Daniel22

4 hours ago, other one said:

Well I can't for sure tell you what spirit had possessed you but it certainly wasn't from God and most likely it was little old you doing it all.   And you certainly are not alone in the world with your problem.....    From my personal viewpoint your needs or your woman's needs are not what matters....   it is the child's needs that are important.

First thing you do is DNA tests to make sure it is your child...   but in the mean time don't so alienate yourself from the woman to the point you can't be a father to the child....   you seem to have already made up your mind about the girl in giving your child a good home.    Child support is not any kind of real substitute for a closed family and you owe that to any of your children.

As for praying for the pregnancy, you should hope for nothing but a normal healthy pregnancy.....   what's the difference in your heart in hoping the pregnancy fails and an abortion...   you already killed the child in your heart.           You have put yourself in a shaky spot, but it's not as disastrous as you might be thinking.

I have two very close friends that made the same mistake as you about 50 years ago....   both got ladies pregnant that they most likely would not have married if they had not.    both are still married to the ladies and they have had fairly good relationships with them....    you will learn how to handle your wife should you go ahead and marry her....   and if not then maybe you need an alpha female to help you through life.   That's not a bad life for some who really need it.   My brother in law has that kind of relationship with his wife.

Whatever you do, do it with all you have and it doesn't have to turn out bad in the long run.....       I'm 72 and we will be married for 50 years come July of 2020..    I thought I loved my wife when we got married, but as everyone finds out, we really don't know what love is until a relationship is several years old....        Don't cut yourself short of abilities, and don't so diss the mother of your child that you can't have any kind of relationship with her.....    should you get married I can promise that both of you will change....    and if you both decide to make a family with your child it almost always changes for the best....

So to make a long story shorter, be careful that you don't destroy any chance of a future for a happy family for your child....    that would be so much more devastating that getting her pregnant.

And remember that Jesus demands that you show her love and take care of her like he took care of the church.....   when you do that part, she will follow you to the ends of the world....   get in her face and demand she submit to you and she will make your life a living hell. 

I feel where your coming from. I’m simply in too deep. Me marrying her is not even an option irrespective of where things goes. I cant paint the picture clearly enough on here for anyone to grasp it without talking down on her but it simply won’t be happening. I’ll pray that God takes control of the situation and leave it at that. I’m not scared of responsibility in any form of way. But I know myself and I know her now as well, and theirs things i obviously didn’t know about her prior to her getting pregnant that came to me as a shock, had I have known I wouldn’t have got involved. 
it’s in the hand of God now. I’ll look back at it in a few years differently i guess, such is life. Thanks for your input. 

7 hours ago, Neighbor said:

Perhaps  prayer for this child is my own best reaction.

Seems like the child has caught a very hard break even before it visits this world. Sired by an irresponsible male coupling up with an irresponsible woman. Poor kid.

Hopefully there is a responsible loving grandparent somewhere in the mix because if the child is not adopted out that is it's one good hope for starting out life with some love and proper care.

The sire now has a heavy financial  responsibility to this child.  The sire needs to get busy making money! Take two or three jobs, get over it's own "feelings", and never ever blame the  women again.

May God protect this child, Amen. 

 

It’s not about responsibility. The child is not the problem so much it’s the individual, it’s hard to paint a good picture but it will be a battle raising a child with her is the main fear I have. Finance is not a worry and I’m Not blaming her but I got played. She saw a kind person and like a sucker I went in and she took her chance. Her tone everything changed soon as she told me she was pregnant, it almost felt like she had a mission and completed it. She told numerous lies about being on contraception, she waiting 12 weeks to tell me she was pregnant too. It only all added up after. I’m not saying I’m guilty free in anyway, but I feel as though she will try to use the child to control me in a way and that is my long term fear and also for the child itself, especially in a world where women get all the benefits of the doubt, you don’t get to win without putting up a fight, you don’t get custody easily, she could make up lies if I didn’t do as she pleased, and I’m certain I’m never going near her again sexually but I have a feeling she thinks this is will be the key to bringing me and her together. I cant expect you to fully grasp it because I’m the person that’s in it and know all the key factors. It’s a terrible situation to be in but you only realise things when it’s too late sometimes.

