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I am that husband! In 2011 my mother passed away, then in 2012 my aunt (just one year older than) passed as well as a same age cousin that I was close with. I needed a lot of attention from my wife but received some but little and only on her terms and times. Having asked for loving attention a letter number of times and hardly received any. I was very upset and depressed. I just lost it and went to a local strip club several times in a week. My with found out and confronted me about my whereabouts and I lied about it at first then finally came clean. She was very upset twice, once for lying and once for going to the club. It took almost a year for her to calm down. Our intamancy was ok but I wanted more and more and she was only when she was ready. Now to 2017, my wife started to feel real bad with medical problems but refused to go to the doctor. Then I slipped, fell and broke my ankle Jan 31 and was laid up and not upright and mobile until June. She pushed through her medical problems and did all she could. In early July I was very interested in snuggling and cudling but we only found time for a 6 day period then her medical problems flared up and everything I did was wrong. My depression and anger was getting to me, she was being very confrontational with family members one-on-one which I could not handle menantely, and I expressed my problem and asked her to stop the confrontations. She did not stop! The other big problem in our house is that my 90 year old father is living with us and requires our attention to feed him every day and some other small problems, all which was hitting me hard in my mind and my wife was not happy about the whole situation. A week ago on Saturday our daughter and grandson was at the house and a big problem came up. I tried to be calm and should have left but didn't. A big confrontation occurred and I lost it and left. I was so frustrated and spent the day going to a couple of strip clubs. Only had any dances in one of them. When I finally came home nothing was said but Sunday morning everything came to a head. "Where were you yesterday?". "I went to girly bars." "Thanks for telling the truth but . .". You cheated on me. You brought another women into our marriage. (43 YEARS) You were told 5 years ago never to do that again. You have STDs and who knows what else. You cheated on me. You broke a motral sin. You will never touch me again. This is the second time you did this to me. MY thoughts on this is that I did not have a sexual affair, did nothing to get any STD's, and I do not consider this cheating. I felt a need for female attention and this was the only way I knew how to get some. We are probably done as a couple - 43 yrs married - I am 69 she is 67. We have tried to talk but every time it ends in a heated argument. Also we have probably had sex 5 or6 times in the last 10 years. I have ED so intercourse is out of the question and I thought that intense snuggling and touching and feeling was hopefully enough for both of us, I know it was enough for me. Should she kick me out. We now know it was a mutual problem, the percentages we agree to disagree. HELP WE NEED OPINIONS!!!!