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My fingers are not going to be able to type as fast as I want to get out all I have to say....where are those folks who roll their eyes and laugh inside each time that man says I am going to clean out the garage???? Or I am going to fix that pipe and it still slowly leaks.....you know the day to day things men and women tell each other and never get around to>>>>>>>>>>>>???????????????????? I was venting on the man and his habits....I only WANTED CONFIRMATION THAT I AM NOT THE ONLY WOMAN/WIFE WHO GOES THROUGH HIS "HONEY DO" LIST THAT SEEMS TO BE GROWING LONGER AND LONGER. Ok to the second.....and I may hurt a few feelings here.....black relationships verses white relationships are HANDLED in some cases differently. And I said some cases. I can't think right now of one person who is white and complains of their husband not doing things......and I look at you guys and say I know your husbands are not perfect. LOL......but you never say it out loud that he never gets around to his "honey do" list. I come from a mixed family so I know men and women fall in love who come from different backgrounds.....who cares what color you are in my book just don't treat ME WITH DISRESPECT....and I am in the south.....get it??? For those who read into things I didn't say...this is where I laugh and don't get mad......I say thank you God and keep going...there are folks out there who don't know me and only read the few things I say here....I don't read other posts.....ONLY MY OWN AND HOW FOLKS RESPOND.....I am asking or venting at the moment.....I don't have time to read all the posts and get involved in others lives......when I did read them I noticed how folks GOT OFFFFFFF TRACK of what the the person was posting and therefore I get tired of reading when I knew the person was speaking and looking. It even happend here on this very post....I almost wrote hey wait a mintue this was about me......laughing again. But since I don't know any of you it really didn't matter.

Ok....maybe I am just from the OLE SCHOOL...were the wife told you "GIRL THAT MAN LOVES TO FISH AND I HATE THE SMELL WHEN HE COMES BACK IN....BUT ATLEAST I KNOW WHERE HE IS AND WHAT HE IS DOING"...or "MEN CAN BE JUST AS FINICKY AS WOMEN, YOU WOULD THINK THEY ARE ON THEIR PERIOD AND NOT YOU".....So where are the COUPLES who go through the real things in life? Or is that they are busy and not spending time on these boards? I know too many women who are single and could listen to them...but the key word is that they are SINGLE....I have heard enough of the I hate men stories and they are no good. And I dare say it is a "white verses black issue". I guess I will just have to carry the knowledge of what I learn in church on this one......those have been the most comforting words so far. PS for those who are wondering.....I am a very independant woman....I can tell him yes to the mustang shows....the race track where you go and swap your man stories.... yes I will be fine....me and the kitties are watching our tv shows tonight and we don't mind being alone...something he has NEVER HAD A WOMAN DO BEFORE. He was offended the first time I did that......lol...lol...lol....gee I wanted to watch my shows without having any interruptions......I am still laughing inside at his reaction.

I am not looking...not that type of eye looking around.....but making sure I see things outside of how I would want them...you know the lovey dovey....this is perfect.....no kidding myself and seeing things from all sides....lady C remember this is the same man with the tax problem...and I don't want to look over anything.....which we did his taxes and he is getting a refund .....when he ran them...he was paying and not using the Itimized deductions.... but like I said I am not bouncing because of the prior problems but looking at the details of them very closely....at 42 I know there is no such man as problem free.....

OK HE JUST GOT IN....THE DR WAS GOING TO LET HIS MOM GO HOME WITHOUT SEEING HER SURGEON AND A DOCTOR FOR FOLLOW UP...HE WAS SHALL WE SAY NOT HAPPY.....and to top it off he said I am glad you are home I thought I was going to have to call you my car is still acting up......I was busy typing that last post and felt a presense....we were talking and he was leaning over to kiss me...I was busy typing and he was busy trying to get a kiss....I laughed and said I thought you were reading he said noooo kisss me

On his yahoo 360 page he WROTE a freehanded poem about his mom and how she has been there through thick and thin for him....where no other woman has...and this a good time to say this.....and I screamed inside when he said it.....MY MOTHER HAS HAD A GOOD LIFE.....AND IF IT IS HER TIME.....IT WILL BE HER TIME....ok your mother was beaten and beaten again by two husbands.....and cheated on...who in the world would say that has been a good life....SO HE THINKS SHE IS A GREAT MOTHER....ABOUT HIM TREATING ME....I HAVE YET TO SEE...BECAUSE THE THINGS I GO THROUGH AT WORK...GUESS WHO SAYS YOU MUST BE STRONG TO WORK THERE...I WOULD NOT COULD NOT DO IT....HE IS SUPPORTIVE BUT AT THIS MOMENT....I HAVE ONE EYE OPEN AND THE OTHER...LOOKING AROUND....LOL

on this very site someone said to me to GIVE UP....I will not find a man to marry me at 42....ah duh......I didn't find that to be shall we say nice>>>>>>

June....can of worms have now been opened.....gooooodness.....ok there are thousands of men and women...of which I AM NOT ONE...THAT had kids before they knew the Lord......and now I am sitting here reading that you don't find many healthy relationships out of this....OK...TO THE CAN OF WORMS....men and women after a certain age don't find anyone to marry them at 42 years of age either.....correct????????

HMMMM....SEE that is why I wanted advice from married couples.....in the early stages you can see some things.....relationships take time and energy....you will not agree on all things....and who does....but giving up the first sign of trouble....well anyone else have advice?

my first was YES.....go back and look

Before I respond to the issue, I have two questions for you: (1) Do you know Jesus Christ as your personal Savior? (2) Does he know Jesus Christ as his personal Savior? Yes I do....and as for him he says he knows Jesus....however I looked around in the back of my mind and the only person in that room was his mother saying if he was my time to go I would be going....why didn't I take that moment to take her and ask every one to pray???? That was my fault. I should have done so

Before I respond to the issue, I have two questions for you: (1) Do you know Jesus Christ as your personal Savior? (2) Does he know Jesus Christ as his personal Savior?

