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If God can forgive you--and it sounds like he has--then your significant other should forgive you as well, just as God has forgiven him. Believe it or not, sin is sin. There are no "worse" sins. Yes, you've come into the relationship unpure, but he is not pure either, in the sense that he has lied before, or cheated, or done anything else sinful. Instead of tallying it all up, he should forgive you and show you God's love. If he can't, I'd question his faith, since forgiveness is such an essential part of a relationship with God. It may take time for him to forgive you, but he should forgive you. If he can't, and he still tells you he feels cheated, it sounds like you need to find someone else, someone who understands what forgiveness truly is.

It's your job as a Christian to show her God's love. It's also your job to confront her (gently, with love) in private. If that doesn't work, take another Christian with you and confront her again. By no means should you help her cover up her affair at all. If all else fails, accept that it is God's job to change her heart, not yours. Pray for her.

Although husbands and wives are allowed to separate for a period of time, it's generally not a good sign. The emotional abuse you're experiencing is also not good. God allows for divorces or separation in the case of abuse (and yes, verbal/emotional/psychological abuse is abuse as well) so take care of yourself and your kids. See a counselor or a pastor, even if you have to go alone, and get advice. I hope everything turns out well for you.

Just trust in God. Pray, pray, pray, and read his word. If you have friends, reach out to them. Remember that God is in control, he loves you, and he wants you to live, so you can fulfill his plan for your life. I'd suggest seeing a counselor too, so you can have someone to talk to about the things that are bothering you. Just remember you're not alone and with God's help, you can get through anything.