Mookie

Yes, thank you, adoption (although still unthinkable to me) would be far better than abortion. My husband is refusing to talk at the moment, so I've left him and just praying the Lord is working in his heart. If he still insists on this then I will broach the adoption question. There is simply no way I will have an abortion - God is my authority on this and I will stand on His Word. Thank you for your prayers.

I’m writing to you with a very heavy heart and tears flowing as I ask for your urgent prayer for my family. At the age of 41, after spending 6 years being told we could not have children, then through IVF having 4 who are now 5 years, 3 year old twins and one year old, I have found that I have fallen pregnant, naturally, with our fifth child. It was confirmed today. Very early days, I am four weeks pregnant. It came as such a shock, both of us believing it was impossible. And it is not an easy thing to contemplate, a fifth child when life is already so busy and tiring. However I trust God and His provision for us if this pregnancy continues and we have another baby.Unfortunately, devastatingly, my husband is not a Christian does not feel the same. He wants me to have an abortion immediately. He is very angry at the suggestions that he should have to have another child because of my beliefs. His words were ‘this will destroy our family, I am not going to have another child.’My heart is breaking. He won’t speak to me and is just angry. All I can do is pray, read my Bible and trust God. There are few I can disclose this news to.My husband has retreated to a very dark place and has chosen to become very cold and indifferent and I am hurting and alone. Please pray for us. We need prayer and we need God’s mighty hand to work in our family and protect our children.Thank you.

Thank you so much for your response, very much appreciated. I feel very much the same - it's quite difficult though when many around you say you are crazy and should run for the hills! We are leaning toward taking a step of faith and staying here and I pray for the peace to commit to that with trust and faith in our awesome, sovereign God. Thanks again - always good to get objective wisdom!

My husband and I have to make a life critical decision and are currently paralysed in indecision. I would so appreciate any input. My husband is from New Zealand and is a non Christian. I am from Zimbabwe. We met in New Zealand in 2001 and got married - I was not walking closely with the Lord at this time. Despite being unequally yoked, we have a good marriage and he is a wonderful man. We now have four children under the age of 5. A 5 year old boy, 3 year old boy/girl twins and a 1 year old. So life is very busy. In 2013 an opportunity came up for us to come back to Zimbabwe. We had agreed that if such an opportunity arose we would take it as my whole family are still in Zimbabwe and it was a chance for me to come and spend some time with them, whilst he got to know my country and family. The other huge factor was that in NZ we both had to work full time, with children in all day day care. Coming to Zimbabwe has meant I can work 3 mornings a week and spend the majority of my time being Mum and caring for my children. Such a blessing. In NZ we did not live close to my husbands family so had very little practical and emotional support. The agreement was that we would give it 3 years and then decided where to commit to before my oldest son starts school as we don't want to move after this point. We are finding it an impossibly hard decision to make. We believe that being here in Zimbabwe is best for our children now as we can give them so much more of our time, the weather is great for an outdoor lifestyle and they have a lot of extended family support. I have a wonderful community of Christian support and a wonderful church I attend with my children - and they go to christian schools/nursery. We have fantastic friends, family and a great social life. Life is great. We don't do so well financially, we just scrape by, however with the richness of life we have in other intangible ways, we accept this. The problem now is that Zimbabwe is going through a very tough time and the future is very uncertain. Undoubtedly NZ offers more to our children in a worldly sense - educational, university, safety, predictability, future job security......and we have an opportunity to go back and get our old jobs back until the end of this year. Financially we will be much better off and will have the security of living in a first world country with all the trimmings that offers. We also know we can grow old there and be in a country where our children will have the option to stay in and be near us if they wish - unlike Zim where we will likely have to send them away for university and work once they leave school - and could potentially leave us behind growing old in a place where it is difficult medically and financially. So - do we bite the bullet and leave now, knowing I have to go back to work full time and put all my kids in day care, leaving family and friends and a life we love which is just devastating, but knowing that we are setting up and providing for children's future education and career and long term well being? Or do we live for today, and live one day at a time, and trust in God's provision. I know He will provide wherever we choose to live but how do we make a wise decision in this case? I'm prepared to do either as I know God's grace will be sufficient to sustain me anywhere, but either way we have to make a huge sacrifice and we are really not sure how to proceed! Help!!!