6 hours ago, Heleadethme said:

There are evil spirits involved in seduction, and the devil does for sure target believers and the children of believers and lay traps and snares.  There is also witchcraft (unconsciously done) as well as spirits of manipulation and control which affect people in very real ways....and the devil will prey on the areas where we are most vulnerable.  Though ultimately we are the only ones who can take responsibility for the traps we step into....and repentance is key.  Sin and disobedience does have consequences and sometimes they are life-long for those who are faithful to follow Jesus (sometimes it's through our very mistakes that we learn to fear the Lord)...though we can take heart that even those consequences the Lord can use for the spiritual good of those who love Him.  And having realized your area of weakness is a first and important step in overcoming it.

But I'm sure you have thought to get a paternity test done to be sure the child is yours before undertaking for its support etc, and I would encourage you to do that......especially since you know you weren't her only partner.  This gal might still be just trying to manipulate you through a pregnancy that is not even yours.  By all means, pray for mercy.

 

Thanks for your advice it’s much appreciated. I Will be sure to follow through with these steps. God bless you

Anxiety sucks big time but by understanding the enemy it can be defeated. Think about most of the worst things that’s gone through your mind and compare those thoughts to what has actually happened in your reality. Youd realise it’s all lies. What separates us from the person we see and wish we could be like is the voices they permit to reside on their mind, I’m not saying it’s easy but that’s all that separates them from us. The mind is a powerful tool, but it can also work against us if we permit it. Positive self talk helps big time, have a few key phrases in your mind to counter any negative thought that pops up. Try listening to uplifting songs especially in the morning, go out everyday without fail and try not to spend your time doing nothing because that’s when it has time to come for you. The more occupied you are the less room they have to disturb your mind. Also try taking some magnesium supplements Daily and Maca root supplements. Be sure to take these daily, I find them to be very useful. Also say these prayers every night to rebuke demonic forces

https://www.mfmvirginia.org/how-to-obtain-personal-deliverance/
 

This will give you some information on spiritual attack and how to combat them. But you should also understand that the spiritual can also be defeated with the physical. If you believe you are under attack then the enemy already had you where they want. See them as already defeated and laugh at them, say these prayers and let Hod do the work for you. Even if you are under spiritual attack we alone cannot defeat them only God can through his heavenly forces. We activate those forces first praying, quoting the relevant scriptures which you will find in the link I gave you and developing a new way of thinking and also by having FAITH. Believing is important! 
praying with you right now and I’m confident you won’t be the same person again in a few weeks. Keep you mind occupied Always, bad thoughts will always try to pull you back, and drain your energy but you must take physical efforts along with your prayers. If you do this consistently you will see a change, but never stop doing more and more things because they will come back again and make you feel you aren’t making any progress, you have to start from now on and keep at it forever. Until it becomes normal to you. 

May God be with you, may any force working against you be destroyed by the heavenly forces of Christ. May the Lord grant peace of mind upon you and shower your life with joy and happyness. Amen

Praying with you. The healing hands of the lord will descend upon you in the name of Jesus

Praying for you. May the healing hands of the lord descend upon Logan, and may Uncle james be refilled with new strength from the Lord. Amen

Praying for you

3 hours ago, Revlori said:

Hello, first let me say I'm praying for you! With that confirmed let's talk.

First you are not alone. Thousands of people fall into this same trap everyday, Satan's traps of lust are set everywhere, in every corner. From the beginning of time until the end of his evil reign will these traps be in place. However knowing your not alone doesn't necessarily help, but I wanted to show you that lust is a tool of Satan to cause so many to fall and causes much damage to all involved. So it's not a spell you were under its just plain sin of the flesh. The trap was set in your mind, the person was placed before you, the moment was acted upon and sin was conceived. Now when you go before God, you know you are forgiven in you ask Jesus to FORGIVE your sins, however just like knowing that your not alone didn't help completely. Being forgiven doesn't mean theirs not consequences to our actions. God's desire is for us to learn and grow to become more like Christ. He uses these times to correct us but also to mold and shape us. To be stronger against Satan and his traps as well as being refined for his use. Perhaps to help others from suffering this same type of temptations or adleast helping them out of the same trap. 

