Life can be a guessing game, a chess game or a tiring thinking process of what that person's next move may be. I'd rather walk my walk as giving love and trust.
Submitting to The Lord all that we have to give can take quite a while. In Romans when it speaks of yielding, (Romans 6:13) it seems to be a more immediate, quick surrender.
When we think of things to say to others, it's sometimes wise to keep the pinky finger on the backspace key to be as kind as we can be before saying what we first think we want to say.