To see how "loving" this god is, we can always look to the bible to find examples:
Leviticus 25:1 And the LORD spake unto Moses in mount Sinai, saying,
44 Both thy bondmen, and thy bondmaids, which thou shalt have, shall be of the heathen that are round about you; of them shall ye buy bondmen and bondmaids. 45 Moreover of the children of the strangers that do sojourn among you, of them shall ye buy, and of their families that are with you, which they begat in your land: and they shall be your possession. 46 And ye shall take them as an inheritance for your children after you, to inherit them for a possession; they shall be your bondmen for ever: but over your brethren the children of Israel, ye shall not rule one over another with rigour.
So here we have this "loving" god commanding (thou shalt have) us to buy, (of them shall ye buy) sell and own each other as possessions who can be willed to our children as an inheritance. This "loving" god plainly states we can even purchase children to keep as slaves. Bondmen and bondmaids are not merely indentured servants, because they could be owned for life. This god was so "loving" that in one command he institutes not only slavery amongst people, but also race-based slavery. Given that Hebrews could not be owned for life, but could be redeemed after 6 years, while non-Hebrews could be bought and owned for life, we have two separate rules for our slaves, depending on the race of the slave. Of course, this act was not loving enough, so we also find this "loving" god telling us to not covet our slaves and to give our slaves the Sabbath day off in the ten commandments. How utterly moral and "loving" can one be? So you are most definitely correct in saying the biblical concept of this god's "love" is definitely abrasive.
We next find this "loving" god telling us to kill any children we may have who dare to talk back to us:
Exodus 21:17 And he that curseth his father, or his mother, shall surely be put to death.
What could possibly be more loving than that? As a matter of fact, this god is so "loving" of children, he murders them every possible chance he gets:
Genesis:24 Then the LORD rained upon Sodom and upon Gomorrah brimstone and fire from the LORD out of heaven; 25 And he overthrew those cities, and all the plain, and all the inhabitants of the cities, and that which grew upon the ground.
Yes Virginia, "all inhabitants" includes defenseless little children. This "loving" god then kills all of the children of the earth, except for Noah's, in the flood story:
Genesis 7:21 And all flesh died that moved upon the earth, both of fowl, and of cattle, and of beast, and of every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth, and every man:
This god so "loves" children, he even commands Abraham to kill his own son. Now that's "love:"
Genesis 22:2 And he said, Take now thy son, thine only son Isaac, whom thou lovest, and get thee into the land of Moriah; and offer him there for a burnt offering upon one of the mountains which I will tell thee of.
This "loving" god then murders the first-born children of Egypt:
Exodus 12:30 And Pharaoh rose up in the night, he, and all his servants, and all the Egyptians; and there was a great cry in Egypt; for there was not a house where there was not one dead.
Next, this god shows his "love" by ordering Saul to kill all of the Amalekite children:
I Samuel 15:2 Thus saith the LORD of hosts, I remember that which Amalek did to Israel, how he laid wait for him in the way, when he came up from Egypt. 3 Now go and smite Amalek, and utterly destroy all that they have, and spare them not; but slay both man and woman, infant and suckling, ox and sheep, camel and ass.
The "loving" god of the bible is so "loving," in fact, he orders 42 children to be shredded and eaten by bears, simply for calling an old man "bald-head:"
II Kings 2:23 And he went up from thence unto Bethel: and as he was going up by the way, there came forth little children out of the city, and mocked him, and said unto him, Go up, thou bald head; go up, thou bald head. 24 And he turned back, and looked on them, and cursed them in the name of the LORD. And there came forth two she bears out of the wood, and tare forty and two children of them.
Psalms 136 even praises the "mercy" this "loving" god showed by killing defenseless children:
Psalms 136:10 To him that smote Egypt in their firstborn: for his mercy endureth for ever:
This "loving" god even describes the happiness one can find by throwing babies against rocks:
Psalms 137:9 Happy shall he be , that taketh and dasheth thy little ones against the stones.
We can even look to the facts of Roman slavery as it existed when Jesus walked the earth. In Rome, slaves could not own their own children. Slaves were stripped naked and auctioned in public. Raping a slave was a property crime, a misdemeanor, since slaves were legally considered the property of the slave owner. A slave owner could not be charged with rape at all if he raped his own slaves, since slaves were his property. The conditions of slaves in Rome were so bad, that entire armies beaten by the Romans would commit wholesale suicide on the battlefield, rather than be taken and held as slaves in Rome. Yet, nowhere in the New Testament do you hear Paul speak out against the evils of slavery as practiced in Rome. Paul actually tells one slave to go back to his master instead. Nowhere in the New Testament will you find Jesus speaking so much as a single word against the slavery of Rome. Because you see, such a "loving" god knew that money-changers in the temple were so much more important than slaves being raped or armies committing suicide to avoid becoming slaves in Rome.
Now, I am not a god by any means. I am merely a human being who has made mistakes throughout my life. Yet, in the midst of my mistakes and the arguments I have had with other people I have known, not once have I killed the children of those I have opposed. Not once have I commanded that defenseless children should be murdered. Not once have I ever suggested that children who curse their parents should be put to death. Not once have I ever ordered other people to buy, sell and own human beings, including little children, as possessions which could be owned for life. Never would I order bears to rip 42 little children to pieces simply because they called an old man bald-head. Nor would I ever suggest one could find happiness in this life by dashing defenseless infants against rocks.
It appears my ideas of love for humanity differ greatly from the "love" shown by the god of the bible. I hope there are many others here who agree. If the "loving" god of the bible were a human on this earth and committed the acts described above, I would hope we as humans would lock him up and throw away the key for the evil nature of the "love" this god has shown.