by the people who mean to do it,.... they can't open a bible and get any Help. Prayer life becomes a guilt trip. They cry and shake and feel sick. Their lives become so disrupted by this screaming idea that they have committed the unparsdonable sin, or they have willfully sinned their salvation away. And all they had to do to be destroyed was show up on a "friendly" Christian Forum and read someone's Thread regarding "losing your salvation". This particular Thread Topic is reposted constantly on every Christian Forum that will allow it. And the next thing this sincere believer thinks is, "what if i did this".... and then the bottom falls out of their lives as the devil begins to work their minds into worry and fear to try to literally destroy them.
FYI. : The Epistle to the Hebrews, is a spiritual bear trap. Its a book that will tie a novice baby Christian in a knot for life. This book is so strong, so powerful, that when a novice gets into it, having no sound theology to lean on, no soul anchor of Grace, no deep understanding of Redemption,..... they will end up for the rest of their life preaching one message. "you can lose your salvation". That is what happens to everyone who get lost in the Epistle to the Hebrews, because they never became grounded in GRACE and "Justification by Faith" theology Truth..... BEFORE they jumped into this DEEP DEEP Epistle to the Hebrews.
Listen Saint, the bible is not a fun filled novel. Its a Spiritual Awakening Experience, written as words in Jesus's Blood.. Understand? And the unclean spirit , Satan, uses the bible to harm you, if he can. And do you think he can't? He was here before Adam. He was looking over Paul's shoulder when Paul was getting his letters out to the Churches. He sent Muslims their Bible. He lifted Jesus up by His power and took him to a high place, and showed the Lord of Glory a few things... Satan is alive, just as certain as Jesus is Risen. And he is not playing with you. He wants your LIFE if he can't get your soul, and if he can't get ither because you are born again, then he'll send a heretic into your mind, using a pulpit, a commentary, an online website, a family member, a christian forum..... who will try to make you believe that the Blood of Jesus is actually you keeping yourself saved.
Now you think about that..... They will try to make you believe that the atonement is actually YOU keeping yourself saved, OR NOT.
There are 2 Gospels that are preached. One is From the New Testament, and one is from the Devil. The bible preaches that God MADE you righteous and keeps you righteous, HIMSELF, if you will believe in Christ. This is called being born again. This is God becoming Jesus the Man, and taking His very righteousness and giving it to you, in place of your sin, and unrighteousness. This is Redemption. The Blood Atonement.
The Devil's gospel teaches that your works make you and keep righteous, your commandment keeping keeps you saved, and your obedience is your Cross that you hang on, to save yourself.
God's Gospel, is : "i will save you and keep you saved. ". using the Blood of Jesus.
The devil's gospel, is everything else. And everything else including the person who is teaching works for salvation...... is Galatians 1:8
Let me talk to you now about Eternal Security.
Eternal security : is Christ in you. This is your Eternal Security. Being Saved once, and always, is Christ in you, who is HIMSELF eternal Security. Jesus said that He gives you eternal life and you shall never perish . (lose it or be parted from it.)
1 John 5:13 tells you that you can KNOW that you have eternal life. And the way you know is because Jesus who Himself is eternal life, is IN YOU. "Christ in you, the hope of Glory". He is in you, and you are in Him .. "in Christ".
Now, lets get the bullseye on the target. The heretic will try to convince you that this same Jesus, who is Himself eternal life, is not in you, permanently. That if you decide to, you can get Him out. That if you decide to, you can just flip a switch, do a deed and like MAGIC, you are no longer Born again.
This teaching is a lie.
Now understand that Jesus is Himself "the resurrection and the (eternal) life. And if you are born again, you are joined to God, by Christ. Christ has removed your sin, becoming it for you on the Cross, and that is the only barrier that was keeping you from being joined to God. So thats gone. Your sin is gone, because the shed Blood of Jesus washed it away. The Law is gone, because you are no longer under it, you are under Grace... so the LAW can't judge you as a sinner. This is because Jesus Himself, God on The Cross, has been judged for you already and KILLED. So, that is your Hell, your Lake of Fire, and your Judgement for your sin... Its gone. gone......>>GONE. It can't be your eternal life situation as it is for Christ Rejectors, because your Eternal Life situation is CHRIST THE ETERNAL LIFE, who is INSIDE YOU. You do recall that your are as a born again Christian, the Temple of God? The Body of Christ? You are indwelled by the Holy Spirit, or as the New Testament explains, "if you have not the Spirit of Christ IN YOU, then you don't belong to God"..... So, God, Christ, and The Holy Spirit, who are all "ONE"< are in you., if you are born again.....
