Hillson Posted September 9, 2005 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 32 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 156 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/02/2002 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/18/1978 Share Posted September 9, 2005 My gf has betraied me before, at the time I forgave her, but no longer, she said we were not the suitable one for stay together, we broken up then. few months ago, she came to me again, I thought she will be devote on me and I accepted her because I am still loving her, I think we will have a happy ending, but things never come true for me, few days ago, I saw she was handing around with a guy, I could not believe what I saw at the moment, I was totally disappointed, how silly I sent her an email again, I told her I can forgive what she has done for me, what I want is you come to me again. she replied give her some time to think over it and consider if we are real suitable to stay together in future. It's really hard time for me, and I dont' know what should I do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
other one Posted September 9, 2005 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 29 Topic Count: 595 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 56,027 Content Per Day: 7.56 Reputation: 27,770 Days Won: 271 Joined: 12/29/2003 Status: Offline Share Posted September 9, 2005 Do yourself a really big favor and get on with life without her..... somewhere in this world there is a lady for you and God will send her in due time...... expect and demand trueness and fidelity from your lifemate or you will pay a heavy price your whole life..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Joy in the Journey Posted September 9, 2005 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 18 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 477 Content Per Day: 0.07 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/17/2005 Status: Offline Share Posted September 9, 2005 Do yourself a really big favor and get on with life without her..... somewhere in this world there is a lady for you and God will send her in due time...... expect and demand trueness and fidelity from your lifemate or you will pay a heavy price your whole life..... <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Very wise words spoken here- I would heed them. God bless, Tim Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Work in Progress Posted September 9, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 123 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 3,111 Content Per Day: 0.39 Reputation: 35 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/29/2002 Status: Offline Share Posted September 9, 2005 She's playing you. You deserve better. There is better out there. God bless you as you wait patiently on Him to show her to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hillson Posted September 9, 2005 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 32 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 156 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/02/2002 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/18/1978 Author Share Posted September 9, 2005 She's playing you. You deserve better. There is better out there. God bless you as you wait patiently on Him to show her to you. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> My sense told me she's playing me, she never satisfy on me and she like to handing around boys, I know she came to me just because for killing time, maybe that's her natual, but now I have no courage to end up this relationship because I still loving her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NITE OWL Posted September 9, 2005 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 14 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 535 Content Per Day: 0.08 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/24/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/02/1957 Share Posted September 9, 2005 You're in a bad place, I was there a year and a half ago. I let her go. It was the hardest thing I ever did. We were together for eleven years. I didn't even see it coming. That's what made it so hard. There was a time I couldn't live without her and today I can't even remember why. You gotta be honest with yourself. Step back and think outside the box. What advice would you give to someone who is in your situation? Put your emotions aside and try and look at this from someones elses point of view. I'm not bad mouthing your ex., but you know what her history is. Can you be sure beyond a shadow of a doubt that if the two of you hook up again, that she will remain faithful? It sucks bad. There's no other pain in the world like it. I think the panic attacks were the worst for me. I mean at times I could feel my heartbeat in my toes and hear it in my ears. I thought I was dying and at times I wished I would. I finally submitted to God. To make a very long story short, I asked Him to harden my heart to her. Not to hate her, not to forget about her, but to harden my heart to the emotions I had for her. It worked. I still have all the memories but the emotions are gone. Weird. I don't know what to say man. You got some rough seas ahead of you, but I'll tell you what...if you give it to the Lord, He'll let you ride in His boat. It's safer and a lot more comfortable. He really can work miracles. Don't know if this was any help...I tend to babble a lot. Anyway, if you need to talk or whatever, we're here. Later. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Hillson Posted September 10, 2005 Group: Advanced Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 32 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 156 Content Per Day: 0.02 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/02/2002 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/18/1978 Author Share Posted September 10, 2005 Your point exactly right! I will place my pain to Jesus. I know she's not worthy to upset. i think God will send a right girl to me. You're in a bad place, I was there a year and a half ago. I let her go. It was the hardest thing I ever did. We were together for eleven years. I didn't even see it coming. That's what made it so hard. There was a time I couldn't live without her and today I can't even remember why. You gotta be honest with yourself. Step back and think outside the box. What advice would you give to someone who is in your situation? Put your emotions aside and try and look at this from someones elses point of view. I'm not bad mouthing your ex., but you know what her history is. Can you be sure beyond a shadow of a doubt that if the two of you hook up again, that she will remain faithful? It sucks bad. There's no other pain in the world like it. I think the panic attacks were the worst for me. I mean at times I could feel my heartbeat in my toes and hear it in my ears. I thought I was dying and at times I wished I would. I finally submitted to God. To make a very long story short, I asked Him to harden my heart to her. Not to hate her, not to forget about her, but to harden my heart to the emotions I had for her. It worked. I still have all the memories but the emotions are gone. Weird. I don't know what to say man. You got some rough seas ahead of you, but I'll tell you what...if you give it to the Lord, He'll let you ride in His boat. It's safer and a lot more comfortable. He really can work miracles. Don't know if this was any help...I tend to babble a lot. Anyway, if you need to talk or whatever, we're here. Later. <{POST_SNAPBACK}> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NITE OWL Posted September 10, 2005 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 14 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 535 Content Per Day: 0.08 Reputation: 1 Days Won: 0 Joined: 04/24/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 08/02/1957 Share Posted September 10, 2005 I'm sure you'll do just fine. You know if it gets really bad, there's nothing wrong with going to a counselor. And it doesn't have to be a christian counselor. The one I saw wasn't and I'm glad. I didn't want to have to worry about someone judging me about my lifestyle. Most of all prayer. It's the key to this whole situation. Humble yourself before the Lord, admit to the things you know are wrong and ask Him to forgive the things that you don't. Pray the Lords prayer in Jesus name before asking Him for anything. That is so important. Lords prayer first then your's. He will listen and grant your wishes. ( within reason of course ) so never hesitate to go to Him. Remember...someones always here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne Posted September 10, 2005 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 55 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 923 Content Per Day: 0.13 Reputation: 32 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/14/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 10/03/1974 Share Posted September 10, 2005 Hillson I agree with what's already been said, if this girl has no respect for you then there cannot be a relationship. Your Sister in Christ Jesus Anne Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yomotalking Posted September 17, 2005 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 154 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 2,838 Content Per Day: 0.40 Reputation: 19 Days Won: 0 Joined: 10/18/2004 Status: Offline Birthday: 05/29/1991 Share Posted September 17, 2005 Do yourself a really big favor and get on with life without her..... somewhere in this world there is a lady for you and God will send her in due time...... expect and demand trueness and fidelity from your lifemate or you will pay a heavy price your whole life..... <{POST_SNAPBACK}> True. It will be hard...but God will give you strength. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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