katyolemiss Posted December 15, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 17 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/30/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted December 15, 2014 Hi y'all This post is sort of like another one I had but I am sort of stuck on thinking of this issue. i'm 16 and my Aunt (who I live with) and most adults where I'm from expect to hear yes ma'am that just yes/yea when answering adult. My aunt says that this is good manners as well as expected because she is an elder to me as well as authority figure. She said when I don't, it shows "willful disobedience" and I get in trouble. I tell her I forget which isn't exactly true but I don't see why it is needed always. I know some in the chatroom have explained things to me but I was trying to get other opinions also. I don't see it as a big deal but my Aunt does and maybe some of y'all here too? I am learning it's regional. What do you expect when being answered by teens, kids, etc. Ami I just being rebellious on purpose like My aunt says or do you agree with me? Sorry if i'm bugging y'all and thanks for responding. I do know I have a problem arguing back also, but at 16 shouldn't I be able to? My aunt thinks I should say "yes ma'am I understand but may we talk about it further?" instead of just arguing. I think thats overboard! Who is right? Katy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alien224 Posted December 15, 2014 Group: Diamond Member Followers: 8 Topic Count: 82 Topics Per Day: 0.02 Content Count: 1,762 Content Per Day: 0.38 Reputation: 869 Days Won: 2 Joined: 08/09/2011 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/24/1964 Share Posted December 15, 2014 You are to listen to your elders. It is good manners and they will take you far in life. Did you ever read an etiquette book? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Patriot21 Posted December 15, 2014 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 28 Topic Count: 338 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 15,711 Content Per Day: 2.45 Reputation: 8,528 Days Won: 39 Joined: 10/25/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/27/1985 Share Posted December 15, 2014 some of it does depend on where you live, what is considered ok, and what is not. Obviously, your aunt-who is by your own admittance your elder and authority figure (you live with her, your a minor, your under her care) thinks its something you should do. And even in areas where its not required-no one is offended by saying yes maam, unless done so sarcastically. And it won't hurt you to follow her rules, its one extra word, and in reality, by lying to her (thats what your doing when you say you forgot and you didn't) your actually showing her disrespect. If you truly respect her-then you should have no problem adding ma'am to your yes. It won't hurt anything-take .02 seconds out of your day, and it will make her happy, and your life easier. I can't think of a single reason not to. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katyolemiss Posted December 15, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 17 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/30/2014 Status: Offline Author Share Posted December 15, 2014 alien YES I HAVE!!!!!! Doesn't cover using ma'am and sir though! I mean, what do you expect?" Is it important in your opinion. Sorry for sounding mad, but i do have manners! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
The_Patriot21 Posted December 16, 2014 Group: Worthy Ministers Followers: 28 Topic Count: 338 Topics Per Day: 0.05 Content Count: 15,711 Content Per Day: 2.45 Reputation: 8,528 Days Won: 39 Joined: 10/25/2006 Status: Offline Birthday: 02/27/1985 Share Posted December 16, 2014 I believe you katy, and the rules change where your at, but the basic rule of thumb is just that, it changes where your at. If where your at wants yes sir or yes maam that means do that! if it doesnt it doesnt. If its considered polite to say yes maam and yes sir, and you dont, then you are being rude. Its as simple as that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katyolemiss Posted December 16, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 0 Topic Count: 4 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 17 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 11/30/2014 Status: Offline Author Share Posted December 16, 2014 Yes sir your right I don't know why it bugs me so much, just does, But you are right! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mandi Posted December 16, 2014 Group: Members Followers: 1 Topic Count: 1 Topics Per Day: 0.00 Content Count: 11 Content Per Day: 0.00 Reputation: 4 Days Won: 0 Joined: 12/14/2014 Status: Offline Share Posted December 16, 2014 I grew up in the South and that's just what we did. I teach my kiddo's the same thing. It's just polite to say "sir" and "ma'am." It was so ingrained in me that I called my drill sergeants that. They didn't like it so much...I ended up doing lots of push ups...but it's all good. I still say that to older people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted December 17, 2014 Share Posted December 17, 2014 I say it all the time. Some people don't want me to say it to them, but it's just a habit, I guess. It shows respect, but I was just raised to say it. Young people today don't think that they need to do it any more, that it is old fashioned. But young people (not all) don't really respect anyone, not even themselves. That is proved by the sexting, and all the selfies they post, and all the "free stuff" they expect from the government (the tax payer). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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