With all of that being said,hopefully that kinda layed the foundation, I can recommend the first thing is to continue to pray. The second is to be honest with the girl. Make sure she understands your heart toward her. Third get the proper tests done to make sure the child is yours. Forth, you must remember that your sin never just effects you. If there is a child, the baby will need you. If you are the father, then you must be willing to sacrifice for your baby. Putting up with the woman is the least you can do for the precious child that is growing within this womb. Fifth you now must understand that as you move on with your life, it's not just you anymore. Every decision you make is for two ( you and your baby) if you are now desiring to become a full man of God and grow in God, this is for you both ( this would be the greatest beginning for your baby, is to be a godly father who wraps the child in godly love). If you are ready to get married to the woman you love, this will be for you both ( the love of your life must share the love of your child that way be on its way) Making this a fact now before the child arrives will help you later. I'm sorry if I sound blunt or mean, I don't mean this in any such tone. I do understand your situation, it's painful for you. But God is beside you and he will help you, I just believe that if you are choosing to do right ( as I see you are) then I'm only trying to help you take the right steps. For you and a precious child that may be coming. However if there is no child, then I would suggest that you continue to pray. Grow closer to God and learn from this. Don't make the same mistakes with this new person. Keep yourself from the sexual trap, let this be for the marriage bed. Become friends and grow together in the lord. These steps to a new beginning will help you with your new life with her. Be open and honest with her about everything as you build trust before you take your vows. I pray this as helpful. I'm praying for you!

Revlori

 

Thank you very much for your response and more importantly you’re prayers. Deep down I know it’s the right way to go, I just need to build the inner strength required but the lesson is learnt, it will never be repeated, the past is now in the hands of the father. You’ve been very helpful and may God bless you abundantly.

Just now, Daniel22 said:

 

Thank you very much for your response and more importantly you’re prayers. Deep down I know it’s the right way to go, I just need to build the inner strength required but the lesson is learnt .You’ve been very helpful and may God bless you abundantly

2 hours ago, Revlori said:

Hello, first let me say I'm praying for you! With that confirmed let's talk.

First you are not alone. Thousands of people fall into this same trap everyday, Satan's traps of lust are set everywhere, in every corner. From the beginning of time until the end of his evil reign will these traps be in place. However knowing your not alone doesn't necessarily help, but I wanted to show you that lust is a tool of Satan to cause so many to fall and causes much damage to all involved. So it's not a spell you were under its just plain sin of the flesh. The trap was set in your mind, the person was placed before you, the moment was acted upon and sin was conceived. Now when you go before God, you know you are forgiven in you ask Jesus to FORGIVE your sins, however just like knowing that your not alone didn't help completely. Being forgiven doesn't mean theirs not consequences to our actions. God's desire is for us to learn and grow to become more like Christ. He uses these times to correct us but also to mold and shape us. To be stronger against Satan and his traps as well as being refined for his use. Perhaps to help others from suffering this same type of temptations or adleast helping them out of the same trap. 

