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i have a friend who has been living with her cousins ever since her mum died, he r dad has never been there for her, the problem is that she is being badly treated and has been for 10 years, she turned to alcohol and smoke but later gave her life to the Lord. They are simply cruel to her, her aunt who she lives with hates her guts and cudn't give a flying fig about her, when she falls very ill her aunt says she making excuses and is irritated, she gossips about her, makes fun of her even infront of her domestic staff, nobody has an iota of respect for her, but she is really a lovely girl who has always wanted to be loved and to love others. She still lives with them and is to eager to move out, because she simply hates it there, they lock her out of rooms living rooms, are soooo rude to her it's unbeleivable, my problem with her is that it still gets to her and she gets really upset becos her cousins always take her aunt's side and treat her horribly even when they see that she is not treated right, this aunt of hers is her mum's older sister, what advice do you have for her, she ids deeply hurting and i want her to be happy

hey sorry i know how you feel, from my own experience when God tells us not to do somethimg its not to stop us from enjoying ourselves its for our own good, there are just somethings that u cannot know about a guy while you are sleeping with him, it blinds you from seeing who he really is, sex is soooo deceptive, while i was courting my husband and i were very attracted to each other, i would stay d night in his house but we had an understanding no sex! it was tough but u know when we got married on our wedding night it was akward, and we didnt know how to start it, but the story has changed now, we enjoy a happy sex life, what i gained was that with no sex in our relationship, we were able to deal with issues objectively, he has more respect for me and trust, it was like the best wedding gift and we felt free, happy and blessed doing it! while we courted i learnt the difference btwn lust and love, lust will always come to you even when you are married but you nmust know the difference even being married i find other guys attractive, but i love my husband and sex with another man will be different and horrible becos it is only physical and lustful, my husband and i became like brother and sister while we courted becos with no sex we found things to do together and we still do those things till today and this things will make your marraige work! sex is nothing, you can have sex with anybody! sometimes with work and stress we dont have sex for 2 weeks also keep this in your mind 1. a man who cant keep himself beofre marraige will not be able to do that after marraige? what happens when you travel ? or you are not in the mood 2. adultery is fornication in marraige! 3. you will get tired of sex and even your husband it's normal, sometimes discipline makes your marraige work you need to build it now 4. marraige is not a joke, it can ruin your life or bless your life please pray hard let God guide you forget sex now please dont deny yourself this opportunity avoid sex with him ask God to help you fast and pray keep yourself busy, you will thank God afetr you marry all the best

do not let anybody judge you! many people have had bisexual urgies! some people claim to be born with it, some people develop it, but bisexuality is not a lesser or grave sin, sin is sin! we were all born in sin and have been forgiven through christ Jesus, but the problem is Jesus died and set us free from sin, we are no longer to obey the flesh and its lusts we have been set free! nobody has a right to judge you1 i had a serious problem with bisexual urges and it became worse becos i couldn't open up and tell no one, i felt depraved! i found answers through the scripture and God sure detests bisexuality! u need to accept that also accept his forgiveness, enter his love and ask him for grace to walk away from it! Don't worry there is nothing new under the sun, and there are always answers

hi i had a similar problem when i was in college i was always having crushes, but there was a particular one that caused me so much heart ache, i really like dhim and he led me on, until one day i saw him with this pretty girl he introduced as his girlfriend that really hurt me and shocked me and i started feelin like something was wrong with me,but i've come to realise that "a man finds his wife" any guy that doesn't show that much interest in you is just not interested in u, i have brothers and believe me i know when they've been hit by the love bug, save yourself endlss heart break, keep yourself busy, pretty and focused on God, you will feel lonely every now and then but remember that loniless is not the lack of affection and attention but the lack of direction, how important it is for every young girl to have control over her emotions! and stay close to God, you will only meet the guy that God wants for you when you are patient, trustin and prayerful! chill babe! and forget the guy a lot of guys in my own experience are cowards they play too many games! Stay focused!

it is definetly not ok, one thing sexual sin does from my own experience is cut you off from God, and we all need god, i mean he is so great, so loving and his peace is something we should never trade especially for how w e feel i have had bisexual urgies in times past but i noticed anytime it comes into my mind i feel immediately alienated from God and that is one thing i dont want to happen to me, it may seem difficult at first but with discipline and prayer u will overcome every bisexual urge, true peace and happiness comes when we walk with and obey God!

i met a guy in may 2002 we were just friends i had just come out of a bad relationship with a miscarriage and was thrown out of my home becos of the shame i had brought into the family, so i held on to God to heal me, and that's where i met my husband, he seemed very genuine and was a man who loved the Lord, he proposed to me like novemebr 2002 and we started dating, he was a great friend and i loved visiting him, i hated where i was staying and his house gave me the space i needed, i prayed a lot bout our relationship and sometimes i wud feel it was the right choice sometimes i wud feel it was wrong, that made me very scared and troubled, anyways we got married in sept 2004 secretly without parental consent now everybody knows and they are angry even though they threw me out when i needed them the most, it has been a rough road but god has been faithful, when we met we were both jobless but now we are both gainfully employed and i run a fashion business that well, is thriving, but we had a major fight last christmas and he walked out on me saying he was under pressure at work, though true however the bosses that were giving him stres wee all sacked all of them! we have quarreled a lot after that but we are both determined to make it work, my family think i made a bad decision marrying him, being that i am from a well to do family and he is not really, what advice can anybody give me to call of this marriage or stay i am always tormemted about whether i made the right choice we have no kids yet?