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This is about something that bothers and annoys me, but I don’t know if I’m just being too touchy or WHAT? It happens in almost every relationship and situation I’m in, and every social media platform I’m a part of, no matter with Christians or unbelievers. Namely this: Whenever I say, or text/post a simple statement about what I’m feeling (on ANY subject) the immediate replies are almost always a piece of advice or “suggestion” of what I SHOULD DO. But all that I want and need is simply an acknowledgment or validation! Me: I’m feeling sad today because my kids live so far away. Friend #1: Why don’t you go for a nice walk honey, that’ll help you feel better. Friend #2: Have you considered moving closer to them? That’s what I did! Friend #3: Do a video call with them! That’s what we do. Friend #4: I just read about a new support group for sad single parents of adult children, I’ll find the phone number for you! Friend #5: I’m sorry you are sad today and I know the feeling! I struggle with missing my family too. (((❤️HUGS❤️))) SO yes, I am ever grateful for Friend #5 (Thank you!) but she is rare. What do you say to the rest? Do I have a sign on my forehead that says “Please FIX me” ?? I tend toward being VERY annoyed instead of gracious. Sometimes it zaps my energy to reply at all, or try to explain I DON’T WANT or NEED your remedy, and never asked for one. All I need is for someone to acknowledge what I said, and maybe validate that my feeling sad is OKAY. It’s Interpersonal Communication 101, right? (Now I’ll hopefully see who here will “get” what I’m saying, and/or who will advise me!!! 🤪)