With all of that being said,hopefully that kinda layed the foundation, I can recommend the first thing is to continue to pray. The second is to be honest with the girl. Make sure she understands your heart toward her. Third get the proper tests done to make sure the child is yours. Forth, you must remember that your sin never just effects you. If there is a child, the baby will need you. If you are the father, then you must be willing to sacrifice for your baby. Putting up with the woman is the least you can do for the precious child that is growing within this womb. Fifth you now must understand that as you move on with your life, it's not just you anymore. Every decision you make is for two ( you and your baby) if you are now desiring to become a full man of God and grow in God, this is for you both ( this would be the greatest beginning for your baby, is to be a godly father who wraps the child in godly love). If you are ready to get married to the woman you love, this will be for you both ( the love of your life must share the love of your child that way be on its way) Making this a fact now before the child arrives will help you later. I'm sorry if I sound blunt or mean, I don't mean this in any such tone. I do understand your situation, it's painful for you. But God is beside you and he will help you, I just believe that if you are choosing to do right ( as I see you are) then I'm only trying to help you take the right steps. For you and a precious child that may be coming. However if there is no child, then I would suggest that you continue to pray. Grow closer to God and learn from this. Don't make the same mistakes with this new person. Keep yourself from the sexual trap, let this be for the marriage bed. Become friends and grow together in the lord. These steps to a new beginning will help you with your new life with her. Be open and honest with her about everything as you build trust before you take your vows. I pray this as helpful. I'm praying for you!

Revlori

 

4 hours ago, shanee said:

Hello, Praying now?

God bless you. May all your hearts desires be granted 

God bless you. May all your hearts desires be granted 

39 minutes ago, Godismyloveforever said:

I have prayed for you.  God bless you.  

               

 

God bless you

17 minutes ago, Repose said:

People can be tricky. They twist their faces, avert their eyes just so. A woman doing this to a man? I'm sure most men have been there, with a woman trying to be tempting or aggressive. As it is with temptations, there's always that small pull, that little voice that urges you onwards - we all make mistakes, brother. I can even understand returning. When you feel down, it's like this feeling of unease, like you're standing on the edge of a steep cliff. Your blood within you writhes and itches, and you'd do anything and I mean ANYTHING, to try and get rid of it even for a little while, for any small or temporary comfort. That's why we have a comforter, though - If you feel the urge again, either for this or any other temptation, pray. Ask God for help. The comfort lasts longer, to boot.

Then, I must ask... Have you forgiven this woman? Do you think you could? It sounds to me like she's still lingering in your mind, when you describe her as a trap, like you feel you might fall for her again. This is another area where prayer, asking God for the will to forgive her, could help. Try to think on her for a minute, to understand her side of it. Assess her, yourself, and the situation honestly. I would think, when you no longer think of her negatively and have forgiven her, then you would have little to nothing to fear from her.

Finally, the key to any good relationship is open and honest communication. Convey to her that you wish to see if this child is truly yours, not out of a distrust of her, but more out of self-assurance. Even if it isn't yours, you can still wish her well. I don't really advocate for shotgun weddings, either; the way this girl sounds, I'd reckon it would only end poorly. Still, a kid is hardly so terrible; if the child is yours, then why not rejoice? I even know a guy who found out his daughter isn't actually his, and yet he still visits her and loves her dearly. How much more so when it's actual blood, when the child is yours? It is a beautiful thing, and running away from your child (if it is yours) would harm both you and the kid.

To be honest I have forgiven her deep down, it’s more my fault than hers for going to her in the first place but at the same time the thought of raising a child with her worries me deeply. I feel for the child, I feel it’s going to be a battle but I’ll keep praying and whatever way it goes I’ll stay as close to God as I can and things would only get better. Thanks for the advice it’s really appreciated

