JB87 Posted December 13, 2019 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 3 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 4 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 6 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/19/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted December 13, 2019 Hello. Ok. Here's the story. Just yesterday I was presented with a request from my Sister in Law and my brother's homosexual partner that I contribute to a combined gift to my parents for Christmas. Wooden cutout display thing that represents our 'families'. I said I don't know about this, ask my husband, it will come down to cost. Then I was told don't ask my husband its not his parents he will say no. My husband and I discuss things together and budget etc. We are transparent with each other with expenses. My problem with this gift is not so much the waste of money, but that the present would represent a homosexual relationship as appropriate, celebrated, worthy of acceptance etc etc. My mother is a christian, but it seems she has accepted this relationship of my brother's as appropriate. I personally dislike this pressure. I feel like I have been made to feel guilty, as I did not provide an agreement to this "ASAP" request. Someone please tell me, how can I put this aside this Christmas? I feel really quite uncomfortable that I have let them down. But I also feel awful for the abusive comments in the Facebook group message from my sister in law and brother's partner. I also feel like I will be judged on the value and worthiness of the gift that I give my parents. Any advice on putting aside this and how to put my attention into the Christmas family gathering? I'm really starting to dread facing those I have seemingly upset. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Repose Posted December 13, 2019 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 9 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 205 Content Per Day: 0.12 Reputation: 231 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/06/2019 Status: Offline Share Posted December 13, 2019 Turn them down, stating that you will give your parents your own present. If they wish to insist on their present, then they may give it and pay for it themselves. You have no obligation to supply the portion of coin for the gift they want. If they get upset, that's their problem. It may sound a bit heartless, but they are very rude in assuming you will pay, as well as harassing you for not immediately agreeing. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Debp Posted December 19, 2019 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 52 Topic Count: 1,017 Topics Per Day: 0.15 Content Count: 12,296 Content Per Day: 1.79 Reputation: 16,358 Days Won: 92 Joined: 07/19/2005 Status: Online Share Posted December 19, 2019 I agree you can tell them you prefer to buy your own gift. Don't worry about what they will think of your gift. Also, by their abusive comments to you, they are just showing their character which isn't good. Can you somehow ignore their comments on Facebook? Don't let their ugliness ruin your peace and joy. Enjoy the Lord's goodness to you. You can love these people but you don't need to agree with their sin. Just treat them nicely and if they get ugly with you, just tell them you want to enjoy the Lord's peace, then nicely change the subject. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Prycejosh1987 Posted July 13, 2020 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 1,176 Content Per Day: 0.85 Reputation: 126 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/07/2020 Status: Offline Birthday: 04/29/1987 Share Posted July 13, 2020 On 12/13/2019 at 7:08 PM, JB87 said: I will be judged on the value and worthiness of the gift that I give my parents. Any advice on putting aside this and how to put my attention into the Christmas family gathering? I'm really starting to dread facing those I have seemingly upset. If the gift is sincere, and is useful i cannot see how your parents wouldnt want it. Good luck. Try to work things out with the people you have upset. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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