I need feedback and fast Recently my guy's mom underwent a rush to hospital only to find out she had a brain aneurysm....which has now been coiled and her health is awesome. God is a gracious and merciful God. Now to his moods....he has gone from very caring and communitive to just closed off and snappy. He told me about four days ago he has mood changes from time to time and for me not take it personal. This happened before his mom's incident. We have spent two long days in the hospital room laughing and talking with his brothers who slept, talked on the phone to others and my guy playing his PSP2....no one was really focusing on the mother that much as she was watching tv. (For the record each time my mom was hopitalized we talked nonstop to each other .....) On yesterday after getting back from the hospital where the mother spent talking to all her other visitors and not to us I asked what he was about to do. A friend of his was supposed to come over and didn't show. He said "woman I have spent all day with you" I turned and looked and said that was not a nice thing to say. What have I done? Matter of fact I spent a hour sleep while you played your game." (my head was throbbing from being in a room where no one was really spending family time like we did from my home) So as we were leaving his mom asked me if I would be working tomorrow and I said yes. So she kinda put together I would not be over to visit. Or so I think. Well I got off from work and told him I would be at the store near the hospital. I sent a text later asking if he wanted to meet me he said no. ( I spent all of 53 cents on two plants dishes the rest window shopping) I sent one back saying good I can spend all the money I wanted to. He sent one back asking what I was buying. I called once I was finished shopping asking how long he would be at the hospital and what time he would be taking his son from a previous marriage home. He said I don't know and why all the questions. I said just asking. (really I would have gotten a time and made sure he has something hot to eat when he got home but with that attitude I never said a word). So later I get this text forwarded that mentions IF YOU ARE FEELING JADED TAKE SOME TIME OUT FROM DATING AND WATCH A BASKETBALL GAME. (he gets these crazy messages from some company on his phone) I sent him a message back asking what the message was for....at this point he has not responded. Now here is your part.....tell me what you think might be going on......THANKS IN ADVANCE.

His RESPONSE is "THAT IS WHAT WE WILL DO." Now once he comes from off the road.....to the pc we will go....singing thanks to you..smile.

Now CHECK this out.....he has a lawyer.....the cost of the lawyer is $10,000 which he would have to pay in order to just pay $500 of the back taxes. He is working for a company which takes taxes out of check. He owes six years of back taxes.

No problem aswering that......his first roommate didn't do their part in paying the upkeep so he was left footing the majority of the bills.....the next roommate is not pulling his load....so instead of kicking his BROTHER out of the home he is continuing to keep his head above water by paying the mortage, child support and the utilites. He drives over the road as a trucker and therefore his brother being there does help with no one breaking in. (He has quite a collection of movies that he uses to relax after looking our for deer each night) So I would say that it has been a struggle to keep all those things paid and not really have much to give UNCLE SAM, I have suggested calling the IRS and setting up payments. IT would not be much but I think that trying to give something would make him look better in their eyes. Does anyone out there really know how back taxes work? That is the information I would like to share with him.

that sounds like a "solver" but going INTO A MARRIAGE....WOULD YOU not MARRY person due to this issue??????

I would like to know when you marry one do you take on their tax burden? Someone planning to marry has a fiance who owes $11,000 in taxes. Does the spouse take on the taxes too? Or in other words, the federal revenue come after the new spouse? I heard in church that she/he does?

This may not help, but when something comes against me I always say this to myself....NO WEAPON FORMED AGAINST ME WILL PROPSER. I cannot say that the company knew this would take place six months later but whether they knew or not look at it as a good faith move. There was a job that your husband must have been qualified to hold so now it may be that God may have something much bigger instore for your husband.

Give your local Walmart a try to get some great fexibilty....and they better treat you right. It is a start to being out there while you get the feel of being around people.

Go and enjoy yourself...be careful and have fun. I would never be married to the man I am now had I not decided to take a mini vacation 2 states away and visit him. the next trip he came here. It was whoever could afford to travel at the time. It is a generational thing. Good girls didn't do those things then. Now we like having some control too. Enjoy yourself dear, and take some mini vacation for me too!

You Go Sis! And May God Have Mercy On The Brother!

I just lost my grandmother on Mother's Day night....she INSTILLED IN ME VALUES AND MORALS. The things she preached to us were never forgotten. I say thanks for your advice. And I can't get enough of the beach!!!!! I don't want to have him move here to the southern piedmont, I want to move to the coast.

THANK YOU and I said it out loud!!!!! That is exactly how I feel!!!!!!!!! THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU

lol I love your answer!!!!! I got a headache at first and then I said this is my chance to have one more shot at being at the coast!!!!! I am going.

Right now I could scream!!!! I was just told by a male friend that I should not take a mini vacation to see a guy. That I should make the man travel to me. I am a woman who gets in my car and goes. I have no kids and my fish will survive until I get back. So even if I were not going to the beach this weekend I would be doing something (I am off for the next three days). He happens to live at the coast and I want to go down. The fact that he lives on the coast is irrevelant to me. It just makes it easier to for me. My male friend told me that I should make a man come to me. WE are new and dating. I could give tons of reasons not to listen to this particular friend but I do not want to tamper your opinion. Would someone just give me current rules and regulations of dating and not GAME PLAYING. I have had enough of games...