I’ve recently experienced the full effect of the devil and the result of sinful ways, but I’m afraid I’m in too deep. Years ago I met a girl through another friend and started seeing her. I was raised by Christian parents so I know what’s right from wrong so I’m not making excuses but I found it difficult to meet a woman that I believe was the right one for me, a lot of this is based on the world and life I was exposed myself to. 
When I first met the girl something felt off about her. She was confident and very interested in me in an odd way. I’ve been the shy type of guy for most of my life and she was able to get me to open up to her. as time has gone on I drifted away into the world and even though I pray everyday, sinning slowly became the norm for me. The woman I met was slowly able to get into my head and slowly as she did, I began to fall for her charm and slowly she had a hold over me, I remember having intercourse with her for the first time and crying after it because i felt wrong in my spirit. But this wasn’t the end, over a few years I kept seeing her on and off and I honestly don’t know how it’s happened when I look back at it. I feel as though I was under some kinda spell, then I’d wake up from the spell but then I go through depression quite a lot, and it would be in these dark times that I would be drawn back into her web, the same patterned carried on for a few years. I’d delete her number and then I’d say I’m never seeing her again but then I’d somehow end up seeing her then I’d stay away for another 6 months. It wasn’t till recently I decided that I’ve met someone I believe is right for me by God, even though I’d known this person for a while I wasn’t quite sure  as time has gone on I’ve started to see that she is meant for me. 
I finally decided to cut my ties from this other girl who’s web I was in and then she tells me she’s pregnant. It almost felt like a dream because unlike the other times when I decided it was time to stop seeing her, I was fully committed to removing her from my life and settling down and getting married with the one I love. And it almost felt as though she knew I was gone for good so she sees this as a means of developing a hold on her. Now I know I’ve sinned, I know the word of God well enough to know I shouldn’t have been fornicating in the first place, but I also feel as though she had an unexplainable demonic kinda hold over me which I find hard to explain but when you feel it you feel it. I’ve been to church a few times and have had some deliverance prayers to cut of soul ties and unwanted bonds and things along these lines, and everyday I pray about this situation but I really just wanted some advice. 
as far as the physical goes the bond is completely broken. theirs not a thing in the world that would take me back there again. I’ve woken up and realised what it is for what it is. But this girl is not someone I feel I’m mentally strong enough to cope with for the rest of my life if she is indeed to have my child If indeed it does happen to be mine. I might sound foolish but im really not as foolish as I sound, which is what makes this harder to beat, its like knowing a trap, seeing it but not being able to control yourself from walking into it, and then now your in it you’re asking yourself how could you be so daft, it’s unthinkable, if somebody else was to tell me this happend to them looking at the facts involved I’d call them an idiot. depression is just a terrible thing and can take you to places that when you look back you question how you could scoop so low. I protected myself most times I did see her and she said she Assured me she was On contraception. an accident happened in one of the times I last saw her which is why her claim could be true. She is a girl that gets around quite a lot and could also be lying but she also might be telling the truth. I’ve prayed to God for forgiveness and it’s a sin I’d never find myself committing again and in a way this has brought me close to God again in a way I’ve never been for a long time. But I just wanted to know if it’s wrong to pray to God to not make her the mother of my child, but at the same time I don’t want to feel like im sinning with prayer and make things worst. This girl really is a big problem and theirs more to her than I can say on here without being negative but she’s not great news all round, and I’m certain she saw a prey and pounced and now even her tone and how she speaks has completely changed. Like a person that’s had a mission all along and now they’ve hit their target.  A child is for life, am I wrong as a Christian in praying against any bonds with her or praying against her pregnancy if it is indeed mine, Not saying I’m trying to escape the consequence of my sin but I just feel this will be a complete nightmare with the character I am. Haven’t been able to get a good night sleep in weeks, just been praying a lot and fasting but I once heard a message saying pray that you don’t pray when it’s too late and i feel as though the signals from God was there for me to listen too but I turned a blind eye to it and now I’m on the verge of hell. I know they say theirs always a positive but with this one here ive really bitten of more than I can chew. I look back and think what spirit could possess a man with wisdom to make such daft decisions. Thank you looking foward to feedback. God bless

