Hello,
My husband is having these same spiritual battles ever since before we were married. I told him how many men i had been with before we were married as part of our pre-marital counseling with our church and he said he was okay with that and we never spoke of it again. But ever since I told him he tells me he needs my prayers because he thinks the enemy is placing these evil thoughts about me and my past. He's a mail carrier and often times he's out there on the streets alone in his thoughts and he starts to think about my past and the relationships that I used to have with others and it ends up consuming him. He tells me he prays immediately and asks for the Holy Spirit to help these thoughts cease. He loves me very much and knows that this marriage is his first ministry and so we attend church every Sunday, both attend midweek studies, women and men studies, we even have our own bible studies often at home. He's a man of God and is constantly in the Word of God for help, but even that couldn't stop him from going through my phone last night and seeking "stuff". He woke me up in the middle of the night and showed me emails from me and an old friend whom I was talking to before I even met my husband. He dug back to 2014 to find this stuff and I cant believe the enemy overcame him that much. He said he felt his heart break and then he became angry at me. When I told him he was acting ridiculous he cursed the words "**** you" at me, this is the first time he's ever cursed at me. We have been married for 3 months, but together for 1 1/2 year. I've been praying for him. I dont know what else to do. I love my husband and I dont want this to consume him any longer. We could really use all of your prayers and encouragement. Thank you.
Thank you for the suggestion. In fact, last night I did just that. I deleted every thing that wasnt most current. Update: We spoke again last night in the kitchen table and he was much more resolved and you could tell he felt very bad for his actions of the night prior. He apologized for over-reacting, for the snooping into my phone, and he admitted he wasn't perfect and needed my help, my respect, and my devotion to him. I told him I had been praying fervently for this outcome and the Lord had blessed that conversation. We hugged it out and kissed each other gently. I love my husband dearly and I want to do everything I can to remind him that I am very committed to him and this marriage. I appreciate your prayers so very much, thank you!