Rosiegirl3

This sounds similar to the church I just left. Ask God for a clear sign about His will. When my husband and I prayed about leaving we asked God to show us one specific sign if we were supposed to stay and one specific sign if we were supposed to go. The Lord VERY clearly showed us the sign to go. So that's what we did, we are so happy now to go to another church and are looking forward to growing there.

Thanks guys!

Ps. The main thing I wish he would do is ask his boss to simply pay his paychecks on time and communicate better. My husband seems to think this is too delicate to bring up and is afraid of making his boss mad. Grrr.

Hello all, new here and hoping for some biblical advice. My husband is definitely not a man's man but he is really good at loving The Lord and loving me through his actions and words. My problem is that he doesn't stand up to defend anything pretty much ever. He is very passive. We recently left our church (he had been attending for 15ish years) after major drama with the leadership not acting in accordance with the bible. It took a reaaaally long time for him to come to the decision with a lot of pushing from me but ultimately a clear cut prayer for the Holy Spirit to give us a direct answer. When we got married (and even now sometimes) he does not actively protect me from his mother and her drama. (She's not that bad, just really needy and that creates drama). He just seems to think drama should not exist therefore he doesn't need to deal with it. Lastly - and this is my current issue - he has been working for a guy who treats him like he's nothing. My husband works really hard for this guy's business and out of 17 paychecks this year, 4 have come on time. 3 in a row got missed and were finally paid a month late, and 1 from May is still missing. The boss will set up skype meetings with my husband and then just not show up - with no communication before or after about not attending. The boss is constantly getting sidetracked with new projects and ways of doing things and my husband just goes along with it even though it is really hard on him and ultimately not good for the guy's business. He ignores my husband's advice and expertise even when he asks him for it in the first place. My husband will also write emails to his boss with questions about current projects and never get an answer. I know my husband feels like this is a good opportunity in his industry to work for this guy, but he is so stressed out all the time trying to keep up with the boss's crazy antics and live up to his own as well as his boss's high expectations. I have been gently hinting that maybe he should look for another job or just stick up for himself so this crud stops happening, but he just shuts down and gets all moody and does nothing. I think this is immature and a wimpy way of avoiding conflict but I can only say so much to him without being disrespectful. I pray for him all be time with these issues but I'm wondering if there is something I can say or do to get him to get his butt into gear to stand up to people when it's appropriate and necessary. HELP!?

Praying for you!

So helpful!