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21 hours ago, BeauJangles said:

Dear sister, 

Permit me if I may and give you a man's perspective on your issue. I know how guys can be, so I'm going to be bold about this. From the description of your husband's situation, he's been reduced below worm castings. Now, he's crawling back to you and telling you exactly what you want to hear. His brutish behavior towards you has been atrocious, and I think it's been far to recent since the breakup to trust him just yet. Give him a lot more time. Bunches of it as a matter of fact. Has he actually repented, and does he truly have Jesus in is heart as Saviour and Lord yet? These are a couple of key factors to consider. God bless you, I'm keeping both of you in my prayers. 

Shalom, 

David/BeauJangles

Thank you, brother, for your valuable insight. I doubt his claims about committing himself to Christ, so it is a relief to hear your wisdom. Thank you.

21 hours ago, ReneeIW said:

I would be gone. He beats you AND he cheated? Plus, all he has are the clothes on his back, so he’s not providing either? Do the two of you abuse alcohol or drugs?

He sounds like a menace to society. Pray for him and stay away if you can.

I have never used alcohol or drugs, but he abuses both. He started smoking marijuana recently and that makes me wonder what else he will try.  

13 hours ago, ladypeartree said:

praying for you and knowing how difficult this is for you BUT you obviously have doubts about his sincerity yourself LISTEN TO THEM !   Finish your divorce so you are legally free from him and any aggression is then accountable in law and not just " domestic abuse "  You have a lot of good advice here and you DO have time to wait If he cant support himself then that would be reason enough for hi to want to get back together with you and better reason for you to WAIT   I had a very abusive husband and left home in an ambulance and with just what I and my children were wearing at the time and this after I had left and started divorce proceedings and been assured he had changed and wanted to start again ...I gave him another chance ( again ) and for a short time he did try to change or at least appeared to do so but the next time it was a LOT harder to leave as he had taken more precautions against my leaving and covered his abuse better The same thing happened to my youngest daughter when she took her abusive alcoholic husband back despite us all begging her not too . WAIT , GIVE YOURSELF TIME TO HEAL and give him time to court you and prove himself worthy 

Thank you so much for your advice. I know my family would be heartbroken if I went back to him, but hearing your testimony of a similar situation has helped strengthen my resolve not to go back to him. Thank you.

19 hours ago, Ruth Also said:

Praying for you Evs.  Are there children involved? 

Thankfully, there are no children involved. Unfortunately, we were only married for four months before things got physically violent, and the shame of having made my vows in front of so many family and friends still lingers. Thank you so much for your advice. At the very least, going through with the divorce will give me room to breathe, and if God determines a reconciliation later on, so be it. If not, I will at least be free. 

Hello, everyone. I hope you all are doing well. I am in desperate need of prayer right now because of the events that have transpired in the last few months.

To summarize, I left my husband a few months ago because he was a physically abusive narcissist and I was terrified for my life and safety. He was so cruel and godless, even though he had claimed to be a Christian (which he obviously was not). We have been separated, having had no contact for the past two months or so, when we recently reconnected. God has brought him very low and taken everything from him except the clothes on his back. When we spoke recently, he told me what has happened to him since I left, how he realized how cruel, unkind, aggressive, abusive, and "beastly" he was. He said that he was wrong, that he mistreated me and he realized what he lost when I left. This confession, of course, is the complete opposite of narcissistic behavior, but I gave him a second chance in the past, and this was the result. I do not want to be tricked again, and as he is also a trained actor, I have no idea whether he is being sincere or not. I already filed for divorce and have a right to on biblical grounds of adultery and abandonment. However, he said to me recently that while he wishes I would give him a second chance, he wants me to be happy, whatever I choose to do. This is completely unlike him, and I have no idea whether to trust him or not. He says he has gotten right with God and wants to live a new life as the "godly husband I was always supposed to have", but I don't know if I can believe him. My family would think I was a fool if I gave him another chance. Part of me still has hope left, but part of me is ready to move on with my life, even if I am alone for the rest of it. What do I do? Can God change a physically abusive narcissist? Do I give him another chance and risk losing the support and respect of my family? I don't know what to do. Suggestions, Scripture, and prayer would be greatly appreciated!

Thank you all,

Evs

Hello everyone. I could really use some encouragement right now. I am recently married and both my husband and I are believers. However, we are struggling to have faith right now. We both have dead-end jobs, and according to my and my family's personal beliefs, I (as the wife and help-meet) am not really supposed to be working. However, it would be impossible for us to survive without both of our incomes. While I am grateful for my job, I absolutely hate it and dread going to work every day. The job is easy enough, but it's rough hours and extremely mind-numbing. Furthermore, it's only a temporary job, so I'll eventually have to find something else, but my very spirit rebels against finding another dead-end job that is not fruitful and has nothing to do with helping my faith to grow. I want to be a writer of Christian literature and I'm in college, but have changed my major multiple times because everyone tells me that the things I am passionate about won't pay the bills. My husband is discouraged about being a provider and is questioning whether he will ever be able to provide for us. I try to encourage him, but it isn't working. On top of all this, I'm having pregnancy symptoms and am extremely frustrated because every test so far has come up negative. I don't know what to do at this point, especially since my mother would look down upon the prospect of bringing a child into the equation, and I know that everyone around me (except my husband) would try to discourage me and tell me how hard everything will get instead of being supportive. We keep praying and reading and praying some more for answers, but nothing happens. Please, help.