I’ve recently experienced the full effect of the devil and the result of sinful ways, but I’m afraid I’m in too deep. Years ago I met a girl through another friend and started seeing her. I was raised by Christian parents so I know what’s right from wrong so I’m not making excuses but I found it difficult to meet a woman that I believe was the right one for me, a lot of this is based on the world and life I was exposed myself to. 
When I first met the girl something felt off about her. She was confident and very interested in me in an odd way. I’ve been the shy type of guy for most of my life and she was able to get me to open up to her. as time has gone on I drifted away into the world and even though I pray everyday, sinning slowly became the norm for me. The woman I met was slowly able to get into my head and slowly as she did, I began to fall for her charm and slowly she had a hold over me, I remember having intercourse with her for the first time and crying after it because i felt wrong in my spirit. But this wasn’t the end, over a few years I kept seeing her on and off and I honestly don’t know how it’s happened when I look back at it. I feel as though I was under some kinda spell, then I’d wake up from the spell but then I go through depression quite a lot, and it would be in these dark times that I would be drawn back into her web, the same patterned carried on for a few years. I’d delete her number and then I’d say I’m never seeing her again but then I’d somehow end up seeing her then I’d stay away for another 6 months. It wasn’t till recently I decided that I’ve met someone I believe is right for me by God, even though I’d known this person for a while I wasn’t quite sure  as time has gone on I’ve started to see that she is meant for me. 
I finally decided to cut my ties from this other girl who’s web I was in and then she tells me she’s pregnant. It almost felt like a dream because unlike the other times when I decided it was time to stop seeing her, I was fully committed to removing her from my life and settling down and getting married with the one I love. And it almost felt as though she knew I was gone for good so she sees this as a means of developing a hold on her. Now I know I’ve sinned, I know the word of God well enough to know I shouldn’t have been fornicating in the first place, but I also feel as though she had an unexplainable demonic kinda hold over me which I find hard to explain but when you feel it you feel it. I’ve been to church a few times and have had some deliverance prayers to cut of soul ties and unwanted bonds and things along these lines, and everyday I pray about this situation but I really just wanted some advice. 
as far as the physical goes the bond is completely broken. theirs not a thing in the world that would take me back there again. I’ve woken up and realised what it is for what it is. But this girl is not someone I feel I’m mentally strong enough to cope with for the rest of my life if she is indeed to have my child If indeed it does happen to be mine. I might sound foolish but im really not as foolish as I sound, which is what makes this harder to beat, its like knowing a trap, seeing it but not being able to control yourself from walking into it, and then now your in it you’re asking yourself how could you be so daft, it’s unthinkable, if somebody else was to tell me this happend to them looking at the facts involved I’d call them an idiot. depression is just a terrible thing and can take you to places that when you look back you question how you could scoop so low. I protected myself most times I did see her and she said she Assured me she was On contraception. an accident happened in one of the times I last saw her which is why her claim could be true. She is a girl that gets around quite a lot and could also be lying but she also might be telling the truth. I’ve prayed to God for forgiveness and it’s a sin I’d never find myself committing again and in a way this has brought me close to God again in a way I’ve never been for a long time. But I just wanted to know if it’s wrong to pray to God to not make her the mother of my child, but at the same time I don’t want to feel like im sinning with prayer and make things worst. This girl really is a big problem and theirs more to her than I can say on here without being negative but she’s not great news all round, and I’m certain she saw a prey and pounced and now even her tone and how she speaks has completely changed. Like a person that’s had a mission all along and now they’ve hit their target.  A child is for life, am I wrong as a Christian in praying against any bonds with her or praying against her pregnancy if it is indeed mine, Not saying I’m trying to escape the consequence of my sin but I just feel this will be a complete nightmare with the character I am. Haven’t been able to get a good night sleep in weeks, just been praying a lot and fasting but I once heard a message saying pray that you don’t pray when it’s too late and i feel as though the signals from God was there for me to listen too but I turned a blind eye to it and now I’m on the verge of hell. I know they say theirs always a positive but with this one here ive really bitten of more than I can chew. I look back and think what spirit could possess a man with wisdom to make such daft decisions. Thank you looking foward to feedback. God bless

