Lost*Sheep

There is a simple choice, without excuses. Don't get married unless you are prepared to honour the commitment before God. Get married knowing full well what the expectations are, and honour your commitments, even if it means that you have to place your spouse's needs ABOVE your own.

God's Word makes it abundantly clear what the purpose of marriage is for. Those who enter into such a relationship in a dishonest manner, and then come up with unscriptural excuses to evade fulfilling those expectations rather than dealing with and working through their problems, clearly have an issue with the Lordship of Christ in their lives and are sinning against God.

The selfish one, who in opposition to Christ, says "Not your will, but mine be done".

This hypothetical situation (for whom someone seems to have a very close attachment) illustrates how easy it is for one to be DECEIVED BY SATANS LIES into making excuses and attempting self-justification of ones position when there is a clear example of WILFUL DISOBEDIENCE TO HIS WORD and SINNING AGAINST GOD. This approach to avoiding responsibility for resolving the matter indicates that the problem runs much deeper than failing to honour the relationship with their earthly husband, but clearly illustrates that they dishonour the one they would claim to be their heavenly husband - CHRIST.

It sounds remarkably selfish and stubborn, refusing to yield to God's intended purpose for marriage according to His Word. One has to wonder whether in such a scenario that such a "wife" has been dishonest and deceptive to enter into marriage, and then deliberately withhold intimacy from her husband, because she refuses to address her problems. It conjures up an image of a female Onan, who came under judgement for failing to honour the spirit and intent of the relationship.

[This has been posted here because I was not allowed to post it in the Problems section.] Taking a hard-hitting, reality check of my life in light of Scripture, I am currently dealing with the following issue, and have really lost all desire to remain. (Please note that I have no intention of taking my own life, but this is a reflection of my despair). Dealing with Unfruitfulness in light of Luke 13:6-9 and 1 Corinthians 13:1-3 Options: * The Lord is planning to get rid of me soon (Jeremiah 23:33), as is fitting according to His Word, in that being without love, I deserve to be chopped down and not continue using up the soil, as 10 years is an excessive amount of time to be without any real fruit (in the form of enduring, fulfilling, sustaining, relationships that meet both my needs and the needs of the other party for closeness, impact, emotional support and non-sexual intimacy.) * My barren state of emptiness and nothingness is being prolonged and is deserved ongoing punishment for sin, disobedience, and unfaithfulness. * I was never really saved, and am about to fall as a result of unmet emotional and relationship needs that leave me agonising in unfulfilment, and turning to sinful practices to deaden the pain. * The Lord has something in store for me, that I am completely unaware of, that will provide an answer to my current barren state of unfruitfulness, loneliness, emptiness, unfulfilment, lack of meaning, purpose and direction. * Something completely different to all of the above, showing what a completely clueless moron I really am, who while liking to think I have some idea of what's going on, in reality is that far out of touch as to be embarassing.