My wife started looking into my past and is having major anxioty of the fact that I may have a son through a teenage girl friend. The old girl friend says she had a test and beleived that her boyfriend before me was the father this was in the late 80 s. He is now 25. My wife confornted the x girl friend with her concerns and the old girl friend assured my wife that she had a test, she said she would send a copy of the test to us. She said she lost it now and it has been about 3 mths and she wont talk to my wife anymore.
This has caused major stress in my wife and I s relationship my wife is experienceing major anxioty and depression about this. I need to help her. I think my wife feels robbed of part of her identity as being the only mother of my children we have 3 and have been married for 23 years.
From my point of view this whole experience has been a designed stuggle by satan to break us apart. I still beleive the old girl friend and really dont feel a tug to follow this through anymore. She however seems unable to work through this. I dont want to bring anymore destrution out of this by confronting the mother or son about this. He grew up knowing and loving a relationship with his father.
I need to do something to help my wife out of this hole she is stuck in ( she just wants to know so we can move on through this and she can be releived one way or the other we will get through it , but just not having an answer is what is killing her.
Should I write a letter directly to the son asking for a DNA test or try to get the mothers consent ( the boy is 25 years old now ) I just cant figure this out and have yet to have an answer through prayer and medition. This is my first time reaching out I have a good christian friend I will be consulting also
Please respond as soon as you can
Thanks