Guest Sister Lee Posted August 31, 2004 Share Posted August 31, 2004 Oh magster! What a cruel thing to say! The Pastor doesn't speak psychobabble? He isn't a jerk! He is doing God's valuable work. I will pray for you to have your mind cleansed of these thoughts. Sister Lee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Magster Posted August 31, 2004 Share Posted August 31, 2004 Oh magster! What a cruel thing to say! The Pastor doesn't speak psychobabble? He isn't a jerk! He is doing God's valuable work. I will pray for you to have your mind cleansed of these thoughts. Sister Lee Excuse me Sister Lee :x: The pastor was very obviously unable to deal with the situation and therefore sent the lady away at a time when she needed his love and support. Of course he's a jerk! (Apologies if this language offends by the way but I could think of no other word that described the pastor so succinctly.) He was not worthy of the affection that marriedto had, even if it was misplaced. It strikes me that one of the reasons that marriedto is in turmoil at present, is she does surpress her emotions and thinks of others first. Learn to love yourself first and everything else falls into place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Magster Posted August 31, 2004 Share Posted August 31, 2004 Sister Lee, I am not sure that their true feelings need encouragement at this time. They must surely restrain themselves? A good point SM however, in my experience, restraint is usually the perogative of others. It is very difficult to restarin yourself and not at all natural. Self -expression within limits of good taste and decency is a wonderful thing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Sister Lee Posted August 31, 2004 Share Posted August 31, 2004 What are you talking about magster? Your reference to SM can only mean one thing. Marriedtomymaker should steer clear of such perversions. Of course the pastor may have been influencing her that way. Poor woman. More prayer called for. Sister Lee Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tilly Posted August 31, 2004 Group: Junior Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 3 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 92 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/10/2004 Status: Offline Share Posted August 31, 2004 this is indeed a hard and sad thing that has happened to Marrie. It is also very common. Fist of all she has a husband that does porn, and then gets mad at her for falling for the nice kind Pastor, he is not very helpful for his wife! 2nd of all, Marrie fell for the Pastor becuase his kindness attracted him to her, as that is what she needed. It happens alot, and yes, it was a good idea to change churches....but to leave the young lady hanging is also very wrong! I do feel for you Marrie...and ask God to help you through this. You know, you meant well by going for help, just keep searching for help through the word of God, and take every thought that is not pure into captivity. That's a great start! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest marriedtomymaker Posted August 31, 2004 Share Posted August 31, 2004 THANKS EVERYONE... I didn't mean to start a agrument. I think the Lord is saying LET GO of it. And I am not doing the things I need to do to do that. I have not been praying. I have not been reading my bible. I need to get back into the Word and be on my hands and knees again. I don't want to give up on church. But, I guess I am feeling that I need to be on my guard. I need to prayfully ask God to protect me from putting any man above Him or my husband for that matter. It has been a life long battle for me. Wanting the affirmation from men of authortity over me. I know it may have something to do with my dad but I won't get into that. Anyway---I just want to lay that at the cross as well. SO-- I would like to ask for your support , prayer, and guidance for how to start over. I was reading throught the Bible through a devotional through Bible Pathways. But, I discontinued that when all of this happened. I am not blaming anyone for my discontinuing this... Its my fault and I need to go right now and ask for God's forgiveness. I am crying----I just feel so bad for letting God down. "Lord pleasre forgive me for putting someone above You. Please forgive me by the blood of Your precious SOn , Jesus Christ. Lord , I thank You for protecting me. For loving me. I now ask that you would show me how to come to You again....Lord do not allow the devil to make me believe that I don't deseve you or that You do not love me. Lord, help me to see hope in this marriage. Help us to find a church where we can grow and serve You. That is all I want. Now please free me from this . From thinking about my old Pastor. I have been in total bondage and I want to be FREE Lord. I know it is not where I will find lasting joy. I pray this is Jesus Name. AMen" I am trusting the Lord to deriect me now. But, I am wondering where do I start?? Thanks again everyone. So glad I found this site in my time of lonliness and wandering. MARRIEDTOMYMAKER Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tilly Posted September 1, 2004 Group: Junior Member Followers: 0 Topic Count: 3 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 92 Content Per Day: 0.01 Reputation: 0 Days Won: 0 Joined: 07/10/2004 Status: Offline Share Posted September 1, 2004 Marrie, I think you will be just fine, as you look into the word, and watch your thought life. I have a neice this has happened to. She fell for the handsome, kind pastor...and was hooked on her thoughts about him. Now, after a very long struggle, she has a wonderful husband that loves and respects her. she of course, changed churches. Saten knows our weakness, so he has a hayday...when we are weak. God is faithful, and wants us to depend only on HiM, ...He will then give you the strenth when HE knows you mean it. I pray that you will be favored by your husband, and you will have the love you need. love, tilly. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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