brownster82

Thank you all for your responses and advice. I sat down and wrote my husband a letter and told him how much this hurts me, and i also showed him how it hurts God, and by doing this it is not only a sin, but a break in our wedding vows. He didnt have much to say other than ... "Fine I just wont go, are you happy now?" I mean yes it would be great if hes not going, but at the same time I dont think he understands why, he just doesnt want to hear about it anymore. On a lighter note, as I sat in church service this morning my eyes filled with tears, as the pastor began her sermon on lust, and adultry. Go figure, God works in mysterious ways!

One thing I do want to mention is that we are a very young married couple. I am 23 and my husband is 26. We have been married for 2 years.

Well, I dont want to say too much on here... but, actually my husband has had a porn addiction... I dont believe that he is looking at it right now, meaning within the last couple months... but i have had so many heart to heart talks with him and had said he wouldnt look at it anymore cause he knows how much it hurts me, but he did it again and again anyways... I cant honestly say that he is NOT looking at it anymore because i dont know for sure..... but i know he has a hard time not looking... even though he says he doesnt have a problem. I would love to be in the thread... but i would also like to say that i need alot of prayer myself. As for being a christian that is. I dont really want to say a whole lot on this public thread ecspecially being new. But i just need a lot of prayer. Please. I am heading to bed now and will be checking for responses after i get home from church. thanks you

LadyC, Thank you for responding so quickly. I dont know how to answer if my husband knows Jesus. He does but at the same time there is a WHOLE lot of other issues there. I am a protestant, and he is a so called Catholic all though he does not go to church. He does come with my son and I maybe 5 times a year. When my son was born we had talked about all going to the same church as a family. I told him that he being the Man of the house, if he wanted to bring up his family Catholic I would be willing to go to the classes and what not. He never "got around" to taking us to the Catholic church... so my son and I went to my "church of God" My husband is a good guy. He prays and he believes in God, but he doesnt go to church, nor do we have the same beliefs. ( as far as this strip club ) In my eyes he might as well go out and sleep with another woman. Anytime I try to talk to him about how I feel, he says that Im being childish, and that it is a 1 time thing and everyone of his friends and all of the guys in his wedding will be there... but... im not too sure if any of those guys are christians. I myself have a lot of studying to do.. even though i was brought up a christian. So should I just leave it go and pray about this??? Not say anything to him??? To me it says in the Bible to honor your wife... and to me ... whether he understands why i dont want him to go or not he should understand that this upsets me alot, and just for that he should not want to go. He doesnt have to understand WHY. Thanks

Hi, Im new here and just need some advice. My husband is the best man in a wedding and he is planning to go to a strip club for the bachelor party. I totally do NOT want him to go and can NOT convince him not to go. I really dont know what to tell him. I feel that regardless of whether this is for his friend or not he should NOT be going... he is a MARRIED man... I have tried everything... i am so stressed about this... what should i do???