Gman24

I really appreciate every one here who is trying to help my wife and me with this issue. Thank you. See my answers to your questions in green.

This is a good point. I am open to anything that can save our marriage and family. I am not sure how to ask her about this, or should I invite her to this forum?

I’m aware of this. She believes the exception was added in the 15th century and is not part of the original scripture. It’s challenging for me to refute this claim since I don't have sufficient knowledge in the subject matter.

When I asked her to share the specific verses from the Bible, she kindly sent me these: Mark 10:11-12 ASV And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away his wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against her: [12] and if she herself shall put away her husband, and marry another, she committeth adultery. Luke 16:18 ASV Every one that putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and he that marrieth one that is put away from a husband committeth adultery. 1 Corinthians 7:39 ASV A wife is bound for so long time as her husband liveth; but if the husband be dead, she is free to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. Romans 7:1-3 ASV Or are ye ignorant, brethren (for I speak to men who know the law), that the law hath dominion over a man for so long time as he liveth? [2] For the woman that hath a husband is bound by law to the husband while he liveth; but if the husband die, she is discharged from the law of the husband. [3] So then if, while the husband liveth, she be joined to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if the husband die, she is free from the law, so that she is no adulteress, though she be joined to another man.

We have had our moments, nothing particularly significant. I must be honest with you; I’m not a believer. The only topic we ever disagreed on was religion. I realize I wasn’t fair to her because I didn’t understand how important it was to her. To me, I was trying to protect her; it’s in my nature. However, I’ve changed since she left. I no longer view believers the way I did before. For the past two months, I’ve been reading extensively from the Bible, visiting Christian websites and forums. I've been talking to my friends trying to understand the whole situation in regard to divorce and marriage. My wife and I still communicate normally. We haven’t gotten a divorce yet. She resides in her own rented apartment. During these two months, we’ve gone out a few times and had a great time together, at least for a short while. She occasionally visits our house and even cooked dinner for us. However, she doesn’t allow me to touch her because she believes our marriage is invalid according to the Bible. She wants to remain friends. She even acknowledged that she comprehends how much it hurts me. I’ve asked her several times if she wants to get a divorce, but she’s never given me a clear answer.

I really need help. Two months ago my wife left me after 31 years of marriage, because I was married before. We have two grownup sons, great family. We love each other, I love her and she told me that she loves me, even after she left. She recently discovered in the Bible that she cannot live with me, because it’s a sin that I brought, because I was married before. My first wife cheated on me with my friend, that’s why we divorced. I could not stay with her any longer. We were young. I even tried to get back with her with no success. She had since married to that man, and they live happily now, as I understand. However, my situation is so different. I’m still in unbelief about what happened. I’ve been begging her to come back. I asked many our Christian friends to help. They all think that was not a right decision for her to leave me. My wife was not a believer when we got married. She became Christian 24 years ago, and all those years she didn’t know about what Bible says about divorce and remarriage, so it feels so unfair to me and our kids. And my heart is totally broken…