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I am 30 and my boyfriend is 35. We have been together for five years now. When we were 6 months into the relationship, he told his parents about me. And they right away disapproved of the union. We are both Christians. Initially, my boyfriend had assured me that we need not worry and to give them time. And now that we want to get married, his parents still hasn't been opening up to the idea of our marriage. I want their blessings and approval as much as he does. But now he thinks if he married me, it would be dishonouring his parents and that he was willing to leave me. This has really broken me. Because I want us to build a life together. I have tried to reason with him and talk to him about looking to God and that if we seek for his wisdom and ask for his words he would provide us. He seems hesitant and says he can't promise me anything. And that eventually if they continue to disapprove he would leave me. I told him we wouldn't be dishonouring him for going against them because we both want their blessings and all I need is for him to work with me together. I emphasised on the fact that above all things if we continue to call upon Jesus's guidance and his love, we could endure and will wait. I don't know what to do. I haven't been able to stop crying thinking of what I could do to get his parents approval. His parents had told him last Dec, if he has chosen me to marry then they would speak to me first on the phone and arrange a meet up after. But that call never came and when I asked him about it he said their parents haven't made any effort and he didn't want to push him cz they would always end up fighting. I don't know if I am doing the wrong thing by trying to get him to give me his commitment and work on him 's parents approval. I have been praying for this relationship since the beginning. I just wanted to look for other Christians who were much more closer to God's word so they could help me see things. I trust in the Lord's plan but I feel I also need to work together with my boyfriend to get his parents blessings. Edit: I want to reply to Ayin Yade but I don't seem to find the reply section. So to answer your questions. 1. The parent disapproval is basically because they don't know me. Bottomline is they want him to marry someone of their choice. I can't think of any other major reasons than this. 2He's never been married 3. The wait was because of me. I asked him to wait. And in 2019 of Sept we decided we will start thinking of it. 4. His other relationships has ended because of his parents. But he was still living being taken care of by his parents. But he started working in 2007 and he did not have any gf during that time and we started going around in 2015. 5. The culture I live in, is not very common to meet parents. Some do. But this time we tried but his parents changed their mind. 6. We are both Christians. 7. Never been married