I’ve recently experienced the full effect of the devil and the result of sinful ways, but I’m afraid I’m in too deep. Years ago I met a girl through another friend and started seeing her. I was raised by Christian parents so I know what’s right from wrong so I’m not making excuses but I found it difficult to meet a woman that I believe was the right one for me, a lot of this is based on the world and life I was exposed myself to. 
When I first met the girl something felt off about her. She was confident and very interested in me in an odd way. I’ve been the shy type of guy for most of my life and she was able to get me to open up to her. as time has gone on I drifted away into the world and even though I pray everyday, sinning slowly became the norm for me. The woman I met was slowly able to get into my head and slowly as she did, I began to fall for her charm and slowly she had a hold over me, I remember having intercourse with her for the first time and crying after it because i felt wrong in my spirit. But this wasn’t the end, over a few years I kept seeing her on and off and I honestly don’t know how it’s happened when I look back at it. I feel as though I was under some kinda spell, then I’d wake up from the spell but then I go through depression quite a lot, and it would be in these dark times that I would be drawn back into her web, the same patterned carried on for a few years. I’d delete her number and then I’d say I’m never seeing her again but then I’d somehow end up seeing her then I’d stay away for another 6 months. It wasn’t till recently I decided that I’ve met someone I believe is right for me by God, even though I’d known this person for a while I wasn’t quite sure  as time has gone on I’ve started to see that she is meant for me. 
I finally decided to cut my ties from this other girl who’s web I was in and then she tells me she’s pregnant. It almost felt like a dream because unlike the other times when I decided it was time to stop seeing her, I was fully committed to removing her from my life and settling down and getting married with the one I love. And it almost felt as though she knew I was gone for good so she sees this as a means of developing a hold on her. Now I know I’ve sinned, I know the word of God well enough to know I shouldn’t have been fornicating in the first place, but I also feel as though she had an unexplainable demonic kinda hold over me which I find hard to explain but when you feel it you feel it. I’ve been to church a few times and have had some deliverance prayers to cut of soul ties and unwanted bonds and things along these lines, and everyday I pray about this situation but I really just wanted some advice. 
as far as the physical goes the bond is completely broken. theirs not a thing in the world that would take me back there again. I’ve woken up and realised what it is for what it is. But this girl is not someone I feel I’m mentally strong enough to cope with for the rest of my life if she is indeed to have my child If indeed it does happen to be mine. I might sound foolish but im really not as foolish as I sound, which is what makes this harder to beat, its like knowing a trap, seeing it but not being able to control yourself from walking into it, and then now your in it you’re asking yourself how could you be so daft, it’s unthinkable, if somebody else was to tell me this happend to them looking at the facts involved I’d call them an idiot. depression is just a terrible thing and can take you to places that when you look back you question how you could scoop so low. I protected myself most times I did see her and she said she Assured me she was On contraception. an accident happened in one of the times I last saw her which is why her claim could be true. She is a girl that gets around quite a lot and could also be lying but she also might be telling the truth. I’ve prayed to God for forgiveness and it’s a sin I’d never find myself committing again and in a way this has brought me close to God again in a way I’ve never been for a long time. But I just wanted to know if it’s wrong to pray to God to not make her the mother of my child, but at the same time I don’t want to feel like im sinning with prayer and make things worst. This girl really is a big problem and theirs more to her than I can say on here without being negative but she’s not great news all round, and I’m certain she saw a prey and pounced and now even her tone and how she speaks has completely changed. Like a person that’s had a mission all along and now they’ve hit their target.  A child is for life, am I wrong as a Christian in praying against any bonds with her or praying against her pregnancy if it is indeed mine, Not saying I’m trying to escape the consequence of my sin but I just feel this will be a complete nightmare with the character I am. Haven’t been able to get a good night sleep in weeks, just been praying a lot and fasting but I once heard a message saying pray that you don’t pray when it’s too late and i feel as though the signals from God was there for me to listen too but I turned a blind eye to it and now I’m on the verge of hell. I know they say theirs always a positive but with this one here ive really bitten of more than I can chew. I look back and think what spirit could possess a man with wisdom to make such daft decisions. Thank you looking foward to feedback. God bless

