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Hi. Im going to try keep this as short as possible. Ive been dating my girlfriend for 10 months now. Before we met, i was a born again Christian for 2 years. I made a promise to not have sex again until marriage. Then i met my gf and after 2 weeks we had done it. I thought it would be ok since we are married in Gods eyes (which apparently isnt the case in the NT). But we are both Christian. We live together now, but im starting to get doubts and confused about our relationship. I want to grow closer to God and His Word but out views on certain things are different. For example, I dont like watching secular movies or listening to secular music at all. I also believe strongly in Gods Word and believe that is His guide for us. Wheras she sometimes will compromise and say she just lets God guide her in her heart. Yet His word is our guide. And the bible says the heart is deceptive. We have argued a few times about these sorts of things and its frustrating. I dont want to compromise with Gods Word. Either a person believes the Bible to be the Word of God and obeys it to the best of their ability or they dont. I want to try. And I want to repent for what we have done with our sexual lives and change until marriage. Am I being selfish? She is very soft and i do love her. Im just worried what she will say if i tell her this is what i want to do. I want her to be onboard with me and with making God happy instead of living how we "think" or "feel" God wants us to. I want us to obey His Word and happily do it together. What can I do about this? I need advice from mature understanding Christians please. And we cant marry now because im studying and dont have a job yet. Her fanily is also not very Christian. He mom bashed the bible in fron of me and it upset me a lot. So i got up and walked out their house. Her mom said im rude and arrogant. Because i defended my belief im arrogant? Then im very arrogant. I never once brought up the bible in their house or religion except when her mom brings it up. But she thinks she knows everything and stated the bible could have been written by a drunk lady. Is that a logical thing to say? Obviously not. And i cant sit idly while she bashes my belief and Gods Word for no reason. It was so disrespectful. So that has also now caused a lot of strain in our relationship. People dont want to try obey Gods Word because "its hard". I just want her and I to live the way God wants us to. Not how her mom wants us to.

Hi. Im going to try keep this as short as possible. Ive been dating my girlfriend for 10 months now. Before we met, i was a born again Christian for 2 years. I made a promise to not have sex again until marriage. Then i met my gf and after 2 weeks we had done it. I thought it would be ok since we are married in Gods eyes (which apparently isnt the case in the NT). But we are both Christian. We live together now, but im starting to get doubts and confused about our relationship. I want to grow closer to God and His Word but out views on certain things are different. For example, I dont like watching secular movies or listening to secular music at all. I also believe strongly in Gods Word and believe that is His guide for us. Wheras she sometimes will compromise and say she just lets God guide her in her heart. Yet His word is our guide. And the bible says the heart is deceptive. We have argued a few times about these sorts of things and its frustrating. I dont want to compromise with Gods Word. Either a person believes the Bible to be the Word of God and obeys it to the best of their ability or they dont. I want to try. And I want to repent for what we have done with our sexual lives and change until marriage. Am I being selfish? She is very soft and i do love her. Im just worried what she will say if i tell her this is what i want to do. I want her to be onboard with me and with making God happy instead of living how we "think" or "feel" God wanta us to. I want us to obey His Word and happily do it together. What can I do about this? I need advice from mature understanding Christians please. And we cant marry now because im studying and dont have a job yet.