whats the cure for a broken heart?

[xhistragedyx]

I am broken hearted..and lost. I feel weak I am so sick of feeling teary eyed and upset.

If your've known the feeling of loosing the one you love Id be glad to hear your thoughts and advice

-A

[Tribulation]

Cure for a broken heart?

God!

Spend every minute you have with him - in prayer and in reading his Word! Not only does it keep your mind off things, but it keeps it on God. He will carry you through. Have a read through the Psalms, they're brilliant in hard times...

Psalms 46:1 - "God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble."

[Guest man]

I am broken hearted..and lost. I feel weak I am so sick of feeling teary eyed and upset.

If your've known the feeling of loosing the one you love Id be glad to hear your thoughts and advice

-A

Time...and prayer.

[other one]

Time

[rhapdog]

I've been there. I'd like to share my testimony with you and tell you how I got through it. I'd like to see you be able to change your name from xhistragedyx to xhisvictoryx.

In just one day, I lost my wife of 12 years, my 9 year old daughter, my house, and everything I owned. The material things have never been missed, it was my family that was precious.

If you have never lost a child, then you can't possibly imagine what I went through. One can expect to lose a spouse to death, especially as one nears the end of life, but it is a difficult thing to endure the loss of a child. The torment I endured was so intense; I had difficulty feeling God's presence at that time of my life.

I prayed. I cried out to God. I poured over His scriptures morning, noon, and night. I needed to find Him, so I could ask him "Why?"

I came to understand jeremigh 29:13 very well after this seemingly endless praying and pouring myself through His scriptures.

Jeremiah 29:13 NIV, "You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart."

You see, after 2 weeks of prayer, and several days of fasting, I felt God's love wrap around me like I've never known. He reminded me of the words to a song I had heard when I was a child. "I felt every tear drop, when in darkness you cried. And I strove to remind you, it was for those tears I died."

I've felt His love before, and I've been a child of His a long time. But the comfort given at that lowest point of my life showed me a love I had never quite comprehended before. It simply cannot be put into words. I asked God "Why" when I found Him.

God led me to a number of scriptures for my answer.

1 Corinthians 13:12, Now we see but a poor reflection; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.

Romans 8:28, And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love Him, who have been called according to His purpose.

At this point, I answered, "Ok, Lord. You're telling me You have your reasons, and I'm not going to understand them. I just have to trust You. Ok, I accept it. I'll trust You. But how do I go on with this pain in my heart? It was then He ansswered me again, from His word.

2 Corinthians 12:9

My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.

"Well, Lord, your power must be perfected in me, because I am utterly weak," I answered.

Jeremiah 29:11, For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

So now He says He'll give me hope and a future. Now I know there must be more to my life.

Isaiah 40:30-31: Even youths grow tired and weary, and young men stumble and fall; but those who hope in the Lord will renew their strength. They will soar on wings like eagles; they will run and not grow weary, they will walk and not be faint.

In Isaiah 40:31, He told me to hope in Him.

Nehemiah 8:10: Do not grieve, for the joy of the Lord is your strength.

"Do not grieve" I thought. That's easier said than done. But what's this second part? "the joy of the Lord is your strength?" Ok, so if I have His joy, I'll be strong, and the need for grieving won't be overpowering me any longer. But how do I reclaim that joy?

Psalm 18:24: This is the day the Lord has made. We will rejoice and be glad in it.

Psalm 150:6: Let everything that has breath praise the Lord.

Ok, so here's the kicker. How do you get the joy? You have to start by "being glad in this day that the Lord has made" so to speak. Be thankful for it, just because God has given it to you. It isn't always easy to be thankful when you are hurting, but say "Thank You" to God for the good He has done in your life.

Secondly, you must "praise the Lord." There is power in praise. If you praise Him, He WILL lift you up.

If you want the joy of the Lord, then REJOICE!

If you want the joy of the Lord, then PRAISE HIM!

God does NOT want us to be miserable! He wants us to be Happy! When we follow His word, then we can be at peace no matter our circumstance. I am living proof of this. I have been under spiritual attacks. I have lost dear loved ones. And I have found I can still be at peace, be filled with His joy, and I can still praise the Lord.

Satan wants us to be unhappy. Why? Because he does not want us to be strong. If we aren't happy, that is, if we are grieving or miserable, then "the joy of the Lord is your strength" does not apply!

Do you want the joy of the Lord in your life? First, you have to be one of His children. Second, you must praise Him!

Edited September 24, 2006 by rhapdog

[Northern lass]

I am broken hearted..and lost. I feel weak I am so sick of feeling teary eyed and upset.

If your've known the feeling of loosing the one you love Id be glad to hear your thoughts and advice

-A

When I was 19 I lost my dear brother who was only 21. We were very close because our father terrorised the family. My brother was also the one who showed me what it was to be a Christian and when he died the bottom fell out of my world. However, I felt "held" by the prayers of others and I hope we can hold you in this way. I also found things just coming into my mind eg. the hymn "Oh love that will not let me go" especially this verse

Oh joy that seekest me through pain,

I cannot close my heart to Thee:

I trace the rainbow through the rain,

And feel the promise is not vain,

That morn shall tearless be.

I will try and hold you in prayer dear brother, and yes, time will also heal! Don't try too hard - God is very near the broken-hearted and will whisper things into your mind if you let Him.

[Northern lass]

Sorry, I see that is SISTER, having read your profile.

[Candi770]

Hide under the shelter of his Loving wings for he will never let you down. My brother was murdered years ago, but it truely took time. The Lord healed me gradually with time, even had the chance to minister to one "like my brother" and the Lord turned the blessing on me. Just like a hen that gathers her chicks that's how sweet the Lord is toward us, so go and rest in his loving embrace and trust in Him to see you through.

blessings

candi

[tigger398]

God says he is with the broken hearted the most.

[LadyGunivere]

OP I noticed that your ex is also posting on these boards..... You need to take comfort in God.... actually all three of you do.....