I’ve recently experienced the full effect of the devil and the result of sinful ways, but I’m afraid I’m in too deep. Years ago I met a girl through another friend and started seeing her. I was raised by Christian parents so I know what’s right from wrong so I’m not making excuses but I found it difficult to meet a woman that I believe was the right one for me, a lot of this is based on the world and life I was exposed myself to. 
When I first met the girl something felt off about her. She was confident and very interested in me in an odd way. I’ve been the shy type of guy for most of my life and she was able to get me to open up to her. as time has gone on I drifted away into the world and even though I pray everyday, sinning slowly became the norm for me. The woman I met was slowly able to get into my head and slowly as she did, I began to fall for her charm and slowly she had a hold over me, I remember having intercourse with her for the first time and crying after it because i felt wrong in my spirit. But this wasn’t the end, over a few years I kept seeing her on and off and I honestly don’t know how it’s happened when I look back at it. I feel as though I was under some kinda spell, then I’d wake up from the spell but then I go through depression quite a lot, and it would be in these dark times that I would be drawn back into her web, the same patterned carried on for a few years. I’d delete her number and then I’d say I’m never seeing her again but then I’d somehow end up seeing her then I’d stay away for another 6 months. It wasn’t till recently I decided that I’ve met someone I believe is right for me by God, even though I’d known this person for a while I wasn’t quite sure  as time has gone on I’ve started to see that she is meant for me. 
I finally decided to cut my ties from this other girl who’s web I was in and then she tells me she’s pregnant. It almost felt like a dream because unlike the other times when I decided it was time to stop seeing her, I was fully committed to removing her from my life and settling down and getting married with the one I love. And it almost felt as though she knew I was gone for good so she sees this as a means of developing a hold on her. Now I know I’ve sinned, I know the word of God well enough to know I shouldn’t have been fornicating in the first place, but I also feel as though she had an unexplainable demonic kinda hold over me which I find hard to explain but when you feel it you feel it. I’ve been to church a few times and have had some deliverance prayers to cut of soul ties and unwanted bonds and things along these lines, and everyday I pray about this situation but I really just wanted some advice. 
as far as the physical goes the bond is completely broken. theirs not a thing in the world that would take me back there again. I’ve woken up and realised what it is for what it is. But this girl is not someone I feel I’m mentally strong enough to cope with for the rest of my life if she is indeed to have my child If indeed it does happen to be mine. I might sound foolish but im really not as foolish as I sound, which is what makes this harder to beat, its like knowing a trap, seeing it but not being able to control yourself from walking into it, and then now your in it you’re asking yourself how could you be so daft, it’s unthinkable, if somebody else was to tell me this happend to them looking at the facts involved I’d call them an idiot. depression is just a terrible thing and can take you to places that when you look back you question how you could scoop so low. I protected myself most times I did see her and she said she Assured me she was On contraception. an accident happened in one of the times I last saw her which is why her claim could be true. She is a girl that gets around quite a lot and could also be lying but she also might be telling the truth. I’ve prayed to God for forgiveness and it’s a sin I’d never find myself committing again and in a way this has brought me close to God again in a way I’ve never been for a long time. But I just wanted to know if it’s wrong to pray to God to not make her the mother of my child, but at the same time I don’t want to feel like im sinning with prayer and make things worst. This girl really is a big problem and theirs more to her than I can say on here without being negative but she’s not great news all round, and I’m certain she saw a prey and pounced and now even her tone and how she speaks has completely changed. Like a person that’s had a mission all along and now they’ve hit their target.  A child is for life, am I wrong as a Christian in praying against any bonds with her or praying against her pregnancy if it is indeed mine, Not saying I’m trying to escape the consequence of my sin but I just feel this will be a complete nightmare with the character I am. Haven’t been able to get a good night sleep in weeks, just been praying a lot and fasting but I once heard a message saying pray that you don’t pray when it’s too late and i feel as though the signals from God was there for me to listen too but I turned a blind eye to it and now I’m on the verge of hell. I know they say theirs always a positive but with this one here ive really bitten of more than I can chew. I look back and think what spirit could possess a man with wisdom to make such daft decisions. Thank you looking foward to feedback. God bless