I have a 4-year old daughter. I told her one day not to drink bleach: "Don't drink that. Bleach is bad. It will kill you." Am I keeping her in the dark?
God has not decided not to help us. He sent His Son to die in our stead, so that we might have peace in this age and eternal life in the age to come. Just because His way of peace and salvation does not match your own ideals doesn't mean that He's malevolent. After all, He wouldn't be God if He simply did things at the whims of men, would He?
No but if she did drink you bleach you wouldn't stand by and let her die would you - and it would be a slow agonizing death. You would rush her to hospital to make sure she got the medical attention she needed as soon as possible.
Now, if that ever occured and you stepped in and saved her, do you think you have stopped her learning an important lesson? Or do you think you where being a responsible parent?
Most courts would like to know how your daughter was able to get hold of bleach in the first place, to actually drink it. Social Services (or the american equivilent) would be called in, and your ability as a parent, would in fact be questioned.