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Expectations....Most of us have them don't we??

No matter what kind of a relationship it is.. whether it be family, friend, spouse, lovers, and even work related.. We seem to think that people should automatically know how to treat us, how to fulfill our needs and when and how to do it..But the truth of the matter is ..most people don't..Not for lack of love for us or anything like that but simply because most of us treat and deal with each other the way we would expect them to treat and deal with us. I think we sometimes think "If I would do this for you then why didn't you do this for me".. It can lead to alot of disappointment and sometimes alot of it is unnecessary..

I have been finding in my own life how I would expect others to "just know" and when I see that they didn't it disappointed me and at times really broke my heart.. But could have most of that disappointment been avoided?? Yes, I believe it could have..

No matter how close of a relationship you have with someone the more crucial communication comes into play. And all the "assuming" needs to end.. You can't keep assuming that someone is going to know exactly how to treat you and what to do for you to keep you happy and to meet your needs.. Unless you communicate that.. We do teach people how to treat us whether we are aware of that or not.. And even if they are aware there will still be some areas in which they cannot deliver.. Whether it's a matter of them not being built that way .. meaning they just don't think that way.. what works for one doesn't always work for another and until we learn to want to understand who these people are that we find ourselves in relationships with, then we will always have some sort of disappointment with them .. No one is a mind reader and no one thinks exactly as we do ...

Having expectations in general isn't always a bad thing..For we do expect to be treated well, and with respect.. But when your expectations are up way too high and you're not focused or even remotely interested in knowing about the person you're around then you may need to make some adjustments and/or learn how to think differently about the matter.. Maybe not be so inclined to always have your needs met all the time..You may not know it but just because we all have needs doesn't mean they are the same.. Some of us require more security than others.. some of us like to have more alone time, some like to not be alone..whatever the case may be.. it is up to the individual to communicate and compromise. Relationships of all kinds take work.. Just because you're committed doesn't mean it's easy.. Just because you're family doesn't mean they truly know you .. etc..What's important to you ..may not be important to them.. We have to stop expecting people to be more like us and respect them for who they are

We all grow,we're all learning and we all change and go through changes.. it's about being real and being open to those changes and truly taking the time to understand one another.. Life doesn't have to be complicated... so why make it that way...

His two front teeth ...

What did the dog say to the bull ?

Look on the bright side.. at least you're not called an ass ((( can i say that)))

why do turtles move so slow ??

Red Robin.....YUM...

what did the horse say to the donkey?

Don't believe we have spoken before... it's nice to meet you and great to hear how God is working in your life... He keeps me in awe whether in my own life or seeing how/what He does in someone else's... Many more blessings to you and your family.. With God everything just works better even when we can't quite see it at the time... )

It's afraid of the dark..

why do flamingo's have big feathers

Because it stole the glow worm's glower..((battery))

what did the squirrel say to the woodpecker?

I heard a remake of this some time ago.. wish i could remember who did it .. but i absolutely love it.. ))

For me it is a soft voice that I hear in my gut.. sometimes it's just a knowing feeling not so much words..

Because everybody runs on Dunkin's..

why do rats like sewers.??

Great reminder ...Thank you Fez )

Wow!!! Amazing.. it gave me chills ))))))

That was beautiful ... )))

and Enoob..LOL... you are too funny .. love the photo work

Because they don't make chairs big enough .

why do ants hide underground?

Because it's an all you can eat buffet..

Why do squirrels have fluffy tails?

To get back at the dog for howling all night...

why does a dog hide his bone?

Really wish I could give you a quick fix.. but I too deal hard in this area.. Been learning a thing or 2 and have been making progress but have to admit there are those days when i truly wish to crawl under a rock..

The best way I can say it is when you get that negative thought.. you need to quickly dismiss it... just tell yourself that you do not accept it.. you may have to do this many times during the day .. The enemy certainly knows what buttons to push and i hate to admit it but there have been times when i have listened to them and even for a minute believed them.. Sometimes they get so overwhelming strong that it takes all i have to get it under some sort of control.. Usually some good music to take your mind off of what you're thinking can help.. But with what you said about focusing on the good things and the Word is definitely a step in the right direction in purifying your heart and getting control over your thought..

The mind is very much a battlefield but with anything that you give practice to it does get easier..

The tadpole stole all the lily pads

What made the cricket stop singing??.

They think they're bandits..

Why does the giraffe have a long neck?

I used to believe that when praying I had to always kneel and use all kinds of eloquent speech.. Granted kneeling is being respectful and i understand that.. But I talk to Him as if i was talking to anyone else.wherever and whenever i can ... I am learning more and more to let Him into every area instead of just certain things..

He saw the worm on the hook...

Why was the rabbit wearing shoes

(lol..im running out of questions ))

She's desperate to catch a mate..

Why was the dolphin laughing?

DISREGARD THIS ONE..NCN BEAT ME TO IT

To make the other fish think they're smart..

Why do birds flock together??

That one was already asked Lisa...

:taped: ..lol.. my bad.. there's so many to remember ..

To make the other fish think they're smart..

Why do birds flock together??