Are you? Do you remember when you took Jesus into your heart? Believing on Him. Trusting in Him to save you, forgive you? That is your "New Birth", day. You are born from your mother, and you are born AGAIN = from your Father God.
In both cases blood was shed. The first time it was shed for you, you came to earth. The second time it is shed for you, is the ONLY reason why you go to Heaven. (Grace is the color and function of Jesus's Blood).
Born Twice, die once. if you are a born AGAIN (2nd time) = Christian.
And here is the final answer... Here is why you can't lose your salvation and go to hell.
A question or 2 : WHO is your Salvation? Who is it? Who is your eternal life? Who is your resurrection? Who is your Justification and your Sanctification? Who saved you? Who is Grace? Who is the Blood Atonement. Who is Redemption? Did you say YOU? Is it YOU? So, if its not you, then it must be JESUS THE LORD. JESUS THE CHRIST. JESUS Himself.
He alone is your Savior, because He alone is everything that saves you, and everything that God requires for you to be saved, and in fact JESUS IS ALL GOD OFFERS YOU TO GET YOU IN TO HEAVEN AND KEEP YOU OUT OF HELL.
THERE IS NO OTHER WAY TO BE SAVED. JESUS IS "THE WAY". AND THAT IS ACCORDING TO GOD. That is according to TRUTH, and Jesus is "THE TRUTH", and Im lifting Him up right now , and so should YOU. !
So, your salvation, is JESUS. You being born again, proves that HE is IN you.
Jesus is God, and God is not a man that He should or can, lie. Jesus said.....>"I will never leave you or forsake you". Hebrews 13:5 . Now notice the word "Leave". This word is explaining that Jesus wont ever do something. And what is that? Leave you. He "can't Leave you, or forsake you".... He said so. So, does the TRUTH LIE? Now, back up and look at what we are thinking about.... Where is Jesus? If you are saved, where Is He? He is IN YOU. IN YOU. IN YOU. In YOU. And how is Jesus in you? He is SEALED within you. God is SEALED within you.. You are their BODY OF CHRIST....... that is your permanent situation.
Now get this and you'll be forever spiritually and mentally unaffected by people who want to make you believe that you are your own savior, or that you can end up in Hell, then the lake of fire.
Notice again that "Jesus said that He will never LEAVE YOU"... What does NEVER mean? "never". what does this mean? Does it mean, as long as you keep your faith, and go to church, and never backslide, or walk away from God?
Do you see a "unless", in that verse? Heretics do, and they put it in there to try to harm you.
Jesus WILL NEVER LEAVE THE INSIDE OF YOU WHERE HE IS SEALED UNTIL THE DAY OF YOUR REDEMPTION.......because He said so, and the TRUTH does not Lie. Jesus is THE Truth.
So, what does this show you, and explain to you, when a heretic is trying to make you believe that you can lose your salvation?
What is the obvious truth here, Saint?
The truth shows you that if that were possible, and its not, but if were possible for you to hit the Great White Throne Judgement, and be Judged by God for all your sin that Jesus has already been judged for on Earth.....then when you were sent to Hell, Christ in you, who will NEVER LEAVE YOU< is going to be there burning right with you, in the Lake of Fire.
There is no verse in the New Testament, that has ever even suggested that Jesus and the Holy Spirit, can leave you, or will. Not one. NONE. But there is certainly a crystal clear verse that Says to the born again, that Jesus will NEVER LEAVE YOU.
Never, Never, Never.
You can't take Christ to hell, because you can't go where He can't go.. And when those who oppose Grace and cast darkness on the Cross want to make you believe that you can go to hell, then just remember that The Christ in you, who is your proof of your eternal security and IS HIMSELF ETERNAL LIFE, is not Going to Hell, ...........and neither are you.