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First of all I want to acknowledge your story and your pain. It takes a lot to come on here and admit these things bu I am sure at the same time it is quite a relief. My friend God has already forgiven you! He knew you would do this before it even crossed your mind. The question is do you forgive yourself? See God doesn't need us to repent for his satisfaction. He needs you to repent so that you come to him and realize that through all things he is what gives you strength that he is all you ever needed. Not your wife, not even your kids, nor that feeling of being desired from the female who temporarily satisfied you. Let me ask you a question friend after the affair how did you feel? How do you feel? Did that woman really satisfy that hole in your heart that makes you feel unworthy or undesired by your wife? Probably not because their just as human as you. Do you know what that means? they are just as messed up as you think you are! We all are! No matter how well we look like we have it together the nature of our species is messed up! The point of this life which means every point and moment in your life shows your relationship with God. Even though I think you said you have had a pretty good thing going with Christianity and God I think I can safely assume at some point your relationship with God was not as strong. There are two types of fleshly acts in my opinion that are more on the negative side and that is spur of the moment act and the rebellious act. You see everyone in a relationship with a God can have a spur of the moment fleshly act. This is when you were not expecting something to happen but it kind of does. For example, you use to be an alcoholic and you got to a friends house who you may not have known drinks alcohol and when you arrive you notice a lot of alcohol in the house. You may genuinely think you can handle being around the alcohol because you have not had an urge in forever but then a spur of the moment thing happens and you begin drinking. Many times this happens to people and their relationship with God is pretty strong. They genuinely did not think they would give in but they did and they repent and it is revealed how much more they really need to grow in God. Then you have the rebellious fleshly act. This is where someone consciously knows what they are doing is wrong and knows the danger of their actions might lead them to but they pursue it anyway. I mean every voice is yelling no and so is God but we consciously everyday make the decision to ignore it and do what it is that pleases us. None of these acts are harder for God to forgive but I think the second one is harder for the sinner to forgive themselves for. Also, usually the nature of the second sin causes a breakdown with God in our relationship and also reveals that we are not listening to God the way we should. The first one shows a breakdown as well but I think the spirit of rebellion lets us clearly know that our relationship with God is really almost broken. We have neglected him and in order to neglect something we really do not care for it as much as we would like to admit. Spending time with God not have prepares us for hard situations. It would of prepared you for that hard conversation you would of needed to have with your wife that you are not feeling valued and etc. My friend we have all fallen short and n one is better than you. This is the perfect time to understand the grace, patience, and Love of God even more so you can then begin to spread it and live! Good luck an God bless! Keep praying, fasting, and reading your bible! RUN TOWARDS GOD NOT AWAY FROM HIM! DO NT WORRY ABOUT THE PEOPLE WH WILL RUN AWAY FROM YOU GOD WILL NOT LEAVE YOU! Message for anything!

Hey Hannah! You seem to a kind hearted person who is just so hurt by your parents discomfort for your boyfriend. If I was to offer any advice it would be on the basis of what are your values Hannah and I mean deep, deep values. Do you value honesty? and courage? Do you value Jesus? If you answered yes to all of these things the next question would be how much do you value these things? Would you die for these things? I mean do you value them that much? Hannah only you know the answer. I can also offer you some perspective into why your parents are behaving the way they are. DO you want the down right dirty and disgusting truth? Hannah they are simply scared to death for you. Your parents don't see today but they see forever. You guys may be happy now but lets be honest I am pretty sure there are many relationships that you can have that can make you feel so good especially in the beginning. The parts about him having a good job and etc is all physical and if your are Christian we know that God is not worried about the physical every battle to God is spiritual. It is principles vs principal, value vs value and belief vs belief because ultimately that is what satan is after. The physical part is good now but what will happen when your spirit isn't feeling right like when the serious conversations begin to be had for example if you guys have kids and you want your child to learn about Jesus our God and creator of the world and your husband is disagreeing with you saying he was just another human being like me and you. Do you think that will be an issue? God seems to clearly tell through the bible not to mix principles up and not as a vindictive authoritarian but as a friend. He is saying if you want to live a happy life be with someone who sees happy the same as you. Someone who values what you do! God knows that marriage is a spiritual partnership made for growth. The question is how can you two grow spiritually when you guys believe differently. Now if within yourself you are 100% sure God has told you this is what he wants for you then forget the approval of your parents and what I said. After all GOD IS ALWAYS FIRST! However, Hannah I have a feeling the true reason you might be upset with your parents is the fact that you think they might be right. You don't want to spend 30 years of your life with this person and begin crying one day " God you were right!" Just be sure about your decision.

First I would like to recognize and acknowledge how painful this experience must have been for you. I also want to acknowledge the grace and love of God as I am sure he was your best companion and helped you through this the way you needed to be helped. I do want to say that cheating is one of the biggest deal breakers for any couple. Even if the one who was cheated on does not leave physically they still leave mentally and therefore spiritually. The reason why cheating is such a deal breaker is because we all know the nature of love is trust. the foundation of love is trust. When someone cheats they destroy the foundation of love often times. Even though someone cheats a relationship can still be healed and the two people involved can be happy together again. However, this can ONLY be accomplished if the person who cheated does one thing and that is feel authentic remorse. This is what the sinner who truly desires a relationship with God feels. They feel more than conviction ( the voice that says this is wrong ) but they authentically feel like they literally cannot continue to hurt God anymore in this way and therefore desires change. Even if your ex husband was addicted to sex that is no excuse to be unfaithful. All human beings are addicted to something. People are addicted to eating, bodybuilding, hey I know you even know people addicted to playing the victim ( people who can never see how they contributed to doing any wrong in any situation and always run to the idea of how everyone took advantage of them). Mercy! We all addicted to something my friend. However, when we are really remorsefully we desire change and I believe you never felt like your husband truly desired change and that is why you never trusted him. Amazing story! I know you made it out with a stronger relationship with Christ!

You sound like a good human being my friend who knows his worth! which is a scary concept to many other human beings who can't find their worth in anything that they do. I say grow in the lord and your passions. Be passionate about Christ and life and allow what happens to happen. Don't be afraid at the idea of being alone and so focused on that. Focus more on your relationship with Christ and yourself and humanity and the rest will fall in place. Stop searching and naturally love will find you. In the mean time I really don't think God wanted us to focus solely and put so much emphasis on a romantic relationship I think society has conditioned us all to focus mostly on that. There are many other intimate relationships that you can have. You have your friends, other Christians, worldly people in which you can introduce Christ to, and your family. TAKE YOUR TIME! YOU DESERVE IT!

Welcome to worthy my friend! You seem to be focused on another human being more than you are on Jesus which is completely normal for many people in the church. The beautiful thing about it is that you are aware of yourself doing it! Most of the time people will not even admit that they are more focused on another human being more than God. My friend if I could offer you any advice it would be to ask yourself questions. Do you feel a urgent desire to have children and a wife? If so why do you think that is? Do you believe you will be fulfilled from these things? Do you think this woman will satisfy you in ways to be honest God cannot? If I could offer you one more thing it would be to question why you're in the church? you mentioned you were tired of worldly women. Therefore, could it be that you did not seek God to learn how to love 1 yourself and 2. Jesus 3. love humanity but instead you started going to church for fleshly reasons. Could I be right?