anitarose Posted January 16, 2007 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 65 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 1,066 Content Per Day: 0.16 Reputation: 26 Days Won: 0 Joined: 08/15/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/02/1961 Share Posted January 16, 2007 Sigh....I'm so upset now....guess I'm not wanted anywhere because I'm still married....I was just goofing around on a dating chat site when someone came online and announced to all the people there that I was still married and that I was a red flag and that no guy should be anywhere near me while I'm still married...I'm there for FRIENDSHIP...I wish people would read the profile....I don't want anything serious... I just wanted to vent...sorry.... Anita Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Collie1 Posted January 17, 2007 Share Posted January 17, 2007 (edited) Sigh....I'm so upset now....guess I'm not wanted anywhere because I'm still married....I was just goofing around on a dating chat site when someone came online and announced to all the people there that I was still married and that I was a red flag and that no guy should be anywhere near me while I'm still married...I'm there for FRIENDSHIP...I wish people would read the profile....I don't want anything serious... I just wanted to vent...sorry.... Anita Anita, please wait awhile, even to start new friendships with men until after your divorce is final, and then wait a little longer. Learn about who you are, and what a terrific person you are as an individual. Learn that you are worth so much more than you ever imagined. Christ values you!! I know it is not easy, but it is so important! Years ago my first husband died, it was very difficult. Our children were 7 and 10. My daughter who is a loner and has low self esteem, was especially struggling. We went to a counsellor who advised us to tell our selves loudly, I'm a great deal!! You Anita are a great deal!! You have a compassionate heart and a trusting nature. God will give you the strength you need to get through this. He will never leave you nor forsake you, or abuse you. May He richly bless you, Colleen Edited January 17, 2007 by Collie1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RGR Posted January 23, 2007 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 512 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 8,601 Content Per Day: 1.13 Reputation: 125 Days Won: 2 Joined: 07/16/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/04/1973 Author Share Posted January 23, 2007 I learned tonight that my soon to be ex is already sleeping with someone! There were signs before we split up that something wasn't right. She came home with a nice flip phone given to her by this guy (it's her step-dad's cousin, btw) and then couldn't wait to fix him peanut butter fudge for Christmas, etc. Well when the kids went down to stay with her for the weekend, they came back telling me that Ricky had stayed over at her mother's house where April had stayed. The kids stated that April slept on the couch and Ricky slept beside her on the floor! It doesn't take too much figuring out for that! Well tonight she called and told me that she was "renting a room" from Ricky and that Ricky agreed to leave the house when she had the kids. I finally told her to drop the charade because I could add 2 and 2! She finally admitted that she's sleeping with him and I reminded her of what a good example she was setting for the kids! She sees nothing wrong with it and she can't wait to get the divorce!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladypeartree Posted January 23, 2007 Group: Royal Member Followers: 37 Topic Count: 539 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 32,731 Content Per Day: 5.02 Reputation: 23,386 Days Won: 221 Joined: 06/21/2006 Status: Online Birthday: 02/23/1953 Share Posted January 23, 2007 I know you feel betrayed all obver again Ronald but look at the possitive side ....you couldnt have a more biblical reason for divorce and you are so much better off than still being with her, trying to close your eyes and forgive her and risking her bringing some disease into your life Your boys are getting the example that they need from you and until she makes a proper committment to the other guy you can ask ( maybe demand ) that she doesnt have the children to stay overnight if he is also going to be there . Children are NOT blind or stupid ...they can work out who is the reliable one and who thinks only of themselves Hold on my brother ...you are in for a few more nasty days before you are on the road to recovery but at least you have the comfort of knowing that you are no longer bound to her Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GeneV Posted January 23, 2007 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 36 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 720 Content Per Day: 0.11 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/23/2005 Status: Offline Birthday: 09/20/1947 Share Posted January 23, 2007 I know you feel betrayed all obver again Ronald but look at the possitive side ....you couldnt have a more biblical reason for divorce and you are so much better off than still being with her, trying to close your eyes and forgive her and risking her bringing some disease into your life Your boys are getting the example that they need from you and until she makes a proper committment to the other guy you can ask ( maybe demand ) that she doesnt have the children to stay overnight if he is also going to be there . Children are NOT blind or stupid ...they can work out who is the reliable one and who thinks only of themselves Hold on my brother ...you are in for a few more nasty days before you are on the road to recovery but at least you have the comfort of knowing that you are no longer bound to her Lady P Ronald like the lady says....hang in there Bro things WILL get better Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JesusisGod2 Posted January 23, 2007 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 61 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,065 Content Per Day: 0.27 Reputation: 128 Days Won: 1 Joined: 05/29/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 07/03/1958 Share Posted January 23, 2007 I once heard someone say that marriage can be compared to taking two pieces of wood anthen putting some strong glue in between and pressing firmly together. They then become one. Divorce is in effect taking this same wood and pull them apart where they have been bound by the glue. You will have fragments of each piece of wood still attached to the other. Divorce is a very hurtful time in ones life and you are really never over it for just like the wood you never really make a clean break, both will carry around in them both the good and the bad times. Ron, I pray that you will draw near to God in your times of trouble and hurt. God knows the situation and also has the answers you seek. Don't focus on the storm [i know it is easier said than done], focus on Him Whom by His word brings calm. I will be praying for you brother. I found piece in the book of Hosea during a similar circumstance. In Jesus, kevin Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RGR Posted January 23, 2007 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 512 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 8,601 Content Per Day: 1.13 Reputation: 125 Days Won: 2 Joined: 07/16/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/04/1973 Author Share Posted January 23, 2007 Oddly enough I'm not considering this as another hurt or the hurt reopened, etc. For me, as was said earlier, it's simply confirmation of what was already going on and it gives me just that much more assurance that I have the Biblical right, if I choose, to remarry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ladypeartree Posted January 23, 2007 Group: Royal Member Followers: 37 Topic Count: 539 Topics Per Day: 0.08 Content Count: 32,731 Content Per Day: 5.02 Reputation: 23,386 Days Won: 221 Joined: 06/21/2006 Status: Online Birthday: 02/23/1953 Share Posted January 23, 2007 way to go brother it helps to not feel hurt and let the bitterness in even a tiny crack Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RGR Posted January 25, 2007 Group: Royal Member Followers: 2 Topic Count: 512 Topics Per Day: 0.07 Content Count: 8,601 Content Per Day: 1.13 Reputation: 125 Days Won: 2 Joined: 07/16/2003 Status: Offline Birthday: 12/04/1973 Author Share Posted January 25, 2007 My oldest son told me tonight that he wished his mother was still here. I've really tried to be good about this and not say anything negative about her, but I told him the ugly truth tonight. I told him that his mother didn't want to be with us anymore and that she had chosen Ricky (this other guy) over us. I'm not going to sugarcoat it anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
billie Posted January 25, 2007 Group: Royal Member Followers: 1 Topic Count: 51 Topics Per Day: 0.01 Content Count: 2,849 Content Per Day: 0.44 Reputation: 14 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/17/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 03/17/1979 Share Posted January 25, 2007 Oh, Ronald, my heart aches for your babies. I'm keeping the four of you in my prayers and thoughts, brother. ((((((((((((((((Ronald)))))))))))))))) (((((((((((((((Boys))))))))))))))))))) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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